How Do You Deal With People Asking You Out?

[xoblivionx13 1,133]

  On 2/5/2014 at 10:01 PM, Think Pink said:

ahh I think he already knows I'm bi though because I've mentioned my ex boyfriend before 

 

Yeah they notice but they're like, "oh, he's a nice guy, he just really wants a girlfriend. He's bipolar, you should feel bad for him." I'm like firetruck that I don't give a damn about him if he won't take no for an answer. I guess I'm probably going to end up telling my principal tomorrow, but that feels like chickening out. I know I'm letting pride get in the way, but dang I'd really like to beat him up. He's really tall and pretty overweight, and those are the exact kind of guys I had to fight in Tae-Kwon-Do. It would be nice to get to finally use those skills irl. But anyway, thank you. I'm gonna tell someone tomorrow and just cross my fingers that it works out okay. 

 

That still doesn't excuse his behavior nor does it make a valid reason to date him. Plus this situation is between you, him, and the adult, not your classmates. They need to chill out (unintended Frozen pun owo). It takes a lot of courage to alert someone of a problem instead of dealing with it alone or resorting to other methods like violence. So I think you're being rather brave by telling your principle. Now if he wouldn't stop touching or aggressively holding on to you then I would say go ahead and defend yourself.....then telling the principle the situation.

 

No problem. You have a right to feel comfortable and safe at school. Good luck!

[Weedanort 8,786]

While I was single, I was asked out by many guys, and no girls .-.

 

I said to them that I was straight, but they would still try

[AnHeiressofaSOLDIER 358]

Someone's probably already said this, but you should just tell this person you're taken. It might not work, but it's been proven that people are more likely to take the hint, when they know "you're someone else's property". That's why a lot of girls wear engagement rings when they go to bars and stuff (even if they really aren't with anyone). -shrugs-

Edited February 5, 2014 by DenizenofTwilight

[Javelin434 3,164]

I wake up. Works every time...

[Ceriraye 485]

Sorry I'm not allowed

I don't know you that well

I'm not really in to dating

I just got out of a bad relationship

I don't want to date anyone right now

[Dracozombie 4,554]

I wouldn't know; no one's ever asked me out. =P

[DragonMaster 1,166]

Well, in my experience I haven't really seen many situations where a girl asks a guy out. I've never been asked out, personally. Though, I'm not really a person who has a lot of people swooning over me.

I'll try and hypothesize, though. I'd probably turn most anyone down, unless they were someone I considered a friend, then I might consider it just to see what could become of it. If it was someone I merely considered an acquaintance (a much larger group than my friends, I've only about five or so people I'd actually consider friends), or not even to that level, then I'd definitely turn them down, even if I found them attractive. I've no doubt I would be very uncomfortable, no matter the person who asked. I'd probably stammer and be visible unnerved.

That being said, there is one person who I'd immediately say yes to, but it'll never happen.

 

  On 2/5/2014 at 10:01 PM, Think Pink said:

He's really tall and pretty overweight

Add socially awkward and geek to that and you've got the reason I'll never ask anyone out, or get asked out. X_X

[Think Pink 1,967]

  On 2/6/2014 at 12:06 AM, Xora98 said:

Sorry I'm not allowedI don't know you that wellI'm not really in to datingI just got out of a bad relationshipI don't want to date anyone right now

Uhh, what does this have to do with my question though? 

 

  On 2/6/2014 at 1:49 AM, DragonMaster said:

Well, in my experience I haven't really seen many situations where a girl asks a guy out. I've never been asked out, personally. Though, I'm not really a person who has a lot of people swooning over me.

I'll try and hypothesize, though. I'd probably turn most anyone down, unless they were someone I considered a friend, then I might consider it just to see what could become of it. If it was someone I merely considered an acquaintance (a much larger group than my friends, I've only about five or so people I'd actually consider friends), or not even to that level, then I'd definitely turn them down, even if I found them attractive. I've no doubt I would be very uncomfortable, no matter the person who asked. I'd probably stammer and be visible unnerved.

That being said, there is one person who I'd immediately say yes to, but it'll never happen.

 

Add socially awkward and geek to that and you've got the reason I'll never ask anyone out, or get asked out. X_X

There's nothing wrong with those things though! I was just bringing up his size because when I was learning Tae Kwon Do, I was the only little kid there, so they wanted me to spar with my dad instead of a random adult so I wouldn't get hurt. So I learned how to fight against someone exactly his size--that was the only reason I brought it up. So don't feel bad about those things omg. I actually think geeky people are really cute, so I'm sure you'll find someone. 

