Cucco 1,907 Posted August 18, 2014 I guess I just want a significant other so I won't feel as lonely and so I'll be a bit more happy about life. I want someone to kiss,hug, and be a bit more intimate with. I mean I've made friends with girls before but I have no idea how someone gets a girlfriend instead of just making a friend. Like can someone help me with this. And yes I know how pathetic I sound. 1 MasterRoxas13 reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chrisora2066 26 Posted August 18, 2014 Dude you don't sound pathetic. Honestly I was in your situation before January. I had been introduced to a girl before but I wasn't really interested. I was then talking to an old friend of mine who was in college and she introduced me to one of her friends and we hit it off immediately. So for me it was just searching for that person and asking them out if they seem interested. If your having trouble noticing the signs if they like you with me I noticed the giggle. She giggled a LOT on our first date. I know this isnt much help but its just my experience I hope it helps somewhat... 3 Neptune Vasilias, Lalalablah and Cucco reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
somedayhunchback 213 Posted August 18, 2014 I don't know how to get a girl friend either, welcome to my world 1 Clouded Sun reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MasterRoxas13 340 Posted August 18, 2014 Girls be crazy man, all jokes aside The best option would be to get a female friend who can coach you and give you advice because honesty the best advice about girls, are from girls so it is a good place to start its not pathetic its a basic human desire so you should not feel bad about yourself .I am going through the exact same thing your going through so I understand how you feel. What worked for me when I was in H.S was that I would just become somewhat friends with a girl that I liked then I would ask her if she wants to go out with me or hang out sometime. Of course not all girls are going to say yes but eventually one will, so keep trying man. 2 Cucco and Lalalablah reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MasterXemnas 2,285 Posted August 18, 2014 Fool. You don't get one by just looking for one. Treat everyone like a really good friend. 1 RoxasXIIIK reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lalalablah 1,538 Posted August 18, 2014 Just ask a girl out on a date, like if you're interested in any of your girl friends just send them a text asking if they want to go see a movie or something It may seem hard to ask someone out but it really isn't when you break it down. I'm an introvert and I used to be shy so I had to really work up to asking someone stuff like that, but after a while it's gotten much easier. You don't sound pathetic though, it's understandable. Also remember to take rejection lightly; it's going to happen at some point so it's best not to get hung up on that (not to sound like a pessimist or anything) 2 roxion and Cucco reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cucco 1,907 Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) Thanks guys for the advice I guess I'll just be more social with the girl I like than I was last year when school starts back up again and if she seems to like me I guess I'll try to take it from there. Edited August 18, 2014 by Cucco Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clouded Sun 1,232 Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) I don't know how to get a girl friend either, welcome to my world ^ This. Don't try to make it too obvious, though. Hang out with her friends, friends of friends and crap. And make casual talk. Chicks talk, seriously, so you gotta make sure, at least, that none of her friends have you (or sometimes your friends) on their hate list. Edited August 18, 2014 by Sun Wukong Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hardrada 117 Posted August 18, 2014 Just be friendly toward all girls you encounter, and you'll probably get a good idea of how they feel towards you through body language and stuff. There's a fine line between friendly and flirty though. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kodakliv 558 Posted August 18, 2014 I have no idea how it works either, some guys just have it it easy I guess. My friend had gone through 5 relationships and I haven't even gotten one 1 Clouded Sun reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paranoia 494 Posted August 18, 2014 You don't get a girlfriend. You earn one. Having a significant other is a privilege. 3 Lalalablah, RoxasXIIIK and Nero Kunivas reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kurasa25 45 Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) well to Start off, you probably have a crush right? ask her out. at the date be sure to notice signs (laughs at everything you say, "accidentally" touches you etc.) then, make sure to go for the kiss when the moments right. it's probably easiest at the end of the date. just grab her hands and put them around your neck. then put your hands on her waist and go for the kiss. make sure you always look her in the eyes while you position her arms and your hands and close your eyes while kissing. if she interrupts you and she doesn't want to kiss you or if you bitch out and don't do anything(which is even worse), don't loose hope . you can also kiss her on the second date if there is gonna be one. some girls don't kiss on the first date ( but even if they say so, they sometimes still do it and by sometimes I mean like 90% of the time) it's essential to kiss her on the first date or second date or you might end up in the friendzone. trust me I've been there. also, if she does try to friendzone you, tell her that you're not interested in being just friends with her and completely distance yourself from her. if she comes back to you, you won, and if she doesn't you still won because 1. you tried and won't have regrets and 2. because you won't have to put up with the friendzone another important thing is that you have to be yourself. don't try to impress her. if she's into something you don't like, don't say "ah, yeah that's great" tell her that you're not into whatever that is. girls notice when you try to hard and they'll think that you're just a bitch who isn't confident enough to express his real opinion . P.S.:I'm currently in a relationship with my crush and it's awesome it's worth a try!!! Edited August 18, 2014 by kurasa25 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roxion 42 Posted August 18, 2014 Look man, you gotta learn to be by yourself before you can be with someone else. If you can be happy when you're alone then you're ready to be in a relationship. After, just be yourself around the ladies. If someone just wants to be friends, go ahead and be friends and move on. Don't complain that you're in the friendzone 'cause that's a turn off and it will ruin any chance you had with the females. 