Seeking A Friend...

[PrincessKari 35]

Hi just venting again I suppose, 

 

I've come to realize that I`m doing this more and more as time passes. 

 

You know what really irritates me? How most people for some reason don't seem to like me. I really wish that those people would just come out and say to my face, but also say why they don't like me. Nobody talks to me expect my friends, who in this situation, completely useless.

 

I have several minor and major problems going on.

 

1. I`m in Maths for Living and the really sad thing is that I am the smartest person in the room. Literally! I`m smarter than the teacher for crying out loud! My friends don't get the maths when to me it's as simple as your ABC. I ask the teacher for help, I work hard and I focus. My two best friends sit next to each other so they talk for a lot of the time while I just fly through the work. I guess the biggest problem is that I feel as though people judge me for what they see. I`m smarter than most of the class potentially. Simply because I understand what I am learning, I`m not just reciting it like a parrot.

 

2. I`m the only brony in my whole school and I hate it.   A lot of the time I feel really lonely and I`m going through a difficult time right now and none of my really close friends can help me because they're way too immature and their attention span is that of a puppy. So there's no point wasting my breath in trying to get help from them. 

 

3. The only person I talk to at school is a science nerd and even he isn't of much use for what's going on. Although he makes a great conversationalist. 

 

Overall I`m just really broken inside and I feel as though I have lost all reasons to smile, I also get really bored in class. I`m really lonely right now. And I know I keep been sad but I can't help it. I just don't feel as happy and wonderful inside or outside anymore.

 

Thanks for reading.

 

- Princess Kari  

[eentje 0]

I'm kind of bad at math, I geuss, but hey, I'm friendly, so if you need someone to talk to, I'll be here,

[catmaster0116 2,676]

Hello Princesskari

 

Thats typically school for you, It sounds like you have given this deep thought while many others in your school/class may just brush this off without thinking a second thought. It also sounds like lack of support is whats really affecting you.

 

Just because nobody talks to you doesn't mean they necessary dislike you, you can try to initiate conversations with people (although whether or not they will tolerate an intellectual conversation is another issue ). People are different and some mature at different rates, it just so appears that you matured faster and have a better understanding. Don't become down because of this, it just means that you and a select few others have an objective and are more aware.

 

Continue to work hard, and if need be see if you can talk to the counseller from your school, they won't tell anyone about your problems are really good people as they can really help you out in an emotional pinch with some really good advice.

 

"I understand what I am learning, I`m not just reciting it like a parrot."

 

I salute you on this one, too many students these days think that if they do one math question and get it right, they think they can get it all right and that's what annoys me because its not just regurgitating whats in the books, its understanding it ~

 

p.s. Labels like science nerd, loner...etc don't matter, we're all human in the end - in 10 years down the track when you're living the good life - noone will care if you befriended the class clown or the teachers pet

 

I wish you all the success and keep in touch if you need to vent

 

Catmaster0116

[Geralt 4,874]

I don't see how anyone could hate you, for you're a really nice person  & being smart at maths? Well I admire you. If I still went to public school I'd probably feel as if I'm the only brony in the whole school even though there's about 2,000 students there, and I don't know many people, and I'm always lurking around alone so I guess I kind of know how you feel. But if you'd ever like to talk to me I'd always be willing to help you.

[griann 59]

Sorry to hear that!

I think you are a really kind and really nice person! Then again, if I take a look at people from my school... most people don't really like to hear people say intelligent stuff. Especially if they're immature and stupid. I wouldn't call myself a smart person but I love to listen to intelligent stuff! I admire you for being so smart and especially maths! Also thank you for "I understand what I am learning, I`m not just reciting it like a parrot." there are so many people in my grade who are not really able to explain something in their own words...

i'm not the best in Maths but I know this feeling, in my maths class many are asking basic stuff and I really have to stop myself to tell them to stop being so dumb...

Sorry that you have such teacher. I never really had a great maths teacher. Whenever we had a problem they could only tell us what the solution was but not explain it to us or realise that the solution was in fact wrong.

You know, i'm done with school in a few month after I passed my final exams and I'm so glad because I had a similiar problem. Sure, I had close friends but their interests were way far apart from mine which led me to acting differently at school so that they wouldn't look at me strangely.

