Cyberbullying (kinda :/)

[SoraKH 793]

Yeah so i've got a really serious problem and i need to talk it out

 

Yesterday i was checking my late night notifications on facebook when i saw a status that was funny so i commented. The girl that wrote the status is not a really good friend of me i just know her. So yeah then everyone started commentig and i was filling up wuth notifications. They were posting stupid things and i asked them to stop (my first mistake). Then a boy popped out of nowhere and said something offensive, and i replied backi with something more offensive, something really harsh (my second mistake) and i'm still regreting it. Then another one popped up and told me that he will hit me really hard and the other one continued that he would f*ck me. Regreted of what i just did i deleted my posts but then they started adding me as friend and started commenting on my profile picture. I asked the girl that wrote the status if she knows them and she told me that she know him and he is serious that he will hit me! My parents adviced me to lie and tell him that i have been hacked (third and worst mistake!). But anyway sunce they are my parents i told him but he didn't believe me and he says that he will find me! I'm scared i know i caused this but i really need help guys please?

Edited September 1, 2013 by SoraKH

[Xer 670]

Hello SoraKH.

 

If she is not a really good friend of yours, do not trust her, she can be "bluffing". If you are already on school time you could report to your principal either if he hasn't yet beaten you or if he already has.

 

If not in that time, school, you can stay at home, or you can also defend yourself.

 

Not many solutions here, though.

[SoraKH 793]

Hello SoraKH. If she is not a really good friend of yours, do not trust her, she can be "bluffing". If you are already on school time you could report to your principal either if he hasn't yet beaten you or if he already has. If not in that time, school, you can stay at home, or you can also defend yourself. Not many solutions here, though.

No still, on summer vacation :/He is not in my school too...But i geard he is dangerous!

[advfox 698]

I don't know about Facebook, but I can guarantee that this boy will not find you and hit you. These are just stupid things people say on the internet. Even if he were actually coming for you, don't lie. Just face whoever he is upfront. 

[Xer 670]

No still, on summer vacation :/He is not in my school too...But i geard he is dangerous!

And, there you go.

 

She was bluffing, he will not find you, not from your school, happily ever live forever.

Don't worry, live your summer vacation, it's ending, lol, way worst than bullies.

[SoraKH 793]

And, there you go. She was bluffing, he will not find you, not from your school, happily ever live forever.Don't worry, live your summer vacation, it's ending, lol, way worst than bullies.

lol yeah you're right Its just he is in the same city with me but i hope he will not

[advfox 698]

lol yeah you're right Its just he is in the same city with me but i hope he will not

One lesson you can learn from this is to never reply to offensive comments. Just ignore them. 

[SoraKH 793]

One lesson you can learn from this is to never reply to offensive comments. Just ignore them.

Lol ya in learned this the hard way :s thank you anyway fir the advice

[Col.Random 3,683]

Word of advice: Don't add people you don't know, even if you go to the same school.Try taking some classes to teach yourself how to fight. This guy may be bluffing, but it's always useful to know how to deal with violent assholes

Edited September 1, 2013 by Col.Random

[JayReaper 27]

What did you write that sparked so much conflict? My advice would be to forget about it and see what happens. I know these days cyber-bullying has become this major issue and kids are told to report these types of threats their teachers but the kids that do that never remain anonymous as much as teachers would like you to believe. I can tell you one thing, being labeled as a snitch is a lot worse than dealing with the problem on your own. I know a kid who snitched on someone who made fun of them on facebook. Let's just say he ended up having to move to another city.It all depends too. How old are you? What did you say to the kid? Chances are he's bluffing, as are 90% of the people who make threats over the internet.I suggest deleting your Facebook honestly, I did. Nothing but immature drama, pictures of people you barely know, and kids posting preachy ass quotes they found on tumblr that they think are "deep" and somehow relevant to their lives.

[SoraKH 793]

Word of advice: Don't add people you don't know, even if you go to the same school.Try taking some classes to teach yourself how to fight. This guy may be bluffing, but it's always useful to know how to deal with violent assholes

I didnt add him, but he says that he doesnt belivw me and that he will find me and hurt me a lot. I started doing bixing but i stopped Yeah but know i'm lost! I dont know what to do

What did you write that sparked so much conflict? My advice would be to forget about it and see what happens. I know these days cyber-bullying has become this major issue and kids are told to report these types of threats their teachers but the kids that do that never remain anonymous as much as teachers would like you to believe. I can tell you one thing, being labeled as a snitch is a lot worse than dealing with the problem on your own. I know a kid who snitched on someone who made fun of them on facebook. Let's just say he ended up having to move to another city.It all depends too. How old are you? What did you say to the kid? Chances are he's bluffing, as are 90% of the people who make threats over the internet.I suggest deleting your Facebook honestly, I did. Nothing but immature drama, pictures of people you barely know, and kids posting preachy ass quotes they found on tumblr that they think are "deep" and somehow relevant to their lives.

