Urgent Girl Crisis ( Please give advice )

[Jack Sparrow 160]

Ahoy everyone,

 

Please, no Jack Sparrow references. This is real, and this isn't a joke.

 

Alright, I have a crush on two girls. The two girls happen to be best friends. Last year, I wanted to learn more about them. I, attempted to get friends of there's to go help me learn about each one, so I could, of course, pick one. I tend to look at girls a tad bit too long. Little did I know the people I asked to help me told them lies, and completely ruined any chance of a relationship.

 

The two girls both think of me as a perv, and a wierdo. We've spoken a decent amount BEFORE the incident happened. The rest of the year was completely awkward. Now, going into a new school year, I come in and one looks at me like she despises me, every time she see's me. The other, looks as if she doesn't even care.

 

My friends tell me to move on, to find someone else. But I can't. I like them too much. I have no classes with either one of them, and I have 30 minutes everyday before class school starts. They have there little posse of girls, and I'm the awkward type. I am shy, and I've thought of many solutions. I wanted to write them a letter, but I thought they'd take it in a creepy way. 

 

I then thought of asking one of there friends, but in fear the same would happen, I still did not do this. I have so many doubts. I want to do something easy. Something, that no matter what, it can't get worse. I really, really like them and I can't help but think of them so much. I'm a bit awkward, and I fear of something terrible happening.

 

It's been around a year since the incident happened. So, writing an apology letter might bring up old wounds.

 

Can anyone please give me some useful advice? I would greatly appreciate it.

[Danex Darkfire + 1,712]

Two things. One, it's probably best to just choose one girl instead of hitting on both of them, and two, relationships are a tad overrated and expensive, so i'd just stay single

[Sora_Roxas26 124]

Dude, seriously? Don't you have any self-esteem at all? First of all, if you look at 2 girls, and can't chose, the answers either neither, because you should feel like you have to be with that ONE person, now the other answer, thats nothing you have to worry about, but your friends are right, move on, they don't like you at all, none, zero, it will not work, move on, you said you have zero classes with them, which is perfect, you don't have to see them all the time, find a girl, thats in one of your classes and chase that skirt, but not for over a year, never that long, never anywhere close to that long, if it takes a year, and you're still nowhere, that means it was never ever gonna happen, theres tons of women around, go find one that actually likes you, for you, thats the girl you want, you want the girl who likes you, like you like them

[Reflet 201]

Okay, first, you must really be desperate to come and ask a site full of strangers for help qith this thing, but why not try talking with a grown-up?

Second, I don't know if you are in Middle School, Junior High, and you could be in any part of the world or anything else, and that is important because there's this type of schools were Social Life is the one thing that matter and people there will jidge you for what you do or when you do it. I'm an 8th grader, I was in a situation like this one time and it was not so long ago, you could PM me if you want help or anything

[Sora_Roxas26 124]

Okay, first, you must really be desperate to come and ask a site full of strangers for help qith this thing, but why not try talking with a grown-up?Second, I don't know if you are in Middle School, Junior High, and you could be in any part of the world or anything else, and that is important because there's this type of schools were Social Life is the one thing that matter and people there will jidge you for what you do or when you do it. I'm an 8th grader, I was in a situation like this one time and it was not so long ago, you could PM me if you want help or anything

you are only in 8th Grade, and have never had a relationship, you can't really give advice 

[Reflet 201]

you are only in 8th Grade, and have never had a relationship, you can't really give advice

I know that, but don't judge me for my age or grade, I've experienced more of the thing you would think...

[Sora_Roxas26 124]

I know that, but don't judge me for my age or grade, I've experienced more of the thing you would think...

suuuure

[Reflet 201]

suuuure

Meh, then say whatever you want, this IS the internet after all...