However, I think it's actually really great that you are venting and that you are not keeping it to yourself, I do that myself everytime I see my sister who doesn't live at home anymore but she's one of the few people that truly understand me. And there are so many understanding and nice people here, so I think it's really great to vent here.

I hope your problems will disappear completly or at least get better, and there are plenty of people who went through that themselves, so keep venting and hopefully it will help you and your situation will get better!

[ReikuSSR 1,071]

Hi just venting again I suppose, 

 

I've come to realize that I`m doing this more and more as time passes. 

 

You know what really irritates me? How most people for some reason don't seem to like me. I really wish that those people would just come out and say to my face, but also say why they don't like me. Nobody talks to me expect my friends, who in this situation, completely useless.

 

I have several minor and major problems going on.

 

1. I`m in Maths for Living and the really sad thing is that I am the smartest person in the room. Literally! I`m smarter than the teacher for crying out loud! My friends don't get the maths when to me it's as simple as your ABC. I ask the teacher for help, I work hard and I focus. My two best friends sit next to each other so they talk for a lot of the time while I just fly through the work. I guess the biggest problem is that I feel as though people judge me for what they see. I`m smarter than most of the class potentially. Simply because I understand what I am learning, I`m not just reciting it like a parrot.

 

2. I`m the only brony in my whole school and I hate it.   A lot of the time I feel really lonely and I`m going through a difficult time right now and none of my really close friends can help me because they're way too immature and their attention span is that of a puppy. So there's no point wasting my breath in trying to get help from them. 

 

3. The only person I talk to at school is a science nerd and even he isn't of much use for what's going on. Although he makes a great conversationalist. 

 

Overall I`m just really broken inside and I feel as though I have lost all reasons to smile, I also get really bored in class. I`m really lonely right now. And I know I keep been sad but I can't help it. I just don't feel as happy and wonderful inside or outside anymore.

 

Thanks for reading.

 

- Princess Kari  

I'd admit that is a predicament, but hey I know what is like... I was a big math and science(mostly astronomy) nerd so I know what it is like, and not that many anime fans at all at my school; however this is the time for you to find yourself. I wasn't known well.. I was, but no one really knew my name. 

 

What I mean to say is listen this is the time to truly find yourself if that means you may lose a friend or two in the process it may happen, you may get shunned out of crowds, there is going to be hard ache it happens, but it is EXP pts to make you level up. +

You have friends of KH13! 

Edited April 9, 2013 by ReikuSSR

[rikunobodyxiii 700]

I also tend to be an outsider when it comes to school. I'm not sure how other students think of me and I try not to care too much.

It is easy to feel lonely in the daily grind, but you are not alone. Your friends at school, while they might not be able to help you with advise, they can help you by just hanging out. Most of the time when I'm feeling low, just hanging out with my friends makes me feel better. other times, when you need to vent or need to talk something out, come here. I've met some good eggs here that are good listeners and will try to help as best they can.

When it comes to being a fan of something and no one around you is, that is what fan sites like KH13 are for. A main reason I joined KH13 is that only one of my friends is a KH fan and she's been too busy to keep up of late. So, I came here to let my KH geek out with other people who like it too. You might be the only Brony in your school, but I've seen a few around here. Connect and have fun.

Like I've said and others have before me, you have friends around here. And we'll help as we can.

[Morrison Black 6]

I think I know how you feel, i talk to a lot of people at my school, but Im not sure if they think of me as a friend, or if I even have friends. The differnce between us is that you're brave enough to try and talk about it with others here, and I really admire that.

[Think Pink 1,967]

Hi just venting again I suppose, 

 

I've come to realize that I`m doing this more and more as time passes. 

 

You know what really irritates me? How most people for some reason don't seem to like me. I really wish that those people would just come out and say to my face, but also say why they don't like me. Nobody talks to me expect my friends, who in this situation, completely useless.

 

I have several minor and major problems going on.

