I need help!

[WakingDawn96 1,166]

Okay, so I saw this person the other day I used to know and ever since I can't stop wanting to talk to them. The problem is that I haven't talked to this person in years, aka since the 8th grade, and I don't know if they will remember me or not. Plus I can't contact them anywhere else but Facebook. I don't know what I should do, but I am really wanting to talk to them again. Please help!

[Sora96 17,256]

Talk to them?

[MyDixieRect 2,061]

Okay, so I saw this person the other day I used to know and ever since I can't stop wanting to talk to them. The problem is that I haven't talked to this person in years, aka since the 8th grade, and I don't know if they will remember me or not. Plus I can't contact them anywhere else but Facebook. I don't know what I should do, but I am really wanting to talk to them again. Please help!

 

Then contact them on Facebook. If they want to talk to you then yippi ki yay, if they don't you are free to move on with your life. Though in lieu of recent affairs I gotta ask if you've actually talked to this person with more than 3 short sentences and were actually friends with them beforehand? If you have I can't see why they wouldn't want to reconnect and if you haven't then this will not end well...

[WakingDawn96 1,166]

We actually have a history together, I knew them for a long while before we just fell apart. It's not like with Shana.

[Col.Random 3,683]

We actually have a history together, I knew them for a long while before we just fell apart. It's not like with Shana.

Just talk to her then. What's the worst that could happen anyways?

Edited May 18, 2014 by Col.Random

[WakingDawn96 1,166]

Who said it was a girl?

[President Yoshi 313]

just go up to him/her and say "BRAP BRAP BRAP BRAP" that usually gets the convo started for me. 

 

 

... maybe i just have weird friends

[WakingDawn96 1,166]

just go up to him/her and say "BRAP BRAP BRAP BRAP" that usually gets the convo started for me.   ... maybe i just have weird friends

I'm trying to not sound like a doofus around them

[Lalalablah 1,538]

Step 1: Go to Facebook

Step 2: Open a new chat window with them

Step 3: "Hey how've you been? It's been so long since we last spoke, I thought we should catch up :)"

 

 

Just wondering though, is there a reason you guys haven't talked in so long or is it just one of those things

[WakingDawn96 1,166]

Step 1: Go to FacebookStep 2: Open a new chat window with themStep 3: "Hey how've you been? It's been so long since we last spoke, I thought we should catch up :)"  Just wondering though, is there a reason you guys haven't talked in so long or is it just one of those things

Well to be honest, we just fell apart because we weren't able to fit into each other's lives. It's just one of those things where time went by and we just didn't see each other again. And there is another reason, because I wasn't ready to face them as just friends until now. I liked this person a lot and I didn't have time for them to be that important in my life and vice versa. And yes, this person is the same girl that I liked before Shana.

[Lalalablah 1,538]

Well to be honest, we just fell apart because we weren't able to fit into each other's lives. It's just one of those things where time went by and we just didn't see each other again. And there is another reason, because I wasn't ready to face them as just friends until now. I liked this person a lot and I didn't have time for them to be that important in my life and vice versa.And yes, this person is the same girl that I liked before Shana.

Totally understandable

 

Well the only way to get back into each other's lives is to talk to her, so go for it.

[Danex Darkfire + 1,712]

Well, a "hello" usually works for me, but you might want to use a "hi" if you're feeling a little eccentric that day

[WakingDawn96 1,166]

How does this sound? :

 

 

Hello, I don't know if you remember me or not, but I saw you the other day at graduation and I thought that I haven't seen you for a very long time. I just wanted to say hi and see how you are doing.

[phantomhive 26]

Don't know if this'll help but this happened to me and one of my friends, we just drifted apart after 7th grade and years later we just randomly bumped into each other while I was walking to high school it was awkward at first since we hadn't seen each other in ages but as soon as I saw him I just manned up and said "Hey man long time no see how are you?" and after that it was like we hadn't stopped talking at all.Just be calm odds are if you two were close she'd want to catch up on how you were doing too man, good luck! ^_^

[Col.Random 3,683]

Who said it was a girl?

It just seemed likely considering how you give too much importance to these matters. Also if it wasn't you would've referred to them as a "he" at least once.

[Hero of Light XIV 2,381]

Ummmmmmmm, just talk to him. It's not that complicated. Just go up and say "hi, you probably don't recognize me, but we used to hang out all the time as kids" or something like that, and a conversation will just role on from there. I really think you're just over-complicating this, it's not that big of a deal.

