sexuality and gender confusion

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

gonna be writing informally in this topic so be warned.not sure which of you know since i wasn’t as active when most of you joined the site/became active yourselves but i’m bisexual. or i identify as bisexual though to be honest i’m really freaking confused right now.

bisexuality is defined as a sexual attraction to both binary genders. meaning men and women. but i’ve felt attraction to people who don’t identify within the gender binary so yeah i don’t know what’s going on. i initially thought maybe i was pansexual, but pansexuality is where you’re attracted to someone’s character/personality regardless of gender. and i don’t feel that way at all???? when it comes to sexual attraction, it’s definitely has something to do with the gender of the person. yet i know i don’t feel attracted to trans*people or in my experience, i’ve never been exposed enough to someone who is trans*gender to think of wanting to be with them in an intimate way.

i basically have the same dilemma with my romantic orientation.SO IDK MANalso regarding genderi’ve felt a lot lately that gender does not matter to me sometimes. sometimes i feel like a girl, sometimes i don’t feel like any gender. so basically agender. i switch between both… so i guess that would mean i’m genderfluid. though my biggest issue with identify as a non binary gender is pronouns. i still have trouble with gender neutral pronouns. i’m much more comfortable with female pronouns because it’s so deeply ingrained in the two languages i speak in. (not to mention, the french language has no gender neutral pronouns.) despite this, i know if people use female pronouns when referring to me, they’ll still think of me as a woman. especially a few members of the forum who don’t believe in non binary genders and will basically think, “Hurr hurr you can be who you want but that doesn’t change your anatomy and having a vagina will always mean you’re 100% girl even if you don’t think you are,” or “You’ll always be a woman and will be treated as such.” and i don’t want that. i’d rather be referred to with female pronouns while people mentally acknowledging i’m genderfluid/non binary.so i’m not really sure what to do :cmost of the time i just think SCREW LABELS AND firetruck GENDER/ROMANTICISM/SEXUALITYBUT YEAH UM CONSIDERING I’M REALLY SCARED BY BEING SO OPEN ON HERE, SOME SUPPORT AND MAYBE A FEW ANSWERS WOULD BE NICE Q_Q 

[Queen Tery 4,591]

You're Genn. That's all that really matters. You just got to figure out what's important and what's not. Personally I don't think it should matter what other people think of you. It's whatever you think. Be attracted to who you want. The label's not as important, imo, because the label is only used to help other people try to understand how you feel. But hey, I support you and in time you'll figure out what's what. 

[King Riku 2,063]

I really think that you should just go by what you feel, and not let others tell you how you feel is wrong or whatever. I mean, you like who you do, it doesn't matter if they're male, female, or don't go by either. It's the person that matters. You're yourself, not just a male or female, you know? You can be attracted to whoever you want, it's YOU that has to live your life, so don't go letting others tell you how you should live it, or who you should be. Because you're Genn, and it's up to you who you want to be.

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

You're Genn. That's all that really matters. You just got to figure out what's important and what's not. Personally I don't think it should matter what other people think of you. It's whatever you think. Be attracted to who you want. The label's not as important, imo, because the label is only used to help other people try to understand how you feel. But hey, I support you and in time you'll figure out what's what. 

 

 

I really think that you should just go by what you feel, and not let others tell you how you feel is wrong or whatever. I mean, you like who you do, it doesn't matter if they're male, female, or don't go by either. It's the person that matters. You're yourself, not just a male or female, you know? You can be attracted to whoever you want, it's YOU that has to live your life, so don't go letting others tell you how you should live it, or who you should be. Because you're Genn, and it's up to you who you want to be.

 

You guys are perfect. ;_;

[Shana09 5,769]

About your romantic attraction, it could be that you are attracted to someones biological gender rather than what they want to be identified as? You can be a bisexual, but I think the "sexual" part as to reference from the biological gender rather than the inner gender (you know, like genderqueer and such).

 

Besides don't fret on your gender that much, your personality matters. You don't have to act like a girl if your a female, you don't have to act like a man if you're a male, and you don't have to act like neither if you're another gender. Your personality ≠ your gender. You can identify yourself as you want, but just know that you don't have to act like a certain gender to be identified as that certain gender. Unless you want to create the Genn gender (Gennder). 

[Firaga 5,947]

Just do ya thing, baby. Just do ya thing.

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

About your romantic attraction, it could be that you are attracted to someones biological gender rather than what they want to be identified as? You can be a bisexual, but I think the "sexual" part as to reference from the biological gender rather than the inner gender (you know, like genderqueer and such).

 

Besides don't fret on your gender that much, your personality matters. You don't have to act like a girl if your a female, you don't have to act like a man if you're a male, and you don't have to act like neither if you're another gender. Your personality ≠ your gender. You can identify yourself as you want, but just know that you don't have to act like a certain gender to be identified as that certain gender. Unless you want to create the Genn gender (Gennder). 

 

 

Just do ya thing, baby. Just do ya thing.

 

Bless ur faces i hope your life is filled with flowers and sunshine and chocolate that will make you happy forever cuz ur great

 

ok i'm done

[Isamu Kuno 2,512]

Well, If this helps, "Gender" is defined as a mental state while "Sex" (when referring to the biology, not reproduction) is defined as a physical state.

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

Well, If this helps, "Gender" is defined as a mental state while "Sex" (when referring to the biology, not reproduction) is defined as a physical state.

 

Exactly! I more or less feel genderless mentally even though I do have moments where I feel like a girl because, well, it's always been my assigned gender.

[xblade85 13]

just do what you want dont listen to anyone or let anyone tell you what to do

[KeybladeMasterBalo 504]

You know I'm in a really similar situation, I just want to know what is it that I really want... "Don't lose sight of your light"

[Mchappy_ 29]

In my personal opinion, labels are just limiting society these days.  We're all human beings and should not feel the need to act a certain way because of a specific sexual organ: love what/who you want to love and be whatever the firetruck you want to be.  