 

1. I`m in Maths for Living and the really sad thing is that I am the smartest person in the room. Literally! I`m smarter than the teacher for crying out loud! My friends don't get the maths when to me it's as simple as your ABC. I ask the teacher for help, I work hard and I focus. My two best friends sit next to each other so they talk for a lot of the time while I just fly through the work. I guess the biggest problem is that I feel as though people judge me for what they see. I`m smarter than most of the class potentially. Simply because I understand what I am learning, I`m not just reciting it like a parrot.

 

2. I`m the only brony in my whole school and I hate it.   A lot of the time I feel really lonely and I`m going through a difficult time right now and none of my really close friends can help me because they're way too immature and their attention span is that of a puppy. So there's no point wasting my breath in trying to get help from them. 

 

3. The only person I talk to at school is a science nerd and even he isn't of much use for what's going on. Although he makes a great conversationalist. 

 

Overall I`m just really broken inside and I feel as though I have lost all reasons to smile, I also get really bored in class. I`m really lonely right now. And I know I keep been sad but I can't help it. I just don't feel as happy and wonderful inside or outside anymore.

 

Thanks for reading.

 

- Princess Kari  

That may just be your perception of things. I'm sure there are tons of people who like you! I've seen a couple of your posts around before and you seem like a lovely person! 

 

What might be upsetting them a little (this might not be true though! this is just what I see looking in) is that you seem to think you're smarter than everyone else. You're obviously really good at math and that's good for you, but you may unconsciously give off an attitude of superiority about being better at it. Saying you're smarter than everyone including the teacher has a way of upsetting people. (Not saying it's untrue, but it will tick people off, because often times it isn't) 

 

I'm sorry about you being the only brony! The only thing I can say is that I'm glad you at least can find online communities of people who share your interests. I know it won't make up entirely for IRL interaction, but it should help some! 

 

Maybe you should try talking to some new people. If you keep limiting yourself to him then of course it's going to be hard to expand your pool of friends. If you're too shy for that though it's okay, just a suggestion.

 

I know sometimes things get really hard and I'm sorry you feel so upset. You've got friends online (all of us) so don't worry about that! School is temporary, and I'm sorry that you're bored now, but it will end. Why don't you asked to be bumped up to harder classes? If they put you at a level where things are actually challenging, you won't feel bored, and it will give you a chance to excel instead of sitting back.

[Mystics Apprentice 2,397]

First off, way to go for succeeding so well in math!  Most everyone I know--myself included--find math to be the trickiest subject ever, so kudos to you for doing so well.  I agree with much of what Catmaster said, as these were some very good points that I myself have come to find as well.  Just because people don't talk to you doesn't mean they necessarily don't like you.  It could be that they know you take school more seriously, and perhaps they're hesitant to approach you.  When a person doesn't walk up and talk, a lot of times it's out of awkwardness.  So, in other words, so long as they're not purposefully ignoring them at your every attempt to speak with them, I wouldn't be too concerned.  It's probably not that they dislike you; they probably just don't know what to say.

 

I'm going to be disagreeing with the majority here, but there's nothing like real-life friends.  Online friends are awesome (you've no idea how cool you people are), but there is something very important to be said with real-life friends.  Having the ability to laugh aloud with a person or go hang out and play video games is something that cannot be replaced, and I feel it's very important for a person's well-being as well as self-esteem.  What you could do is try approaching people who you think might share similar interests.  Instead of wait for them to approach you, try reaching out to them.  Those that you thought ignored you might find that you're a completely different person than they anticipated.  And, if the first group of people you try speaking to aren't interested, find someone else.  There's plenty of people out there in the world to befriend, you've just got to search long and hard for the ones worthy of befriending.  Sometimes you'll find people that just aren't your type; but that's not a bad thing at all.  You mentioned that you had a friend in science...who are some of his friends?  Maybe you can get to meet his friends and find yourself making new friends that you enjoy.

 

And, lastly, I'm going to reverberate something most people have said, remember that this is only school--it truly won't last forever.  With each year comes new experiences, and it's quite possible that some new kid's going to come to your school looking for a friend.  Don't think in terms of a "forever lonely state," because life is forever-changing, and yours will eventually, too.

 

As always, I wish you all the best in your endeavors.  If you ever need to vent, just know that we're always here to listen.