I Need Help With These People I Just Met...

[Shana09 5,769]

Okay so I talked to these 3 girls who apparently knew my name and starts saying hi to me for the past couple of weeks. I found it kind of weird at first since I barely knew them but after I started to get to know them and they start talking to me a bit I started to like them. Now another friend told me that they are actually quite bitchy, as in they try to get to know a person that doesn't talk and laugh at them. I do notice they laugh a lot so I am feeling very conflicted about this, are they really trying to be friends with me or are they just messing with me? 

 

I mean I have one of the girls phone number and all, I don't really know what is going on at this point. 

[Kaweebo 3,617]

To be honest, that's probably true. I'd recommend vacating the premises. Avoid contact. Whatever you do, don't mention your love of the Hanky Panky. Very important. Learned that the hard way. 

[rainbowdash64 194]

I would try to seriously talk to one of them about it. You say you have one of their numbers, I would text/call/contact her and tell her the situation, how you feel about it, and what she thinks of it.Unless that's not how girls work... I'm a guy (though I'm quite girly) and this is how I would approach it if it was my situation.

[HarLea Quinn 26,501]

Kids can be cruel so it could be true . Trust is something that is earned so until they earn your trust I wouldn't trust them with anything important or get too close. Over time the truth will come out .

[MyDixieRect 2,061]

Stay the course for a while, talk to them and such like normal just in case they're actually being nice but now be aware to not give out any personal details or secrets to them in case they really are mean girls and hopefully you'll find out soon which type they are.

[Shana09 5,769]

  On 10/23/2013 at 10:27 PM, Winner's Proof said:

Stay the course for a while, talk to them and such like normal just in case they're actually being nice but now be aware to not give out any personal details or secrets to them in case they really are mean girls and hopefully you'll find out soon which type they are.

 

I was going watch my words, but I just really hope they aren't just playing with me and making me feel like an idiot. That's what bothers me the most, I'm good at keeping personal details but that wasn't what the real problem is. 

 

  On 10/23/2013 at 10:21 PM, rainbowdash64 said:

I would try to seriously talk to one of them about it. You say you have one of their numbers, I would text/call/contact her and tell her the situation, how you feel about it, and what she thinks of it.Unless that's not how girls work... I'm a guy (though I'm quite girly) and this is how I would approach it if it was my situation.

 

I think that wouldn't be the best situation, I mean they might get offended if its not true, and if it is true then they will definitely attack whoever told me or me, or worse the both of us.

 

 

  On 10/23/2013 at 10:22 PM, Flaming Lea said:

Kids can be cruel so it could be true . Trust is something that is earned so until they earn your trust I wouldn't trust them with anything important or get too close. Over time the truth will come out .

 

I guess thats the way to go, but the thing is I really liked talking with them sometimes and its a real bummer if they are truly like this. I guess I wont get too close at all, thanks. 

 

 

  On 10/23/2013 at 10:18 PM, Kaweebo said:

To be honest, that's probably true. I'd recommend vacating the premises. Avoid contact. Whatever you do, don't mention your love of the Hanky Panky. Very important. Learned that the hard way. 

 

I can't if they contact me all the time. I don't usually say hi or anything unless someone talks to me first, then I can go on with the conversation, or if I know the person well enough. So avoiding them will seem rude and they could possible take it the wrong way. 

Edited October 23, 2013 by Shana09

[CROW 115]

  On 10/23/2013 at 10:21 PM, rainbowdash64 said:

I would try to seriously talk to one of them about it. You say you have one of their numbers, I would text/call/contact her and tell her the situation, how you feel about it, and what she thinks of it.

^ that and depending on how she reacts, you can probably see how she really is. Is she bitchy about it, like what the hell are you thinking of me or something, dunno, she's the bitch she's said to be, if she's understandable and all, she's probably a nice person.

 

I usually like to make my own opinion about someone rather than listen to someone else who says stuff about them, but it's never wrong to have some suspicions.

[Lalalablah 1,539]

I met a really nice person a few years ago but my best friend hated her from some dispute a while back and convinced me she was a bitch. So long story short I ended up ruining a potential friendship and not to mention my best friend hasn't talked to me in an entire year now lol. Soo use your good judgment.

[Sora 2,185]

Yeah I'd agree with talking to them, but not getting too personal with them.

 

See none of this would be a problem if KH13 High School was real

[Shana09 5,769]

  On 10/23/2013 at 10:31 PM, CROW said:

^ that and depending on how she reacts, you can probably see how she really is. Is she bitchy about it, like what the hell are you thinking of me or something, dunno, she's the bitch she's said to be, if she's understandable and all, she's probably a nice person.

 

I usually like to make my own opinion about someone rather than listen to someone else who says stuff about them, but it's never wrong to have some suspicions.

 

Well I'm new to the school so I kind not sure how each person actually acts, so I am kind of in need to know how someone is. 