 

I'm not sure I was much help.

Edited June 26, 2013 by Mchappy_

[143436611Xxcc 1,105]

I think that your thinking about it too much. Go with the flow.

[Ghost 1,857]

I don't think it matters. Wait firetruck that of course it DOES matter, but all you have to know is you're not alone in this. I guess the only way for you yourself to know what's going on inside YOU (besides food being digested, air being transported through your beans etc.) is to find out from personal experiences, as you grow and face new things.

 

Heck I don't even know what I identify as, so when people ask me "oh are you gay/straight Christian/atheist blah blah blah what do you identify as" I'm like "Nah son, I'm Ducky*." Nowadays thanks to our society being so..."colourful", I guess is the word, there are so many different types of people you'll have the opportunity of meeting on a daily basis. Then there are people who think they are LIMITED to the labels that we make popular, but you're really not.

 

For all anyone cares, make your own label if nothing fits your bill!

 

It's easier than it sounds, but just be yourself. As for all this confusion welp it'll just become clearer and clearer as time moves on, as you discover new things and create new memories.

 

...

 

Well that's just how I see it anyways

 

GOOD LUCK WITH LIFE!!! (because EVERYBODY's gonna need it)

 

 

* = insert real name here

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

I think that your thinking about it too much. Go with the flow.

 

It's cause I'm so confused by the way I feel, lol.

I don't think it matters. Wait firetruck that of course it DOES matter, but all you have to know is you're not alone in this. I guess the only way for you yourself to know what's going on inside YOU (besides food being digested, air being transported through your beans etc.) is to find out from personal experiences, as you grow and face new things.Heck I don't even know what I identify as, so when people ask me "oh are you gay/straight Christian/atheist blah blah blah what do you identify as" I'm like "Nah son, I'm Ducky*." Nowadays thanks to our society being so..."colourful", I guess is the word, there are so many different types of people you'll have the opportunity of meeting on a daily basis. Then there are people who think they are LIMITED to the labels that we make popular, but you're really not.For all anyone cares, make your own label if nothing fits your bill!It's easier than it sounds, but just be yourself. As for all this confusion welp it'll just become clearer and clearer as time moves on, as you discover new things and create new memories....Well that's just how I see it anywaysGOOD LUCK WITH LIFE!!! (because EVERYBODY's gonna need it)* = insert real name here

 

ur a tru inspiration to human beings

[Ghost 1,857]

It's cause I'm so confused by the way I feel, lol.  ur a tru inspiration to human beings

Was that sarcasm? Sorry if I sounded like a dick it's just what I think ;_;

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

Was that sarcasm? Sorry if I sounded like a dick it's just what I think ;_;

 

i was half sarcastic. i really liked what you had to say but i also thought it was funny too hence my comment.

[Revolart 431]

Like everyone said just be yourself. Thing to rmb is that you control your life not other people.

[Koko 3,944]

sexuality and gender is fluid and you shouldnt stress about identifying yourself but i understand how finding a label for you makes everything less confusing

i support you and anything that will make you happy and comfortable in this life and anyone who thinks otherwise is a sack of shit

ilu genn

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

sexuality and gender is fluid and you shouldnt stress about identifying yourself but i understand how finding a label for you makes everything less confusing

i support you and anything that will make you happy and comfortable in this life and anyone who thinks otherwise is a sack of shit

ilu genn

 

I REACHED MY QUOTA

 

but yes u r gr8 and thank u friend i know i can always count on u

[Protoman 1,974]

you go genn

tell society to go firetruck itself in its mouth

 

but high five for sexuality related confusion right

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

you go genn

tell society to go firetruck itself in its mouth

 

but high five for sexuality related confusion right

 

thank u proto ur super duper

 

that was only half sarcastic but i really appreciate it

[star7crystal 18]

Labels shouldn't matter so long as you're happy with yourself right?

[Weedanort 8,786]

You're Genn. That's all that really matters. You just got to figure out what's important and what's not. Personally I don't think it should matter what other people think of you. It's whatever you think. Be attracted to who you want. The label's not as important, imo, because the label is only used to help other people try to understand how you feel. But hey, I support you and in time you'll figure out what's what. 

 

I really think that you should just go by what you feel, and not let others tell you how you feel is wrong or whatever. I mean, you like who you do, it doesn't matter if they're male, female, or don't go by either. It's the person that matters. You're yourself, not just a male or female, you know? You can be attracted to whoever you want, it's YOU that has to live your life, so don't go letting others tell you how you should live it, or who you should be. Because you're Genn, and it's up to you who you want to be.

 

About your romantic attraction, it could be that you are attracted to someones biological gender rather than what they want to be identified as? You can be a bisexual, but I think the "sexual" part as to reference from the biological gender rather than the inner gender (you know, like genderqueer and such).

 

Besides don't fret on your gender that much, your personality matters. You don't have to act like a girl if your a female, you don't have to act like a man if you're a male, and you don't have to act like neither if you're another gender. Your personality ≠ your gender. You can identify yourself as you want, but just know that you don't have to act like a certain gender to be identified as that certain gender. Unless you want to create the Genn gender (Gennder). 

 

These.

 

If you like someone because of their personality, if you feel comfortable, then go for it

 

Just be yourself Genn, you've always been a person everyone likes

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

These.

 

If you like someone because of their personality, if you feel comfortable, then go for it

 

Just be yourself Genn, you've always been a person everyone likes

 

I hope so. ;n; Because people might say they like me but they might not actually respect my gender identity.

Edited June 26, 2013 by TheApprenticeofKingMickey