am i gay?

[Sorual 607]

yes i had a status conversation about this.

 

at the moment i'm completly strait. i have no romantic intrest in boys. i'm just wondering if i'm just gay in denile. is it possible to stop liking girls and start liking boys? i have a crush on a girl right now. can i hear someones thoughts?

[Dracozombie 4,554]

Here's a better question: why do you think you could "become" gay?

[Snow 1,800]

If you like girls, there actually might not be any reason to start liking boys. It's all up to you and what you prefer.At any rate, it's your choice and you should be content with whatever you choose. Nobody here will judge you.

[Caity 3,946]

Well, ponder this

When you see a hot guy, do you have sensual thoughts of embracing each other in a passionate manner?

 

If yes, you may be gay.  If you currently fancy some wee girl right now why are you even questioning it though.  

[Sorual 607]

If you like girls, there actually might not be any reason to start liking boys. It's all up to you and what you prefer.At any rate, it's your choice and you should be content with whatever you choose. Nobody here will judge you.

i heard from someone its not my choice.

[waytothexdawnx 1,159]

Believe it or not, this is a very normal question to ask yourself, others, and have certain feelings towards. As a teen, I thought I could have been bisexual because I thought, and still do think, women are very attractive. Then I found the stem of where it came from. I wish I looked like them. I can appreciate a great looking woman and I definitely look, but I don't find myself wanting to be with one sexually at all. Not because Im against it, but because thats just not how I feel. I love men. I love men's style, hair, mouth, arms, back.. I'm just attracted to men and want to be with a man. I've kissed girls before and felt nothing. Even though they were very attractive, I didn't feel anything sexually for them, or feel anything romantic either. I just like being with men.

 

You'll be able to tell if you want to be with the opposite sex. If you feel attracted to them, try what I did. Just make sure you let that person know you're "curious" and see how you feel when you kiss them. If you feel excited, happy, and want more… you could be bisexual. If you don't feel anything, you're not. If you're unsure, thats okay. Maybe it'll become more sure as you get older. If you don't want to expand your curiosity, thats fine. Do it when you're ready. If you never feel ready, don't do it. Just means you're not gay or bisexual.

 

Good luck!

[Silvia Kuroi 1,480]

If you have no interest in guys, and have a crush on a girl...then no, you're not gay. If someone says you are--ignore them. A lot of people, are, sadly, jerks who think being 'gay' is a bad thing. Which it isn't, nor should it be.

 

Of course, this all based on preference, so it is more or less up to you.

[Sorual 607]

Believe it or not, this is a very normal question to ask yourself, others, and have certain feelings towards. As a teen, I thought I could have been bisexual because I thought, and still do think, women are very attractive. Then I found the stem of where it came from. I wish I looked like them. I can appreciate a great looking woman and I definitely look, but I don't find myself wanting to be with one sexually at all. Not because Im against it, but because thats just not how I feel. I love men. I love men's style, hair, mouth, arms, back.. I'm just attracted to men and want to be with a man. I've kissed girls before and felt nothing. Even though they were very attractive, I didn't feel anything sexually for them, or feel anything romantic either. I just like being with men.

 

You'll be able to tell if you want to be with the opposite sex. If you feel attracted to them, try what I did. Just make sure you let that person know you're "curious" and see how you feel when you kiss them. If you feel excited, happy, and want more… you could be bisexual. If you don't feel anything, you're not. If you're unsure, thats okay. Maybe it'll become more sure as you get older. If you don't want to expand your curiosity, thats fine. Do it when you're ready. If you never feel ready, don't do it. Just means you're not gay or bisexual.

 

Good luck!

i dont have any friends who would agree to kiss me. and if i'm not bi or gay i wont enjoy it. i dont want my first kiss to be something i dont enjoy. i appretiate the advise tho.

[Weiss 8,279]

First off, being gay is not a choice and it is never a choice.

I don't think you're in denial. If you liked guys you would know. You say you have no romantic interest in guys so I assume you mean sexual interest as well so considering all of that you're probably not gay.

Edited May 11, 2013 by Weiss

[RoxSox 3,593]

If you have to ask if you're gay, then you're probably not gay. That's kind of something you know, considering it's pretty simple: If you are attracted to women, you're straight, if you're attracted to men, you're gay, if you're attracted to both, then you're bisexual.

 

Like I said: It's something you know, or learn about yourself. It's not a question that somebody else can answer.

[Dracozombie 4,554]

i heard from someone its not my choice.

 

Usually the people who say it's your choice are 1) really ignorant on sexuality, 2) bible-pushers, or 3) both.  Who you're attracted to is not your choice.  Sexuality is ridiculously complicated and no one truly knows what influences it.  People can't even agree on what qualifies as sexuality, so it winds up boiling down to what you choose to identify by.  If you choose to identify as gay, well, what do you have to prove for it?  Being attracted to guys, which you're not?  Doing gay actions like kissing or sex to other men, which you haven't done nor expressed any interest in?  Labels can become a self-fulfilling prophecy but if you don't fulfill any of the qualifications typically associated with that label, why identify by it?