[WakingDawn96 1,166]

Ummmmmmmm, just talk to him. It's not that complicated. Just go up and say "hi, you probably don't recognize me, but we used to hang out all the time as kids" or something like that, and a conversation will just role on from there. I really think you're just over-complicating this, it's not that big of a deal.

It just seemed likely considering how you give too much importance to these matters. Also if it wasn't you would've referred to them as a "he" at least once.

The only reason why this is a big deal is because this girl was my first crush. This girl meant everything to me at one point in life and I just haven't stopped thinking about her for years now. I just could never find the right time to talk to her. And there was one chance that I had, and I made the mistake of just walking away. Now the only way I know to contact her is Facebook, and it's a long shot on that as well. But I were to say something like this to her:

How does this sound? : Hello, I don't know if you remember me or not, but I saw you the other day at graduation and I thought that I haven't seen you for a very long time. I just wanted to say hi and see how you are doing.

Do you think everything would be fine?

[Col.Random 3,683]

The only reason why this is a big deal is because this girl was my first crush. This girl meant everything to me at one point in life and I just haven't stopped thinking about her for years now. I just could never find the right time to talk to her. And there was one chance that I had, and I made the mistake of just walking away. Now the only way I know to contact her is Facebook, and it's a long shot on that as well.But I were to say something like this to her:Do you think everything would be fine?

Well, first crush is entirely different. To be honest, I would advise you don't bother contacting her. Running after someone from the past just doesn't seem like a good idea.I can understand you're lonely, but I fail to see why chasing after an old crush- whom you haven't contacted in years- is going to help.(It's completely normal to not forget your first crush, I still haven't forgotten mine, but I haven't talked to her in years either)I guess it all just depends on how close you two really were

[WakingDawn96 1,166]

Well, first crush is entirely different. To be honest, I would advise you don't bother contacting her. Running after someone from the past just doesn't seem like a good idea.I can understand you're lonely, but I fail to see why chasing after an old crush- whom you haven't contacted in years- is going to help.(It's completely normal to not forget your first crush, I still haven't forgotten mine, but I haven't talked to her in years either)I guess it all just depends on how close you two really were

I'm not going back to her for love, I'm going back to her to make a friend. And it wasn't that long ago that I liked her, and I only had one real life crush which was her. But I don't want love, I just want to talk to her again and get to know her.

[Lalalablah 1,538]

How does this sound? :Hello, I don't know if you remember me or not, but I saw you the other day at graduation and I thought that I haven't seen you for a very long time. I just wanted to say hi and see how you are doing.

Sounds good. Personally I'd leave out the "I don't know if you remember me or not, but" part but it's totally up to you. If you were friends before then of course she'll remember you

[TheWayToDawn 775]

Then just contact them. It ain't hard. Just say "Hi, how have you been?" The usual conversation stuff. You know, just talk!

[Col.Random 3,683]

I'm not going back to her for love, I'm going back to her to make a friend. And it wasn't that long ago that I liked her, and I only had one real life crush which was her. But I don't want love, I just want to talk to her again and get to know her.

Well that's alright then, as long as you don't still have feelings for her i guess it's alright

[SorrowSurvivor 191]

How does this sound? :Hello, I don't know if you remember me or not, but I saw you the other day at graduation and I thought that I haven't seen you for a very long time. I just wanted to say hi and see how you are doing.

 

That feels maybe a bit too formal. Just: "Hello, I saw you the other day at graduation and I thought that I haven't seen you for a very long time. How you are doing? " should be fine

 

Well to be honest, we just fell apart because we weren't able to fit into each other's lives. It's just one of those things where time went by and we just didn't see each other again. And there is another reason, because I wasn't ready to face them as just friends until now. I liked this person a lot and I didn't have time for them to be that important in my life and vice versa.And yes, this person is the same girl that I liked before Shana.

 

and the bold part suggest that you maybe weren't that close so you might not have that much "old times" to talk about so you should be prepared to carry the conversation with new topics or else the conversation might get awkward and die off quickly. If you really want to keep this friend then you through a lot of things about yourself, hobbies, and experiences out there so you can find a common ground and get her interested in keeping your friendship alive. I wouldn't be able to pull that off but I hope you can