 

 

  On 10/23/2013 at 10:32 PM, Lalalablah said:

I met a really nice person a few years ago but my best friend hated her from some dispute a while back and convinced me she was a bitch. So long story short I ended up ruining a potential friendship and not to mention my best friend hasn't talked to me in an entire year now lol. Soo use your good judgment.

 

I guess this makes me feel better about the situation.

Honestly my friend said this about the 3 of them:

 

- They cause unnecessary drama

- They usually talk to quiet kids, act like they are being friendly, but actually they are laughing at their faces and behind their back but they don't make it obvious. (She referred to them as firetrucked up people) 

 

What they have done with me so far is...

 

- Girl A, B and C all say hi to me each time they see me.

- Girl A chose to work with me in Lab one time and she talked to me about general stuff. We joked around for quite some time. Of course we didn't always joke around, we just ask each other stuff. And she says some of the stuff I do is cool.

- Girl B says hi, talks to me, and helped me with some work.

- Girl C just talks to me a few times.

- I once overheard though, Girl A and Girl B come near me when I was meeting an old friend saying "What is she doing here?" Not sure I heard wrong, but I heard something. 

- Girl A also got my phone number.

- Girl A joined with me to mess with my friend for fun, it was a big joke though and he knew it. Similar to how I mess with some people like Xaon, Hei or Xylek here.

 

 

So...I think thats what happened so far. What do you think? 

0 - 10

0 if being they are messing with me.

10 if they are being friendly. 

Edited October 23, 2013 by Shana09

[Pangoro "Sen" 445]

This is basically, for me anyways, half of the girls in my grade, and 1/4 of the boys in my grade. I know who acts to me the way that your friends supposedly do. Allow me to just say this...if they ARE making you look like an idiot, then you'll find out eventually. That's all the experience I've ever had, and the same might happen for you...for better or worse.

[Lalalablah 1,539]

I honestly can't decide how to rate their personalities.

 

And I mean, a lot of girls (and guys) are two faced. They may be nice to you one moment and then gossip about you the next. Or maybe they're using you to get to someone else, who knows. Try to remain unbiased and then decide whether these are people you want to hang out with or not

[Shana09 5,769]

  On 10/23/2013 at 10:52 PM, Lalalablah said:

I honestly can't decide how to rate their personalities.

 

And I mean, a lot of girls (and guys) are two faced. They may be nice to you one moment and then gossip about you the next. Or maybe they're using you to get to someone else, who knows. Try to remain unbiased and then decide whether these are people you want to hang out with or not

 

I guess, I'm just going to hope for the best they aren't gossiping about me. 

[AntonioKHT 449]

I'm not sure if we can grade them  In my opinion, you should listen to your friends, but judge what's going on yourself. You could get hurt in the end, but there's no reason to end the friendship that was made between you, until they give you a reason. Otherwise, you could be making a mistake. Just like directly asking them if the story is true, like you said. I once misjudged someone, and my friend told me she was a cool person. And it turned out to be true. But i've heard bad things from people I've been close to for a while, all lies.

It's not easy, but don't rush things. I know people already mentioned it, but you should be careful if those stories are around. And even if it's just some lie, you won't hurt them. Soooo, smoothly

[Shana09 5,769]

Thanks guys I really appreciate this. I was feeling so conflicted and anxious once I found out, but I think I'm a little better now. I'll try to lay low but get to know them and see if my other friend was telling the truth. 

[DJ369 183]

If it were me, id stay cool with them but not be TOO involved with their whole situation. If my friends told me that these girls were like that, then I'd keep a CLOSE eye on them. Just observe and be ready for each possible outcome. If they really are gossiping about you, before hand think of some crunk things to say back to them. Like their clothes are ugly or bad makeup. Yknow all that girl trash talk. I'm a guy so I wouldn't know exactly lol I hope this helps

[Shana09 5,769]

  On 10/23/2013 at 11:19 PM, DJ369 said:

If it were me, id stay cool with them but not be TOO involved with their whole situation. If my friends told me that these girls were like that, then I'd keep a CLOSE eye on them. Just observe and be ready for each possible outcome. If they really are gossiping about you, before hand think of some crunk things to say back to them. Like their clothes are ugly or bad makeup. Yknow all that girl trash talk. I'm a guy so I wouldn't know exactly lol I hope this helps

 

I highly doubt that would work out well. I'll take the advice about keeping a close eye on them though, thanks. 

[VisitJoan 2,713]

Yep, I've been there.  Best thing that happened was that most of them went to a different high school, and those that didn't actually became my friends because we were able to forgive and they realized it was wrong.  If you're really worried about it, just ignore them.  If you need to, hand out the one girl's phone number when you're at the store.