[VisitJoan 2,713]

I would just be outright and tell them what happened, and if they react badly, it might just be time to move on.  Their friends either told you lies because A) they thought it would be funny to see you mess with them, or B) the girls don't like you in return and they were trying to get you to leave them alone.  Either way, if you do get into a serious relationship with one of them you will have to deal with the friend that told you lies.  It might really be in your best interests to lay ow for a while.

[Think Pink 1,967]

Well, I know it's not what you wanna hear, but I think you've just gotta let these girls go. If it's not working out at this point then it's unlikely it ever will. I'm sure there are other girls out there who you'd be able to have a great time with, so I think it's best to pursue those relationships instead of wasting time on girls who it probably won't work with. I think you'd be a lot happier if you just moved on and found a new crush (or just focused on yourself for a while!)

[Lalalablah 1,538]

Yeah don't go with writing a letter, unfortunately many people would think that's weird. Realize that in the end, if things do work out, you will have to make a choice between the two and that could be problematic. You need to be honest with them though and explain everything that happened. If you want to talk to a friend of theirs it may be easier, but the best way to solve this is to go straight to them. The one girl seems to have no interest whatsoever, so if I were you I'd focus on explaining your situation to the other girl first. Be sure to apologize for the miscommunication and if she felt uncomfortable as a result of that. But I agree with what some of the other people wrote here, you should probably take advantage of the fact you don't see these girls as often in school anymore and try to move on. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

[MasterXemnas 2,285]

Fool. What do you like about them?

[marukyu 132]

honestly you can get two cents from every single person in the world.

 

but at the end of the day your still gonna do whatever it is that you wanna do.

 

c: so good luck with your choice. 

[Kittenz 4,281]

As a girl myself, They sound like the bitch type. At least one of them do, anyway. They're not worth it, if they have a ''posse'' and shrug you off for something like that, then they are probably really immature. 

 

I'm a shy person as well and I have been in situations really similar to yours. You can't write a letter, you should be able to, I've wanted to as well, but you can't. To them, somehow, they will twist it as being ''Creepy'' or ''Werid''.  I guess people these days don't like settling things the old-fashioned way...

 

 

I can say with confidence, that they will do either one of these:

 

A) Drag you on ''Oh I like you as a friend blah blah''

 

B) Ignore you

 

And talking to a friend has usually given me this in that sort of situation:

 

A) Over-protective friend saying stuff like ''Don't go near her or I'll bash you etc''

 

B) Unhelpful response

 

 

I think It would be best if you tried talking to others, and only talk to those girls if they start a conversation with you first.

Edited August 19, 2014 by KittensOnFire

[Jack Sparrow 160]

I know that, but don't judge me for my age or grade, I've experienced more of the thing you would think...

 

I'm in high school. I've had plenty of opportunities with girls liking me, but I only want them. hehe, it's me.

I would just be outright and tell them what happened, and if they react badly, it might just be time to move on.  Their friends either told you lies because A) they thought it would be funny to see you mess with them, or B) the girls don't like you in return and they were trying to get you to leave them alone.  Either way, if you do get into a serious relationship with one of them you will have to deal with the friend that told you lies.  It might really be in your best interests to lay ow for a while.

Any way on how to specifically approach them? They have a little group that hangs out in a specific area. I'm in high school, and I've had plenty of girls that liked me, but I can't like them because I just feel that one of the two girls are to important to miss. 

 

Well, I know it's not what you wanna hear, but I think you've just gotta let these girls go. If it's not working out at this point then it's unlikely it ever will. I'm sure there are other girls out there who you'd be able to have a great time with, so I think it's best to pursue those relationships instead of wasting time on girls who it probably won't work with. I think you'd be a lot happier if you just moved on and found a new crush (or just focused on yourself for a while!)

