I need help with asking a girl out!

[Hyperion 144]

Well I've been absent from this site for awhile, and thought I'd return. I also have a serious question. Some of you may remember I asked for advice on asking girl out that I didn't know at all, well turns out she has a BF. But, I now like a girl that I actually know and talk to, and are friends with, and was wondering if you guys have any tips for asking her. I'm pretty nervous around this stuff and I just need help with this. Much appreciated.

 

Edit: And can you please try to be serious with your answer, I actually want to ask her out

Edited December 18, 2012 by Hyperion

[theultimatesorafan 684]

Do it POWER RANGER style! "Hey girl, I have some explosions. You want to find them?"  ^_^

 

Or you could just give her some flowers, bow down on your knees and say, "Will you go out with me?"

[Hyperion 144]

Do it POWER RANGER style! "Hey girl, I have some explosions. You want to find them?"  ^_^

 

Or you could just give her some flowers, bow down on your knees and say, "Will you go out with me?"

Lol very creative but I don't think that will work, that would probably weird her out. Thanks for trying though

[Jim 2,990]

Watch and learn.

http-~~-//www.youtube.com/watch?v=A6TZlXReetw

[Master Juan 574]

Say this, "Hey do you work at UPS? Becuz I saw you checking out my package," then end with a wink. Da bitchez will be all over the D.

[Hyperion 144]

Watch and learn.

http-~~-//www.youtube.com/watch?v=A6TZlXReetw

That's just.....ok

[Amon 4,279]

ALWAYS do these three things

 

1. Ask her in person 

2. Ask her when both of you are 100% alone

3. Be direct about it. 

 

NEVER do these three things

 

1. Ask her online/text message. (Only use the phone if you rarely get to see each other in person)

2. Ask her in front of everyone. (This will put a lot of pressure on her so she may not give an honest answer. Remember, an honest "no" is better than a dishonest "yes")

3. Be indirect/awkward about it. (Crappy pick up lines, dragging her somewhere to ask her out, over complimenting her/not being sweet enough etc)

 

Go into asking her out with the idea that she will say yes, even if you mess up. Don't be too nervous about it. The whole "the worst thing she can say is no" ideal is bullcrap because if you really care about her, then hearing that word can hurt a lot. If she does reject you, be cool about it. Don't get mad at her or start crying, feel free to do that where she can't see you but any of that in front of her will make you look really desperate and will probably ruin all chances of her saying yes if you try again in the future.

 

You could wind up in the "friendzone" but don't be too butthurt about it. If you respect and support her decision and stick around and try to fix whatever caused her to say no (within reason) then she'll come around eventually. In my case the girl likes me back but doesn't feel ready to date yet. Girls are bizarre so you can get a huge array of responses. 

 

In general just don't worry about it. You are already friends with this girl and that alone will increase your odds of success by a long shot. If she says yes, great you did it! If she says no then just cut your losses and either move on to someone else or give her a little space for a bit, ease back in, and try again after a while. 

 

Or you could just give her some flowers, bow down on your knees and say, "Will you go out with me?"

 

Don't do this, you're asking her out on a date, not to the prom or marrying her for crying out loud. Some girls may like it but most will find it a little excessive. You're just asking her for one date. Feel free to be romantic when you do it but save the flowers and getting on your knees for a bigger occasion. 

[Shulk 8,623]

ALWAYS do these three things

 

1. Ask her in person 

2. Ask her when both of you are 100% alone

3. Be direct about it. 

 

NEVER do these three things

 

1. Ask her online/text message. (Only use the phone if you rarely get to see each other in person)

2. Ask her in front of everyone. (This will put a lot of pressure on her so she may not give an honest answer. Remember, an honest "no" is better than a dishonest "yes")

3. Be indirect/awkward about it. (Crappy pick up lines, dragging her somewhere to ask her out, over complimenting her/not being sweet enough etc)

 

Go into asking her out with the idea that she will say yes, even if you mess up. Don't be too nervous about it. The whole "the worst thing she can say is no" ideal is bullcrap because if you really care about her, then hearing that word can hurt a lot. If she does reject you, be cool about it. Don't get mad at her or start crying, feel free to do that where she can't see you but any of that in front of her will make you look really desperate and will probably ruin all chances of her saying yes if you try again in the future.

 

You could wind up in the "friendzone" but don't be too butthurt about it. If you respect and support her decision and stick around and try to fix whatever caused her to say no (within reason) then she'll come around eventually. In my case the girl likes me back but doesn't feel ready to date yet. Girls are bizarre so you can get a huge array of responses. 