[Neptune Vasilias 340]

Scope them out and see what you can dig up about them, then go in cautiously approach and get to know them then fake a open,friendly demeanor till you can analyze them and formulate a good and effective plan that works toward your best interests while slowly mapping their minds and attitudes then Engage the target. At least hat's how I make friends

[Tigerruss 576]

I have had a similar thing happen to me. Only more so matching your friend's story, maybe. Though I personally didn't care to spend time with them, and they did try to tease me. But I worked my way around that no problem. And I won all staring contests they challenged me to. I am not sure what their intentions were, but it is possible they were wanting someone they could tease. (though I didn't do that for them.)What I am saying is yeah, I have had people almost randomly know my name before. And yes I might seem a bit shy at times, though they were also teasing each other, so I am not sure if I was a target or not. Either way it doesn't really apply to you, I was just sharing my similar experience.Though my opinion on what you are going through is to judge them for yourself. If you like them stay being their friends, but don't let them push you around or turn you into a yes (wo)man. I also suggest that if they ever say anything about your older friends that you test to see if it is accurate. (or find out if it is true) For they might seem "nice", but truly be manipulative. Usually it is good anyways to clear your mind and then think things through when anyone says something that creates a great emotional response. (unless if you want your emotions to carry you)

[kalnet 1,198]

You can be nice to them if you want to but be cautious of them if what your friend said about them is true. They didn't do anything bad to you and you didn't do anything bad to them. Don't worry and just go along as usual. Be at a distant from them if you feel uncomfortable. Just remember that you know them more than us here and you have the better judgement here on what kind of character they are.

 

(off topic - You became a Sec.mod! Congratulations! =D)

[Shana09 5,769]

  On 10/24/2013 at 5:18 AM, Tigerruss said:

I have had a similar thing happen to me. Only more so matching your friend's story, maybe. Though I personally didn't care to spend time with them, and they did try to tease me. But I worked my way around that no problem. And I won all staring contests they challenged me to. I am not sure what their intentions were, but it is possible they were wanting someone they could tease. (though I didn't do that for them.)What I am saying is yeah, I have had people almost randomly know my name before. And yes I might seem a bit shy at times, though they were also teasing each other, so I am not sure if I was a target or not. Either way it doesn't really apply to you, I was just sharing my similar experience.Though my opinion on what you are going through is to judge them for yourself. If you like them stay being their friends, but don't let them push you around or turn you into a yes (wo)man. I also suggest that if they ever say anything about your older friends that you test to see if it is accurate. (or find out if it is true) For they might seem "nice", but truly be manipulative. Usually it is good anyways to clear your mind and then think things through when anyone says something that creates a great emotional response. (unless if you want your emotions to carry you)

 

This really helps, thanks.

 

  On 10/24/2013 at 9:04 AM, kalnet said:

You can be nice to them if you want to but be cautious of them if what your friend said about them is true. They didn't do anything bad to you and you didn't do anything bad to them. Don't worry and just go along as usual. Be at a distant from them if you feel uncomfortable. Just remember that you know them more than us here and you have the better judgement here on what kind of character they are.

 

(off topic - You became a Sec.mod! Congratulations! =D)

 

The thing is that I don't know if they are doing anything bad to me. But i'll use my best judgement.

(thanks uwu)

[Col.Random 3,683]

Try to learn a couple of personal things about them in case they try to blackmail or humiliate you, you'll hopefully have something to counter. (do it carefully though, you don't want to look like you suspect them. If they're incredibly reluctant to answer any such questions that just gives you more reason to be suspicious of them)Don't get too close, that's always a bad idea when you can't trust someone.You might need to come up with a few lies, at least until you know you can trust them. (NOTE: I am still unsure of the lies part because it could be bad if they actually DO turn out to be people who wanna be friends with you)Carry a pocket knife

[kalnet 1,198]

  On 10/24/2013 at 11:47 AM, Shana09 said:

This really helps, thanks.

 

 

The thing is that I don't know if they are doing anything bad to me. But i'll use my best judgement.

(thanks uwu)

 

Just don't think and let it get to you too much alright. It's ok to be cautious, but yeah. Use your best judgement.

[EpiXauce 19]

I'll give advice, but this is a biased opinion, for two reasons: 

I'm a guy, so, of course, I don't know how exactly girls work.

Almost ALL the girls at my school do exactly what your friend said. 

 

Based on those reasons, here is what I would do:

I would just drop all contact with them. I wouldn't start any conversations with them or even acknowledge them. If they talked to me, I would give short answers and if they persisted, put an edge in my voice to let them know I don't want to talk. But, you probably don't want to do this because you don't want to be rude. 

 

Seriously though, in my school, girls have been acting like this for at least the past 3 years. I've reached the point where, if a girl says hi to me for no reason, especially if they're in a group (2 or more) I give them a quick "hey" and completely ignore them if they continue to talk to me. (There are exceptions of course, mostly just if they're my friend, or a friend's friend, or if my friend seems to be okay with them ) 

 

inb4 this information isn't relevant anymore