Can I ask a question?

[PrincessKari 35]

It's kind of a long story but there's this guy (Well done now you opened it up in the most stereotypical way possible.) and I've known him for about a year, I met him at my best friend's sister's sweet sixteenth. We spent the entire night talking and well, exchanged numbers and spent several months talking on Skype.

 

That was last July. I saw him again at a party in October and well, a lot had happened in between. I had gotten depression and he was about the only person helping me but we never saw each other in person. Which brings up one small problem, he's a year younger than me. But he was moved up a grade in year eight due to his intelligence. However, a series of unfortunate events occurred ( and now I'm ripping off Lemony Snickett) and well, I didn't seem him again until New Year's Eve, at the movies.

 

So during the time in which we didn't see each other, before the party in October, I could sort of pick up a few signs that he liked me. (He was complimenting me at the drop of a hat, was inline just about every day etc.) But he never really opened up about himself, he just shrugged it off saying that there was nothing to know about him and that was that. I personally believe that he lied, because he's insecure about himself, his past and his life. Which is okay. But I've known him for almost a year and well, I don't really know too much about him.

 

Although he did share a few small details with me. Like the fact that he's an IVF child and that he's brother and sister a ten years old than him and that he tried to kill himself at one point...so it's not like he never shared anything with me. But I still feel secluded and cut off in a way. I did see him again in March for an anime convention but that was a long time ago.

 

Five and a half months later...

 

My whole life has been turned upside down. I dropped out of school. My best friends life turned to shit. I got depression again and got out of it again. My brother went to Sydney. I realized that is still have feelings for this guy. Wait what? How is that even possible? How do you have feelings for someone you never see or talk to? Who knows.

 

I'm hoping to see him again in a few weeks at a party I'm having but even then, I'm still waiting for a message saying he can't make it. Seriously, I'm waiting for that day to come and the sooner the better. I'm kind of used to disappointment anyway. But let's just wait and see.

 

I'm not really sure if still feels as strongly about me as he did but, that's another time thing. Although, he's about the most sincere guy I've ever met and therefore don't really wanna lose him. He's also the first guy who did have the hots for me and admitted it, not just kept it secret or whatever.

 

So my question is, what now? Do I send him a message? Or do I wait around longer for life to magically make this work for me?

[Philip Ellwell 5,487]

Message him. 

Don't let these feelings go unheeded. 

[PrincessKari 35]

Well, what do I say?

[Caxkj 481]

Sounds a bit like me; all flirting and never being open to anybody. Anyway, I suggest you talk to him, see if he remembers you, and just talk about, well, anything; be yourself.

Edited June 11, 2014 by Caxkj

[Yuya Sakaki 5,212]

Sounds a bit like me; all flirting and never being open to anybody. Anyway, I suggest you talk to him, see if he remembers you, and just talk about, well, anything; be yourself.

 

Cliche advice, but that's really all you can be; yourself. And here comes some more corny advice; you should tell him how you feel. I've made the mistake before of not telling someone and I felt like crap. I'm over it now though; it happened a while back. But, uh, good luck!

 

Peace!

[Caxkj 481]

Cliche advice.

 

My creativity is not what it use to be, I admit.

[roxion 42]

I believe you should message him. Get all your feelings that you have inside and let it out. Just don't expect love to solve all your problems either. Don't be dependent on it, because if it works great I hope for the best for y'all two, but if it doesn't I don't want you to fall into a deeper depression. If I were you I wouldn't focus on love so much. Love will come in time you just gotta wait. I believe you need to get back into school and graduate. I know it's hard to be in school and have depression, trust me I've been there, but it can also be a distraction from your sadness. That's if you work and study hard. If school is not enough to get your mind off of your own feelings pick up some hobbies; read a book, go to a singing class, draw, make new friends(hell I'll be your friend) or join a sports team. I truly believe you need to chill and get your life together before anything else. I think I'm much older than people on here, but living alone is hard that's because I have a high school diploma barely going to get an my associate degree. I don't think its going to be a healthy relationship either, because why would you go into something when you're broken expecting someone else to fix you and your sadness. It doesn't work that way. You need to fix yourself. Don't be dependent on anyone, you to learn to be happy by yourself. If you can't learn that you definitely won't be happy with someone else, because relationship take a lot of work. So if you walk in that situation with depression it won't go well and all your problems will be ignored because love blinds you. Im so sorry to heard that you're sad but don't do this to yourself.

Edited June 11, 2014 by roxion

[Weedanort 8,786]

Go for it, you shouldn't let this slide

 

Message him, and start talking with him more, and you'll see what'll happen

 

 

I believe you should message him. Get all your feelings that you have inside and let it out. Just don't expect love to solve all your problems either. Don't be dependent on it because if it works great I hope for the best for y'all two, but if it doesn't I don't want you to fall into a deeper depression. If I were you I wouldn't focus on love so much. Love will come in time you just gotta wait. I believe you need to get back into school and graduate. I know it's hard to be in school and have depression, trust me I've been there, but it can also be a distraction from your sadness. That's if you work and study hard. If school is not enough to get your mind off of your own feelings pick up some hobbies; read a book, go to a singing class, draw, make new friends(hell ill be your friend) and joins a sports team. I truly believe you need to chill and get your life together before anything else. I believe I'm much older than people on here, but living alone is hard that's because I have a high school degree barely going to get an associate degree. I don't think its going to be a healthy relationship either because why would you go into something when you're broken expecting someone else to fix you and your sadness. It doesn't work that way. You need to fix yourself. Don't be dependent on anyone, you to learn to be happy by yourself. If you can't learn that you definitely won't be happy with someone else, because relationship take a lot of work. So if you walk in that situation with depression it won't go well and all your problems will be ignored because love blinds you. Im so sorry to heard that you're sad but don't do this to yourself.

 

 

Couldn't agree more