ZefiroTera47 50 Posted May 17, 2014 I've been living together with my boyfriend for more than 4 months now and is everything going fine between us. The problem is that his father starts to show some reluctance to that situation, in an indirect way... He even said to him that college starts to be too expensive for him to pay... ( lame excuse in our opinion). I'm starting to worry that he may be against our relationship My boyfriend says that is not my fault, but I keep feeling guilty about all this... I know that what I'm saying may be too vague, but I really wanted your guys opinion and help. Thank you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ReikuSSR 1,071 Posted May 17, 2014 A relationship question? It does not matter what others think of your relationship just that you two care about it. and with that.... .... it is all you get, I don't do drama. 1 Yuya Sakaki reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZefiroTera47 50 Posted May 17, 2014 A relationship question? It does not matter what others think of your relationship just that you two care about it. and with that.... .... it is all you get, I don't do drama. The problem is not the relationship itself, it's how his parents are reacting to it Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ReikuSSR 1,071 Posted May 17, 2014 The problem is not the relationship itself, it's how his parents are reacting to it And that is why I said do not worry about others. They can react all they want, if no one is dying then, just ignore them Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZefiroTera47 50 Posted May 17, 2014 And that is why I said do not worry about others. They can react all they want, if no one is dying then, just ignore them There is a problem. We are living under our parents care because both of us are still college students. If his dad wants to, he may have to go back home. I just wanted to know if someone know what to do in a case like this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Caity 3,946 Posted May 17, 2014 How is being unable to afford college, which is damn expensive, an argument against a relationship? 1 Rizzyy reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ReikuSSR 1,071 Posted May 17, 2014 There is a problem. We are living under our parents care because both of us are still college students. If his dad wants to, he may have to go back home. I just wanted to know if someone know what to do in a case like this I'm sorry if I try to answer you are not going to like it, I try to get both sides under consideration, usually that ends up with giving each side time to think about it. If they have such an opposition over it then there must be another factor they are not pleased with, such as if either his grades or your grades are suffering, a lack of appreciation or other factors you or they need to be aware of. Sorry, but I do not have enough info to give my honest opinion. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZefiroTera47 50 Posted May 17, 2014 How is being unable to afford college, which is damn expensive, an argument against a relationship? First, I didn't explained it well, you see, his dad is putting him under pressure a lot this days, he doesn't let him go out of home, he doesn´t let him use the computer or watch what he wants, etc. And lately, his dad has been talkin to him in a very rude way. Mostly about the fact that is son doesn't live with him anymore. The thing is that all this started very little time after we moved in together. Also his father seems to act friendly when I'm around, but once I'm out, it goes back to the rude atitude towards his son. I'm sorry if I try to answer you are not going to like it, I try to get both sides under consideration, usually that ends up with giving each side time to think about it. If they have such an opposition over it then there must be another factor they are not pleased with, such as if either his grades or your grades are suffering, a lack of appreciation or other factors you or they need to be aware of. Sorry, but I do not have enough info to give my honest opinion. I've also thought about that, it's just that there is no reason for that. That's why I was trying to get some help here. Even our friends don't know why he's acting like that. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ReikuSSR 1,071 Posted May 17, 2014 First, I didn't explained it well, you see, his dad is putting him under pressure a lot this days, he doesn't let him go out of home, he doesn´t let him use the computer or watch what he wants, etc. And lately, his dad has been talkin to him in a very rude way. Mostly about the fact that is son doesn't live with him anymore. The thing is that all this started very little time after we moved in together. Also his father seems to act friendly when I'm around, but once I'm out, it goes back to the rude atitude towards his son. I've also thought about that, it's just that there is no reason for that. That's why I was trying to get some help here. Even our friends don't know why he's acting like that. Whell then when in doubt, ask him. I mean seriously he may voice his opinion, but if he doesn't then whell, he doesn't. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZefiroTera47 50 Posted May 17, 2014 Whell then when in doubt, ask him. I mean seriously he may voice his opinion, but if he doesn't then whell, he doesn't. They have already talked, but his father just ignore him... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sora96 17,256 Posted May 18, 2014 I wish you the best of luck in this difficult time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nick Sideris 1,551 Posted May 18, 2014 It's what Caity said : How the heck does the fact that someone is unable to afford college relate to sbdy's relationship ? I mean , they are two different things . Anyways , I think having a discussion about this with your boyfriend's dad and your boyfriend should be good . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ZefiroTera47 50 Posted May 18, 2014 It's what Caity said : How the heck does the fact that someone is unable to afford college relate to sbdy's relationship ? I mean , they are two different things . Anyways , I think having a discussion about this with your boyfriend's dad and your boyfriend should be good . The thing is that there is no problem about paying his college. Not from what I know. He has a scholarship that pays all the university fees... That's why I said it seems like a lame excuse to me Also I'll try talk with his dad today... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nick Sideris 1,551 Posted May 18, 2014 The thing is that there is no problem about paying his college. Not from what I know. He has a scholarship that pays all the university fees... That's why I said it seems like a lame excuse to me Also I'll try talk with his dad today... I see . Anyways , good luck . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Weedanort 8,786 Posted May 19, 2014 I wish you the best of luck in this difficult time. Well thank you How is being unable to afford college, which is damn expensive, an argument against a relationship? That's my dad's logic It's what Caity said : How the heck does the fact that someone is unable to afford college relate to sbdy's relationship ? I mean , they are two different things . Anyways , I think having a discussion about this with your boyfriend's dad and your boyfriend should be good . We have considered that, but we don't know if it'll work When she's around, my dad's a completely different person. But when it's only me it's a completely different story Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