 

 

Yeah don't go with writing a letter, unfortunately many people would think that's weird. Realize that in the end, if things do work out, you will have to make a choice between the two and that could be problematic. You need to be honest with them though and explain everything that happened. If you want to talk to a friend of theirs it may be easier, but the best way to solve this is to go straight to them. The one girl seems to have no interest whatsoever, so if I were you I'd focus on explaining your situation to the other girl first. Be sure to apologize for the miscommunication and if she felt uncomfortable as a result of that. But I agree with what some of the other people wrote here, you should probably take advantage of the fact you don't see these girls as often in school anymore and try to move on. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

 

I would go straight to them, but the issue being is, I don't want to make things worse. I haven't found the right way to say things to girls. Especially apologies. I'm too rude, I'm to weird, etc.  I like both, when I feel like I want to pursue one, the other comes in and I have a hard time choosing. More advice from you, please hehe.

Fool. What do you like about them?

They both don't wear a lot of make up. They both are cute. They both are athletic. They both can be the best out there.

 

As a girl myself, They sound like the bitch type. At least one of them do, anyway. They're not worth it, if they have a ''posse'' and shrug you off for something like that, then they are probably really immature. 

 

I'm a shy person as well and I have been in situations really similar to yours. You can't write a letter, you should be able to, I've wanted to as well, but you can't. To them, somehow, they will twist it as being ''Creepy'' or ''Werid''.  I guess people these days don't like settling things the old-fashioned way...

 

 

I can say with confidence, that they will do either one of these:

 

A) Drag you on ''Oh I like you as a friend blah blah''

 

B) Ignore you

 

And talking to a friend has usually given me this in that sort of situation:

 

A) Over-protective friend saying stuff like ''Don't go near her or I'll bash you etc''

 

B) Unhelpful response

 

 

I think It would be best if you tried talking to others, and only talk to those girls if they start a conversation with you first.

So, speaking to a friend, getting things straight that way? Is there a way, that nothing will go wrong? Either it works, or it's "ok"?

[Reflet 201]

suuuure

Oh, and I was not talking about girls... 

[MasterXemnas 2,285]

Fool. Seems like you don't know that much about them.

[VisitJoan 2,713]

Any way on how to specifically approach them? They have a little group that hangs out in a specific area. I'm in high school, and I've had plenty of girls that liked me, but I can't like them because I just feel that one of the two girls are to important to miss. 

 

 

 

 

Well, I definitely wouldn't approach them by myself, especially if they're in a group.  I would say get with some friends - or at least make it look like you're in a group and just tell them.  And if they act if they are weirded out, then you know they're not interested.

[Kittenz 4,281]

I'm in high school. I've had plenty of opportunities with girls liking me, but I only want them. hehe, it's me.

Any way on how to specifically approach them? They have a little group that hangs out in a specific area. I'm in high school, and I've had plenty of girls that liked me, but I can't like them because I just feel that one of the two girls are to important to miss. 

 

 

 

 

I would go straight to them, but the issue being is, I don't want to make things worse. I haven't found the right way to say things to girls. Especially apologies. I'm too rude, I'm to weird, etc.  I like both, when I feel like I want to pursue one, the other comes in and I have a hard time choosing. More advice from you, please hehe.

They both don't wear a lot of make up. They both are cute. They both are athletic. They both can be the best out there.

 

So, speaking to a friend, getting things straight that way? Is there a way, that nothing will go wrong? Either it works, or it's "ok"?

Well, like I said, her friends could just give you a negative response. They seem to be that type.

 

In my own past experience and of that of friends, in those kinds of situations, they almost never want to have a mature conversation with you, just shove you off.

Edited August 20, 2014 by KittensOnFire

[Sora_Roxas26 124]

Oh, and I was not talking about girls... 

what then?

[Reflet 201]

what then?

Life stuff, you know, problems between parents....

[Sora_Roxas26 124]

Life stuff, you know, problems between parents....

then, no offense, I was correct, that adds nothing to help him, sorry, half of marriages end in divorce, most kids have problems with parents, typical kid, thinks they know it all

Edited August 21, 2014 by Sora_Roxas26