Wisdomform 221 Posted November 11, 2013 I can't believe i'm doing this... I'll tell you a bit about my problem, but keep in mind I don't really like talking about personal things. This I just really needed to get off my chest. At the moment I am no longer on speaking terms with my older sister, she has done too many bad things to me - and my family. People say to forgive and forget and no matter how hard I try, I just can't. Every year she does the same bad things over and over and she pushes me to the side and i'm done. I've always been there for her, and I've been more than kind. So now I just don't care and I don't want to talk to her. Am I making the right choice by ignoring her? cause she doesn't even bother with me, so maybe I am. I really wish it didn't have to be this way, cause we use to be close. I guess the older we get the more we grow apart. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ToBeReverenced 10 Posted November 11, 2013 I think you should continue to be a kind and respectable person towards her. And perhaps you'll be a good influence. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wisdomform 221 Posted November 11, 2013 I think you should continue to be a kind and respectable person towards her. And perhaps you'll be a good influence. Maybe your right. but it's difficult to be kind, to someone who isn't kind in return. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Orchestrafanboy19 101 Posted November 12, 2013 Listen, it might be rough, but no matter what, don't give up on her. Even if she continues to be rude, one day, God knows when, she will come around and realize how much you care for her. Even if she doesn't, you can at least take comfort in the fact that you tried. You never gave up on her, even if she gave up on you. If you simply ignore her, you'll only push her further away. However, don't baby her either. I can't tell you how many people I've heard of who won over their family members who were opposed to them simply by never giving up on them and treating them with respect. So, hang in there. Even if things seem bleak, if your sister ever does come around, it will be well worth it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
riku13 148 Posted November 12, 2013 Maybe your right. but it's difficult to be kind, to someone who isn't kind in return. maybe one day she'll realize your looking out for her and feel bad for treating you bad and change herself. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sora232323 36 Posted November 12, 2013 You need to tell her how you and your family feel. If she continues just ignore her Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WakingDawn96 1,166 Posted November 12, 2013 You play the role of Thor and she shall play the role of Loki, if you know what I mean. 2 Fruitninja21 and Wisdomform reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fruitninja21 14 Posted November 12, 2013 I agree with Sora232323. You should confront her and let her know how feeling and if she doesn't care enough to make herself a better for you and your family then just forget about her. 1 Sora232323 reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wisdomform 221 Posted November 12, 2013 (edited) You play the role of Thor and she shall play the role of Loki, if you know what I mean. Wow funny you should say that, I've been comparing me and my sister to them lately Thank you everyone for the advice, I appreciate it very much. I think i'm going to try to keep everything civil between me and her, and let it work out on it's own. Nothing stays the same forever. Edited November 12, 2013 by Wisdomform Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WakingDawn96 1,166 Posted November 12, 2013 Well, when I was reading your problem, it just remind me of Thor and Loki, so I guess you really are going through one of their problems. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
