rant: i hate my firetrucking sister so much... *CAUTION:STRONG LANGUAGE*

[Col.Random 3,683]

This rant is going to be kind of serious and will have a lot of strong language and bullying/abuse related stuff so you should leave if that will make you uncomfortable, but firetruck i need to get this off my chestTo quote what my mom says "what crime did i commit to deserve her as punishment?".It's been years since my dad died, but he was kind of a dick, but he wasn't that bad either at times.Either way, you know when there's a big angry man in the house people don't usually have the balls to try and bully anyone in that family? (unless these people are powerful)Well it turns out people who are part of the family also don't have the balls to bully another family member, especially when the son has always been a pathetic cowardly midget piece of shit who always tried to avoid conflict and confrontation partially because he's a coward and partially because he's cursed with the ability to predict how badly a situation can escalate if a fight starts.So my family has a load of problems, external and internal. The external problems are the primary reason we cannot get rid of her and have to tolerate living with her.She's been temperamental for as long as i can remember, honestly i think i'm the only person who didn't have a temper until recent months; a guy breaks at some point. Anyways, since dear ol dad decided to die my family ended up dealing with a lot of shit from his relatives and it's been 6-7 years of this bullshit. Since there's no one around to keep this bitch under control she progressively felt she could more freely express her anger. I don't mind someone taking out their frustration, i mind when they take it out on people i love.She would always just speak in such a rude manner to us. Sometimes i would just knock at her door to tell her to get ready because we were going out to dinner or something and she would just rudely yell "WHAT IS IT?", but i was a passive little bitch so i wouldn't say anything. Over the course of 6 years this may have happened over twenty times, but oh that's not all. She talks to my mother rudely as well, but she wont' talk to my other sister that way because she has a habit of not tolerating that shit so my older sister is scared of picking a fight with her. ( I should've been more like her from the start).She's also extremely inconsiderate. If she needs to borrow your laptop she'll barge into your room in the morning while you're asleep. She tries to sneak into the room but she's a firetrucking cow so it always wakes me up. I'll admit i don't think she does that on purpose, it;s just that she's too firetrucking stupid to tell how inconsiderate she's being, but if you point it out she gets offended. In the summers she'll sometimes take the only bottle of cold water upto her room without even thinking about whether there's other people in the firetrucking house. If she was a man i would beat her upSo lately her life's been a genuine mess and she frequently picks fights with my mom over a bunch of things and it always really really hurts my mom the way she talks to her or blames her for some of her childhood problems.Naturally when you've seen someone make your mother cry  and be depressed several times you develop a certain level of hatred for her.But i'm a firetrucking useless midget who cares too much so i tolerated my sister's bullshit for years because i felt bad for her and some of the shit she's been going through and i even tried to be nice to her and help her.But as time went by, my patience started dying out. I became less and less of the gentle, light tempered boy who just wanted to keep his family together and i became more of the violent and blunt person who feels like his sanity is deteriorating.Today she was talking to my mom about our old nightguard back in the house we used to live in. She's convinced this nightguard is leaking information about us to our enemies and told mom to fire him. Now my mom is a gentle person so she doesn't want to fire the guy instantly so my sister started bitching about how she needs to stop being lenient.FINE she had a firetrucking point, but the way this piece of shit says it is really rude and that's what pissed me off.She always speaks to mom like a bully. Everytime she fights with someone she starts being a complete bitch and  THE VERY NEXT DAY SHE ACTS ALL NICE AND SHIT.THIS BITCH IS THE DEFINITION OF ABUSIVE PERSON.So anyways back to that nightguard argument she does her usual routine of being a prick and then goes upstairs to her room and my mom went to hers (probably to smoke as mom usually does that when she's stressed or depressed)At first i decided not to do anything since i have an exam tomorrow, but i couldn't focus. I was so pissed off, it's not like this was the first time, she may have behaved like this more than 50 times now and i do not exaggerate with that number.So i said to myself, "Taha you're a firetrucking coward, how long will you let her do this without consequences? If anyone else spoke to your mother that way you would break his ribs, but why do you tolerate this one person who truly deserves nothing?".As soon as that thought popped into my head i rushed upstairs, knocked on her door and told her "you need to stop being so rude to mom, don't ever talk to her that way. I've had enough".Being the annoying whore she is she just rudely tells me to go away and proceeds to close the door.In that moment i sort of lost control of my temper and i grabbed her arm pretty tightly, at which point she tells me never to touch her that way again.I told her i am getting sick of her behaviour and she bitches "oh you're going to raise your hand on me? you suddenly have the balls to?" so i told her "don't tempt me!".At this point she began pushing me but i wouldn't budge and asked how i would dare hit her. I told her she used to hit my younger sister to several years ago whenever those two would get into a fight (guess which whore was responsible for most of those fights?).She mockingly laughs at the way i say it with a sort of stutter( i'm not good at fighting verbally or remembering things) and tells me to get out of her room and then tries to push me a few times. God i wanted to punch her in her firetrucking face so badly and i absolutely hate violence against women so i hope that gives some perspective.After that she closes her firetrucking door and i storm off, calling her a bitchI just can't take it anymore. I just firetrucking can't. Everytime, for the past few days i see her face the urge to punch her had built up inside me and the fact that i hate the idea of hitting women  and the fact that we need to keep this family in one piece until our stupid issues are resolved are the only things keeping me from beating her up.I just don't know what to do, i feel like living with her is slowly destroying mine and my mother's sanity. (My other sister was smart and went to live in korea so she doesn't have to deal with this bullshit.)I feel like, because of her, i'll grow up to become some violent woman beater and that would be the ultimate dishonour for me. I hope she dies i really do hope that when i wake up tomorrow morning she somehow dies of diabetes and rids us of her bullshit. It's gotten tot he point where we would just bury her anywhere and celebrate our freedom, but life is cruel so she'll be alive tomorrow ready to pick another fight about how her stupid firetrucking ego was bruised because someone several years younger had the balls to stand up to her.I've seen this bitch make my mother cry, be depressed, be stressed out and feel extremely hurt and i just wish i could punch her for all the pain she's caused.And the worst part is we live in a shitty country with no justice system and certainly no security or healthcare crap. I would love to just drop her off in an asylum or even make her go live somewhere else, but... let's just say there is no good option other than calling a truce of sorts where we NEVER speak to each other again, but also avoid fighting until our problems come to an end.Now i'm going to pray to God that she dies overnight or something and then go to sleep. It seems like our problems have no end to them