Thats the wrong thin I did. I talked about his mother ( Huge mistake) I would never do that but I dont know what happened I just lost my control and i typed it in. I thought of hiding my facebook but my sister says that I will show that i'm scared of him and that will be worse. He is 2 years older than me I made a mess

[xxClouDxxmoon 901]

Carry a knife or knuckle dusters or something. Assuming you are a guy, if he looks way out of your league, you should definately carry something to protect yourself with. Nothing worse then a guy bashing someone for no real serious reason and they are way smaller/weaker and dont know how to fight. But I dont know your full situation, and if you carry a knife just to warn them off, dont. Then they will actually come back with knives and mess you up. Only carry one if you are intent on using it, and if its serious. Also knuckle dusters are usefull, but to use them you need to know how to punch.

[MythrilMagician 6,963]

If i were you I'd block anyone who starts being a jackass to me.

[JayReaper 27]

Maybe you should just apologize.  To me it sounds like your comments towards him were probably uncalled for in the first place.  Don't worry about being called a pussy either, he's the one threatening a kid who is 2 years younger than him over the internet.  All you have to say is "Hey look man, I was out of line earlier.  I don't know why I said that about your mom I was just being impulsive because I was mad, I apologize. There's no reason to fight over this."  That's a better option than snitching and probably a better option than fighting because it doesn't sound like you have much experience with that lol.  And don't bring a knife to fight this kid, I know too many people that have gone to jail for involving weapons where they didn't need to be involved, some of them close friends.  If the kid can't accept your apology then don't even waste your time with him.

[Sakuraba Neku 660]

Solution for cyberbullying: block them!

 

Solution for bullying: ignore them you're just better than that. You can always beat them too

[SoraKH 793]

Thank you guys for the good words I'll inform you if something happens

[Janssye 24]

Don't worry, barking dogs never bite! 

[Tigerruss 576]

I think the best life lesson you can take from this. Is if you are interacting with people you don't know on facebook, don't get into an insult war. If you want someone to stop something and you feel like telling them to stop, do it in a polite way. Basically play an "angel" if you are going to do something like that on Facebook, sure your "niceness" will still piss the people off, but they will feel more distressed and less justified with "I want to beat you up." (It also highlights what type of people they are, for all to see, though then again someone could want to beat you up because of that.)Also, I would suggest if you truly want to delete some of your comments after a fight, apologize first (otherwise it just seems like a ploy to make them seem like an ******* even if it is true), or if you are going to play the "hacked" route, go and post a message "0_0 What just happened here, umm, I forgot to sign out at the library/applestore or whatever, I am going to delete their offensive messages and I apologize for the trouble they caused."

[Sora'sMum 352]

My girlfriend at the time's ex-boyfriend threatened to come to my house and attack me. Apparently he had access to her facebook messages, so he could potentially have seen all the messages I'd sent her, including my address. Long story short, we went to the police, put up security cameras at the front of my house, and he backed the f@ck up. Never heard from him again HAHAHAH

Edited September 1, 2013 by Sora'sMum

[Lady Aleister 1,677]

Gyyyaaa That's terrible Neko is sorry. That is why Im not on Facebook a lot and have like no friends on Facebook and less friends in real life. I have no idea what to tell you just try and stay off of Facebook maybe for a while and stay safe around these people!

[Lalalablah 1,538]

Facebook threats are usually empty, same goes for a majority of the threats online. I'm sorry you guys got in a fight, that's never fun

It will all be ok, just block the bully and move on, you are so much better than them and don't need to stoop down to their level. I hope it all goes well : )

Let me know, ok!

[SoraKH 793]

I think the best life lesson you can take from this. Is if you are interacting with people you don't know on facebook, don't get into an insult war. If you want someone to stop something and you feel like telling them to stop, do it in a polite way. Basically play an "angel" if you are going to do something like that on Facebook, sure your "niceness" will still piss the people off, but they will feel more distressed and less justified with "I want to beat you up." (It also highlights what type of people they are, for all to see, though then again someone could want to beat you up because of that.)Also, I would suggest if you truly want to delete some of your comments after a fight, apologize first (otherwise it just seems like a ploy to make them seem like an ******* even if it is true), or if you are going to play the "hacked" route, go and post a message "0_0 What just happened here, umm, I forgot to sign out at the library/applestore or whatever, I am going to delete their offensive messages and I apologize for the trouble they caused."