[Sorual 607]

First off, being gay is not a choice and it is never a choice.

I don't think you're in denial. If you liked guys you would know. You say you have no romantic interest in guys so I assume you mean sexual interest as well so considering all of that you're probably not gay.

but is it possible to just stop liking girls and start liking boys?

[Velvet Scarlatina 607]

Yeah, if you're crushing on a girl, you're definitely straight. You didn't even explain why you think you're gay in your first post clearly enough.

 

Even if you were, then who cares? Your sexuality is literally in your genes. You are either born straight, homosexual, or bisexual. It's your body telling you, "You'll have more of an advantage getting a mate if you do this gender/both genders". What I'm basically saying is its completely normal to be gay, if that's what you're thinking. Admittedly, seeing two dudes/two girls make out with one another is something I want to turn my head away from, but I'd rather not watch my parents make out either. If people don't respect you for you, then they don't truly like you.

[Dracozombie 4,554]

but is it possible to just stop liking girls and start liking boys?

 

Back to my first post: why would you think it's a possibility?

[Koko 3,944]

but is it possible to just stop liking girls and start liking boys?

 

it is

does it mean itll happen

not really

is it bad if it happens

no

 

in my early middle school years i liked boys and getting into high school i was like woah girls are hot and stopped liking boys and now in late high school ive realized im pretty much attracted to people based on appearance and presentation not gender.

sexuality is fluid and you might like girls now but its possible that when youre older that wont be the case

it doesnt mean youre gay unless you choose to identify as gay 

[The Protagonist 332]

You know I never really seen people talk about being gay,cause in my shcool if just say something thats gay(u would have be joking ALLthe of the time,if u wanted some kind of redemption after saying that) or anything thats sounds gay cause ppl in my school are all pervs so they will take anything u say that is gay in the slightest and make a big deal about it.Seeing this makes me wonder,are people really this accepting to gays?Cause from how i live its just wrong to be gay,i do believe so myself anyways.BTW i didn't mean to offend anyone gay here.

[Koko 3,944]

You know I never really seen people talk about being gay,cause in my shcool if just say something thats gay(u would have be joking ALLthe of the time,if u wanted some kind of redemption after saying that) or anything thats sounds gay cause ppl in my school are all pervs so they will take anything u say that is gay in the slightest and make a big deal about it.Seeing this makes me wonder,are people really this accepting to gays?Cause from how i live its just wrong to be gay,i do believe so myself anyways.BTW i didn't mean to offend anyone gay here.

 

You see, WE live in a progressive society while YOU are still stuck in the 50s

and too bad, you have 

welcome to the shit list

[The Protagonist 332]

You see, WE live in a progressive society while YOU are still stuck in the 50s

and too bad, you have 

welcome to the shit list

Hey i got no problem where i live as i myself,was just thinking aloud.

[heyitsdeven 131]

Well, actual gay people think you're born with it. So I'd just go with them and say if you were gay you'd already know it by now.

[LeYenrz 276]

Well, ponder this

When you see a hot guy, do you have sensual thoughts of embracing each other in a passionate manner?

 

If yes, you may be gay.  If you currently fancy some wee girl right now why are you even questioning it though.  

 

not every straight girl who sees a hot guy will feel like that.

did you like guys when you were younger? then it might just be a notion that you're gay

Edited May 11, 2013 by khdayskh1314

[Koko 3,944]

Well, actual gay people think you're born with it. So I'd just go with them and say if you were gay you'd already know it by now.

 

 

This is flat out untrue

many people dont realize theyre queer till a lot later in life

 

not every straight girl who sees a hot guy will feel like that.

did you like guys when you were younger? then it might just be a notion that you're lesbian

 

i believe this member identifies as a guy so he cant be a lesbian

[LeYenrz 276]

This is flat out untrue

many people dont realize theyre queer till a lot later in life

 

 

i believe this member identifies as a guy so he cant be a lesbian

..oh sorry about that. i was confused for a while..sorry. 

[Amon 4,279]

Here's how you can test that out. 

 

Look at a guy that most people can say is good looking, say an Abercrombie model or something. 

 

Now ask yourself these things. 

 

- Do you want to walk down the street holding hands with this guy?

- Do you want to cuddle in bed with this guy?

- Do you want to hold him closely and passionately?

- Do you want to pleasure his manhood?

 

If you answer "No" to any of these questions, you probably aren't gay. 

[MyDixieRect 2,061]

If you don't have any form of sexual attraction to guys AND have a crush on a girl then I really doubt you are a gay in denial. As for whether you'll become gay in the future, who can say? Statistically however, it's very unlikely, so I wouldn't worry if that's what your afraid of.

 

As harsh as this may sound...some people have "therapy" to "cure" themselves apparently. So if you're that against it and one day you realize you're gay there's this step. How it works I don't know.

 

But really when you find the one you want to be with be it a man or a woman you'll be glad you were straight or gay so that you both could be together, happy and in love, so it's not worth worrying about either way.

Edited May 12, 2013 by Winner's Proof

[Amon 4,279]

fracking whacking double post

Edited May 12, 2013 by Amon