1 Clouded Sun reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kurasa25 45 Posted August 18, 2014 Look man, you gotta learn to be by yourself before you can be with someone else. If you can be happy when you're alone then you're ready to be in a relationship. After, just be yourself around the ladies. If someone just wants to be friends, go ahead and be friends and move on. Don't complain that you're in the friendzone 'cause that's a turn off and it will ruin any chance you had with the females.by the time you're in the friendzone it's already too late. your attractiveness to the girl will be the same as her brothers or a lamp for that matter. the most effective way to evade the friendzone is by cutting the ties and make her miss you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clouded Sun 1,232 Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) Look man, you gotta learn to be by yourself before you can be with someone else. If you can be happy when you're alone then you're ready to be in a relationship. After, just be yourself around the ladies. If someone just wants to be friends, go ahead and be friends and move on. Don't complain that you're in the friendzone 'cause that's a turn off and it will ruin any chance you had with the females. Your Goddamn signature !! by the time you're in the friendzone it's already too late. your attractiveness to the girl will be the same as her brothers or a lamp for that matter. the most effective way to evade the friendzone is by cutting the ties and make her miss you. Uhh no. Try hard to crawl out of friendzone first, then if it doesn't work, stay in the friendzone. You never know who her friends could be. Edited August 18, 2014 by Sun Wukong 1 roxion reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kodakliv 558 Posted August 18, 2014 If a girl wants to win over my heart all she needs to do is make some bacon and I'll be all good to go 2 Clouded Sun and kurasa25 reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kurasa25 45 Posted August 18, 2014 Uhh no. Try hard to crawl out of friendzone first, then if it doesn't work, stay in the friendzone. You never know who her friends could be.we'll yeah if you're into her friends why not. I was referring to a situation where his only interest is THAT ONE girl Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clouded Sun 1,232 Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) If a girl wants to win over my heart all she needs to do is make some bacon and I'll be all good to go That is ME! we'll yeah if you're into her friends why not. I was referring to a situation where his only interest is THAT ONE girl Ahh yeah true true. Edited August 18, 2014 by Sun Wukong 2 kurasa25 and Kodakliv reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kodakliv 558 Posted August 18, 2014 ThatisME!the smell of bacon turns me on! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clouded Sun 1,232 Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) the smell of bacon turns me on! Those juicy juices, trickling down that slim, piece of meat just make me want ta... Eat that bacon. Edited August 18, 2014 by Sun Wukong 1 Kodakliv reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MasterXemnas 2,285 Posted August 18, 2014 Fool. Just start asking any girl out really. If someone has an initial attraction back, they'll say yes. You go on a few dates, and if it goes well, you have yourself a girlfriend. You have to spend time with someone to see if you like them. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Clouded Sun 1,232 Posted August 19, 2014 Fool. Just start asking any girl out really. If someone has an initial attraction back, they'll say yes. You go on a few dates, and if it goes well, you have yourself a girlfriend. You have to spend time with someone to see if you like them. Out of the blue? Yeah, good idea. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roxion 42 Posted August 19, 2014 by the time you're in the friendzone it's already too late. your attractiveness to the girl will be the same as her brothers or a lamp for that matter. the most effective way to evade the friendzone is by cutting the ties and make her miss you.That's just mean. Just continue being the girl's friend. You never know if she might come around. Just because you're in the friendzone with someone doesn't mean you're obligated to be a lamp. Just see other girls. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Vasilias 340 Posted August 19, 2014 From what I did hears my advice:1. Love yourself above all else 2. Be kind and show kindness to all 3. Be a gentleman or act if you are not one naturally 4. Know what you want 5. Don't seem as if your really really in need for companionship 6. Hold yourself tall and sharp with a air of confidence that tells the world I can do fine all by myself 7. Don't be afraid of deep conversation 8. Subliminally ask questions so you know that the girl's likes and impress her by reciting that knowledge 9. Be playful and flirty and don't be awkward for physical touching( act as if it's normal) 10. Most importantly DON'T STRESS OVER IT it's almost as if girls can smell your want for a GF 11. Lay back after these steps and let them come to you 4 Hardrada, Clouded Sun, Tigerruss and 1 other reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emrys 3,192 Posted August 19, 2014 honestly do what I did. wait till college until girls mature. or do what everyone else does and dress like the guys from one republic and get their hairstyle but this, my friend is called the stupid and easy way 1 Clouded Sun reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