[Trece the Xam ( ▀ ͜͞ʖ▀) 3,859]

I'm sorry to say that there's not much that can be done since apparently your family must be all together. My mother would've kicked her out so long ago. I would've done so too, even if it was the worst thing that could be done. For not having done so and not hitting her, I congrat you, I honestly don't think I could've stopped myself.

 

The only real thing you can do is force her to not speak unless she's going to do so without harming anyone. She's probably not even bringing money home, there must be a way of threatening her without having to use violence.

 

 

Sorry, I know I couldn't help much, but I lack the time to actually post here, and I honestly can't think of what could be done to solve this

[DoDo4869 301]

I... don't really know what to say.... I feel so sorry for you and your family

 

I think it's good that you didn't hit her, violence isn't always the right way...

 

I don't know what you could do with her... except for trying to talk to her, maybe as a whole family and make sure that she really knows the consequences of what she is doing. Maybe she'll stop being the way she is?

 

I'm so sorry, i have no real idea how i could help, i feel so bad know

[Penny 128]

I am sorry that this happened to you and your family, but I know that my apologies won't make anything any easier. Just know that you are doing the right thing, try to stay out of her way, although that may seem stupid. It's never a permanent situation, maybe one day your mom will stand up to her and kick her out. But for now, unfortunately although she hurts your mom, unless your mom does something you can't really do anything unless you really want to throw the first punch. Just work on keeping yourself sane and following your sister's example and removing yourself from the situation as much as you can at whatever age you are. If you ever want someone to just talk to, to get away from it all, I am almost always on here. 

[HarLea Quinn 26,501]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Venting is great for the soul and can help you deal. Just know that everyone goes through hard situations and it's normal to feel anger and frustrations. I also know it must be hard to see your mom hurt and disrespected. I can tell you this though- it seems to me that no one has put much boundaries or limitations on your sisters bad behavior and in my own personal experience bullies never stop unless you establish boundaries. If they know they can get away with bad behavior and there are no repercussions they have no reason to stop and won't. You should not allow her to speak that way to your mother and your mother should also put her in her place as the head of the household. Violence is never the answer and I already know you know this so if you feel the urge to hit her walk away and talk to her later when you are calm and in control of yourself. I know you are a great person with a great heart - we have talked privately before and if you need to talk message me and I'll be there for you. Please do not belittle yourself bc you are just learning your way in this world and through your problems and we all live and learn as we go.

[Iris 223]

Wow...um I feel really bad for you. I kinda got angry when you mentioned your sister disrespects your mother. No daughter should do that to the person who gave birth to them.

 

Darn, if I were your mother I would dominate her and shut her mouth.

[MythrilMagician 6,963]

Wow, just wow. I've never heard of anyone so cruel. It's really unfair. Your mother and you sound like such good people and yet you are forced to deal with someone so awful and unjust like your sister? I'm sorry that you're going through something like this.Your sister really needs to learn the importance of mothers. Your mother naturally gave up so much for your sister and you and this is how she repays her? By being an ungrateful, undignified firetrucking bitch? It's just not right. Anyone who does this to their own mother should be punished in some way or form. Either you and your mother leave or you force her to move out herself. See how she likes living on her own (and if she is unemployed, that'll make it better). She really needs to be taught a lesson. No matter what happens, you just don't speak that way to your mother.I hope that your situation resolves soon, because neither you nor your mother deserve this.

[Awesome Sauce 634]

Someone should go to therapy, anger management and in general learn to calm the firetruck down and be nice. I don't understand why or how she dares to be rude to just about everyone, but she shouldn´t be a pain and instead help you recover from your father´s death. Your mother should exert her authority over her and stop tolerating the rude remarks. Honestly, after all that, how could you call her your sister? If that's her way of venting her life problems, then she needs to control her anger and not be so bloody toxic. This is absolutely, as I like to call this kind of situation:

 

Bullshit

[Christmas Past 61]

Damn, I don't even know how to properly react to this, this is really messed up and I actually got pretty mad from reading the things your sister would do to the point where I clenched my fists. I've never experienced or have seen this type of abuse so I'm not the one to really give advice, but the best thing to do right now is to not let her destroy your family's mentality. From what I'm seeing she is a toxic/abusive person who constantly harasses your family, Like some have said above, work your courage to remove her from your home. If she can't live properly with you and your mother and terrorizes you guys instead of loving you like actual family, then she has no right to be living in that home. Heck with the type of harassment you can actually get her arrested, and if by then she doesn't learn how evil she's being, then something is seriously wrong with her(no offense).Here's wishing you guys hope that everything will eventually be ok.
 

Edited May 17, 2016 by North Winter