 

In general just don't worry about it. You are already friends with this girl and that alone will increase your odds of success by a long shot. If she says yes, great you did it! If she says no then just cut your losses and either move on to someone else or give her a little space for a bit, ease back in, and try again after a while. 

 

 

Don't do this, you're asking her out on a date, not to the prom or marrying her for crying out loud. Some girls may like it but most will find it a little excessive. You're just asking her for one date. Feel free to be romantic when you do it but save the flowers and getting on your knees for a bigger occasion. 

This guy knows his stuff.

[ReverofE 698]

Well if she hasn't asked you out yet then she is obviously a lesbian since she hasn't done so yet. So it is best to move on.

[Hyperion 144]

ALWAYS do these three things

 

1. Ask her in person 

2. Ask her when both of you are 100% alone

3. Be direct about it. 

 

NEVER do these three things

 

1. Ask her online/text message. (Only use the phone if you rarely get to see each other in person)

2. Ask her in front of everyone. (This will put a lot of pressure on her so she may not give an honest answer. Remember, an honest "no" is better than a dishonest "yes")

3. Be indirect/awkward about it. (Crappy pick up lines, dragging her somewhere to ask her out, over complimenting her/not being sweet enough etc)

 

Go into asking her out with the idea that she will say yes, even if you mess up. Don't be too nervous about it. The whole "the worst thing she can say is no" ideal is bullcrap because if you really care about her, then hearing that word can hurt a lot. If she does reject you, be cool about it. Don't get mad at her or start crying, feel free to do that where she can't see you but any of that in front of her will make you look really desperate and will probably ruin all chances of her saying yes if you try again in the future.

 

You could wind up in the "friendzone" but don't be too butthurt about it. If you respect and support her decision and stick around and try to fix whatever caused her to say no (within reason) then she'll come around eventually. In my case the girl likes me back but doesn't feel ready to date yet. Girls are bizarre so you can get a huge array of responses. 

 

In general just don't worry about it. You are already friends with this girl and that alone will increase your odds of success by a long shot. If she says yes, great you did it! If she says no then just cut your losses and either move on to someone else or give her a little space for a bit, ease back in, and try again after a while. 

 

 

Don't do this, you're asking her out on a date, not to the prom or marrying her for crying out loud. Some girls may like it but most will find it a little excessive. You're just asking her for one date. Feel free to be romantic when you do it but save the flowers and getting on your knees for a bigger occasion. 

Thank you! You have helped me so much with this, I actually feel a lot less nervous! I plan to ask her on Friday, so if she does say no then I don't have to see her for 10 days (Winter break) as opposed to in 2 days (I should clarify she sits directly infront of me in my first period class and it would be SO awkward) Thanks again Amon!

Well if she hasn't asked you out yet then she is obviously a lesbian since she hasn't done so yet. So it is best to move on.

I said serious, please stop being sarcastic with this, I'm really not in the mood for that.

[ReverofE 698]

Thank you! You have helped me so much with this, I actually feel a lot less nervous! I plan to ask her on Friday, so if she does say no then I don't have to see her for 10 days (Winter break) as opposed to in 2 days (I should clarify she sits directly infront of me in my first period class and it would be SO awkward) Thanks again Amon!

I said serious, please stop being sarcastic with this, I'm really not in the mood for that.

 

That was sarcasm?!

[Amon 4,279]

Thank you! You have helped me so much with this, I actually feel a lot less nervous! I plan to ask her on Friday, so if she does say no then I don't have to see her for 10 days (Winter break) as opposed to in 2 days (I should clarify she sits directly infront of me in my first period class and it would be SO awkward) Thanks again Amon!

 

Good plan. Even if she turns you down, don't break all contact with her, that is if she still wants to be friends. It would be wise to message her/ talk to her less frequently over the break but if the girl cares about you as a friend, turning you down is as hard for her as it is for you to be turned down. Give her space, but don't drop off the face of the earth. 

 

If asking her out didn't go well at all and she doesn't want anything to do with you then don't bother. Use the school break to find someone who will be more willing to accept your advances.

[FireRubies1 1,325]

Well if she hasn't asked you out yet then she is obviously a lesbian since she hasn't done so yet. So it is best to move on.

Or she's nervous of rejection herself and/or has some interest for other people? =w=

[Amon 4,279]

That was sarcasm?!