Thanks for the advice but thats what I did! I know its wring lying but it was the in,y thing i could do. I told him that i didn't know i was hackedand he didnt believe me... aghh i dont know what to do I talked with a close friend and she said that i do t have to worry there is not a chance if him finding me. But still i've got a lot of friends and every friend has its own "clique" i mean i could easily meet him in a party or tpat a gathering. My town is very small everyone kniws eachother... thats just the problem.

Facebook threats are usually empty, same goes for a majority of the threats online. I'm sorry you guys got in a fight, that's never fun :/It will all be ok, just block the bully and move on, you are so much better than them and don't need to stoop down to their level. I hope it all goes well : )Let me know, ok!

Aww thank you Actually i blocked him and his whole "gang" But still like i said to Tigerruss i live in a small town and they can easily find me.. And i heard tht he goes around with his gangand beats people up... I'm scared

[Tigerruss 576]

Thanks for the advice but thats what I did! I know its wring lying but it was the in,y thing i could do. I told him that i didn't know i was hackedand he didnt believe me... aghh i dont know what to do I talked with a close friend and she said that i do t have to worry there is not a chance if him finding me. But still i've got a lot of friends and every friend has its own "clique" i mean i could easily meet him in a party or tpat a gathering. My town is very small everyone kniws eachother... thats just the problem.Aww thank you Actually i blocked him and his whole "gang" But still like i said to Tigerruss i live in a small town and they can easily find me.. And i heard tht he goes around with his gangand beats people up... I'm scared

I personally wouldn't claim I was hacked even if I was in a situation like that, but if I did, I would be sure to give a logical reason for the getting hacked if I claimed it. (That is what I was saying)

If worse comes to worse, you could go to the cops... But generally that could generate lots of hate especially in a small town. "I know they were threatening to beat you up (or actually did it once if it happens), but you didn't need to call the cops on 'em." Stuff like that... Then again it could have the exact oposite reaction. 

[Lalalablah 1,538]

Thanks for the advice but thats what I did! I know its wring lying but it was the in,y thing i could do. I told him that i didn't know i was hackedand he didnt believe me... aghh i dont know what to do I talked with a close friend and she said that i do t have to worry there is not a chance if him finding me. But still i've got a lot of friends and every friend has its own "clique" i mean i could easily meet him in a party or tpat a gathering. My town is very small everyone kniws eachother... thats just the problem.Aww thank you Actually i blocked him and his whole "gang" But still like i said to Tigerruss i live in a small town and they can easily find me.. And i heard tht he goes around with his gangand beats people up... I'm scared

Who did you hear that from? If you heard it from someone you don't really know chances are it is exaggerated. Anyone who goes out of their way to find and fight some guy on facebook over a simple comment is messed up in the head.

You should be safe though. If you are scared though tell somebody and ask for help. If this guy makes another threat to you that leaves you feeling worried, tell your parents or your school guidance counselor. Since this kid doesn't go to your school it won't be hard to explain the situation to the counselor (because y'know how it can be hard to seek help from them if the problem is coming from inside of the school). He or she will help you to the best of his/her abilities. Don't go seeking him out though with a group of friends. That will just cause more problems haha

[SoraKH 793]

I personally wouldn't claim I was hacked even if I was in a situation like that, but if I did, I would be sure to give a logical reason for the getting hacked if I claimed it. (That is what I was saying)

 

If worse comes to worse, you could go to the cops... But generally that could generate lots of hate especially in a small town. "I know they were threatening to beat you up (or actually did it once if it happens), but you didn't need to call the cops on 'em." Stuff like that... Then again it could have the exact oposite reaction.

I didnt want to lie. Because then i'd have to lie again and again. But since my parents told me to lie i did Lol i'll go to the cops if they beat me up ;p But if they dont i'll just let it go. What do you mean when you say thay it could have the exact opposite reaction?

Who did you hear that from? If you heard it from someone you don't really know chances are it is exaggerated. Anyone who goes out of their way to find and fight some guy on facebook over a simple comment is messed up in the head.

You should be safe though. If you are scared though tell somebody and ask for help. If this guy makes another threat to you that leaves you feeling worried, tell your parents or your school guidance counselor. Since this kid doesn't go to your school it won't be hard to explain the situation to the counselor (because y'know how it can be hard to seek help from them if the problem is coming from inside of the school). He or she will help you to the best of his/her abilities. Don't go seeking him out though with a group of friends. That will just cause more problems haha

Well i dont know the girl. I only saw her one or two times. I'm just worried because i asked her if he is serious and she answered that he goes around and beats people up with his gang. Thats exactly what she said... Well i don't know if she is lying but why would she lie to me. I blocked him on facebook so he cant messgae me, or look at my posts. And school hasn't started. But i doubt a counselor would help me ehh yeah they are not helpful at all. I'm scared that he may actually come and beat me up. I kepp saying these thing over and over again! I'm scared

Edited September 1, 2013 by darkchaser