[Tigerruss 576]

  On 2/5/2014 at 9:32 PM, Think Pink said:

So yeah, I'm legitimately curious. I don't know why, but this (school) year I've had 3 different guys try to ask me out and it's making me extremely uncomfortable. I tell them straight up no, sorry, but one of them will not stop trying to talk to me. I have told him he's creeping me out and to leave me alone, but it's obviously not working. (BTW if you are a boy, hint: no one will ever respect you and will probably want you dead if someone says no and you keep asking) He has no concept of personal space and doesn't seem to realize that I've said NO. So how do y'all handle this kind of thing? Is there anything specific you've said that's gotten someone to lay off? Because I've gotten to the point I'm probably going to beat him up and get expelled if he doesn't shut up. 

 

 

  On 1/24/2014 at 3:47 AM, Godot said:

as of tonight, lexi (think pink) and i are getting engaged. im really excited!!

Well, have you tried telling the guy you are engaged?  If he still keeps on trying for you, HE HAS NO HONOR!Anyways for me, I would actually try to avoid all contact with someone if they said they never want to see me again. (luckily I have not had to put those words to the test)

And as a guy with messy hair (that's clean) and not going out many places aside from college, I don't really have experience turning people down. Though I probably would say something along the lines of "Sorry, my heart doesn't want you." (maybe I would just say a flat out no.)

[Think Pink 1,967]

  On 2/6/2014 at 2:03 AM, Tigerruss said:

Well, have you tried telling the guy you are engaged?  If he still keeps on trying for you, HE HAS NO HONOR!Anyways for me, I would actually try to avoid all contact with someone if they said they never want to see me again. (luckily I have not had to put those words to the test)

And as a guy with messy hair (that's clean) and not going out many places aside from college, I don't really have experience turning people down. Though I probably would say something along the lines of "Sorry, my heart doesn't want you." (maybe I would just say a flat out no.)

oh whoopsie I should mention that Sacha and I are actually mostly kidding about being engaged. It was kind of a joke since we're 16 and 17. 

[Ceriraye 485]

  On 2/6/2014 at 1:58 AM, Think Pink said:

Uhh, what does this have to do with my question though? There's nothing wrong with those things though! I was just bringing up his size because when I was learning Tae Kwon Do, I was the only little kid there, so they wanted me to spar with my dad instead of a random adult so I wouldn't get hurt. So I learned how to fight against someone exactly his size--that was the only reason I brought it up. So don't feel bad about those things omg. I actually think geeky people are really cute, so I'm sure you'll find

 

 

I guess I read it wrong, I thought it was asking how to turn someone down. Whatever, ignore me

[Tigerruss 576]

  On 2/6/2014 at 2:06 AM, Think Pink said:

oh whoopsie I should mention that Sacha and I are actually mostly kidding about being engaged. It was kind of a joke since we're 16 and 17. 

Ah ha, so this thread makes a lot more sense now! Anyways, if you already informed the guy you aren't interested, then he is just stuck in the illusion that "IF I ASK ENOUGH SHE'LL CHANGE HER MIND, SINCE SHE IS THE ONE FOR ME!" Or something else weird like that. Not only is him thinking like that creeping you out, it is also unhealthy for him to obsess over a girl that isn't interested in him.

 

As I read others think he is "nice". There is no "nice" when it comes to an obsession. You either complete your obsessed goal, break-free from the obsession (usually from finally giving up, getting a new obsession, or realizing you don't want what you are obsessing over), or have the obsession break you. (assuming he is obsessing and isn't just persistently trying to get a date with every girl he likes) Or at least that's how I view obsession.My advice is hope it isn't an obsession, and just keep on saying no. And like others have said, if he starts to cause problems try to get help. While you could probably take him down, I would suggest to save that for a worst case scenario.Edit: A verb tense error I had was annoying me. 0_0

Edited February 6, 2014 by Tigerruss

[Demyx. 10,064]

I would usually just say something like, "No thanks". 

Edited February 6, 2014 by Squirting Demyx

[MyDixieRect 2,061]

 

Do that. He'll never bother you again.

[Dracozombie 4,554]

An alternative method:

 

[Philip Ellwell 5,487]

No one's asked me out yet. 

[Raziel 248]

  On 2/5/2014 at 9:32 PM, Think Pink said:

So yeah, I'm legitimately curious. I don't know why, but this (school) year I've had 3 different guys try to ask me out and it's making me extremely uncomfortable. I tell them straight up no, sorry, but one of them will not stop trying to talk to me. I have told him he's creeping me out and to leave me alone, but it's obviously not working. (BTW if you are a boy, hint: no one will ever respect you and will probably want you dead if someone says no and you keep asking) He has no concept of personal space and doesn't seem to realize that I've said NO. So how do y'all handle this kind of thing? Is there anything specific you've said that's gotten someone to lay off? Because I've gotten to the point I'm probably going to beat him up and get expelled if he doesn't shut up. 

He's probably just trolling you to annoy~