 

If that wasn't sarcasm or trolling then you probably need to talk to a girl. Most girls want the guy to make the first move. Girls may go out of their way to talk to a boy they like but in the end they want the guy to make the first move most of the time. A lot of girls may drop subtle hints to said guy to let them know they want to be asked out. Girls tend to assume if a guy they like isn't asking them out then the guy is either not interested or not confident. Both of which will drive the girl away if they aren't close friends. 

[President Yoshi 313]

lol good luck 

[ReverofE 698]

If that wasn't sarcasm or trolling then you probably need to talk to a girl. Most girls want the guy to make the first move. Girls may go out of their way to talk to a boy they like but in the end they want the guy to make the first move most of the time. A lot of girls may drop subtle hints to said guy to let them know they want to be asked out. Girls tend to assume if a guy they like isn't asking them out then the guy is either not interested or not confident. Both of which will drive the girl away if they aren't close friends. 

Meh, talked to plenty of girls however the sad part is my friends always tend to end up with girlfriends and I tend to become friends with them. I know its normal but it still feels weird.However its nice to know what you say is true.

[Riku's Aspect 11 9]

ALWAYS do these three things 1. Ask her in person 2. Ask her when both of you are 100% alone3. Be direct about it. NEVER do these three things 1. Ask her online/text message. (Only use the phone if you rarely get to see each other in person)2. Ask her in front of everyone. (This will put a lot of pressure on her so she may not give an honest answer. Remember, an honest "no" is better than a dishonest "yes")3. Be indirect/awkward about it. (Crappy pick up lines, dragging her somewhere to ask her out, over complimenting her/not being sweet enough etc) Go into asking her out with the idea that she will say yes, even if you mess up. Don't be too nervous about it. The whole "the worst thing she can say is no" ideal is bullcrap because if you really care about her, then hearing that word can hurt a lot. If she does reject you, be cool about it. Don't get mad at her or start crying, feel free to do that where she can't see you but any of that in front of her will make you look really desperate and will probably ruin all chances of her saying yes if you try again in the future. You could wind up in the "friendzone" but don't be too butthurt about it. If you respect and support her decision and stick around and try to fix whatever caused her to say no (within reason) then she'll come around eventually. In my case the girl likes me back but doesn't feel ready to date yet. Girls are bizarre so you can get a huge array of responses. In general just don't worry about it. You are already friends with this girl and that alone will increase your odds of success by a long shot. If she says yes, great you did it! If she says no then just cut your losses and either move on to someone else or give her a little space for a bit, ease back in, and try again after a while.  Don't do this, you're asking her out on a date, not to the prom or marrying her for crying out loud. Some girls may like it but most will find it a little excessive. You're just asking her for one date. Feel free to be romantic when you do it but save the flowers and getting on your knees for a bigger occasion. 

Dude, you're ultimately intelligent. Make sure you don't waste this talent of yours because I did it to mine.

 

Thank you! You have helped me so much with this, I actually feel a lot less nervous! I plan to ask her on Friday, so if she does say no then I don't have to see her for 10 days (Winter break) as opposed to in 2 days (I should clarify she sits directly infront of me in my first period class and it would be SO awkward) Thanks again Amon!I said serious, please stop being sarcastic with this, I'm really not in the mood for that.

Good luck man. Hope she says yes.

[Geralt 4,874]

Welcome back, and well find a special moment kind of like you're proposing almost and maybe have some flowers, or candy that she likes, anything special that you can give to her (even a poem!) and use that moment give her your gift and ask her out. Im kind of a classy guy so that's how I would do it If you want to be simple just be brave, stay calm, call her or go up to her and ask if she wants to go out on a date

[CJ Smith 123]

Just be honest with her and try not to stumble over your words, girls usually like men who are honest. If that doesn't work ask her to the next dance or party or whatever. If she says she just wants to remain friends, slowly I mean slowly become her best guy friend. Be there for her when she needs you, be her friend that can turn a bad situation into a good one. If this doesn't work sorry man this is what I would do and maybe it'll work. Good luck.

Well I've been absent from this site for awhile, and thought I'd return. I also have a serious question. Some of you may remember I asked for advice on asking girl out that I didn't know at all, well turns out she has a BF. But, I now like a girl that I actually know and talk to, and are friends with, and was wondering if you guys have any tips for asking her. I'm pretty nervous around this stuff and I just need help with this. Much appreciated.

 

Edit: And can you please try to be serious with your answer, I actually want to ask her out