Gotta hold it together for a few day

[GTarablus 30]

Hey guys, I'm gonna ask you guys for some help in the next few days cause I got myself into a real firetrucked situation.

Ok, so there's this Girl, name her G, which I love so much and we're best friends for over 2 years and we've been a couple for almost a year and half but about 2 weeks ago, after we both went to a new school together, what I feared most happened.

 

She's a beautiful, hot girl and everyone stares at her when she walks by but she's an angel of a girl! So sweet, innocent and fun that she's literally perfect!

 

Now the thing is, 2 years ago she had a hard time trusting people and she was very insecure. Then I came along and we started Skyping and talking every day till 3 am and we were such good friends and we were always there for one and other. about 6 months later I decided to ask her out and we started being a couple and I truly loved her that all I ever wanted to do was spend time with her and for the first 4 months of our relationship we didn't kiss, until I found out she was scared about it and I kinda forced her into it (NOT RAPE!) and ever since then she fell hard for me and we spent almost everyday together and we were so happy!

 

So about a year afterwards she decided she doesn't want us anymore, because of this kid who she claimed is just her friend but I knew he wanted more and I got jealous and a bad side of me came out.

 

So we stayed good friend but we kept being on/off in terms of relationship. We were together during this past summer until I stopped it to be with another girl cause I felt like I needed something new. 2 days later I realized what an idiot and a fool I am and begged her to get back together with me (She doesn't know the reason for the brake up, in other words she doesn't know I've been with someone else).

 

She was very hurt by the break up cause she really started to fall in love with me again, but we got back together. Until 2 weeks ago when she decided she wants something new and this guy asked her out a little before that and she's currently thinking about becoming this guys girlfriend.

 

And here's where I firetrucked it up, I love her and care for her so much that I felt a sharp pain in my heart when she told me she wants something new. I tried to convince her out of it, to give me a chance but worst of all I didn't stop calling and sending super emotional text messages and I admit I was crazy, and she told me to my face that I'm mentally ill. But the only reason I did it was cause of the pain, such a sharp pain the only thing that could relieve it was to hear her voice and when the pain got really bad I didn't notice how bad I can get. But I eventually did, a couple nights ago I realized I'm loosing my best friend and I lost it. I told her I'm sorry and I'll never do it again even though the pain consists, I'll keep it to myself. She said I'm more important to her than anyone else but not when I'm in this condition.

 

Last night I called her up at about 00:30 to ask her if we could meet today and she let a friend she was out with answer and not give the phone to her and I really got offended by it cause I was really just calling to ask that, not to be crazy me and I understand it's my fault and the blame is on me. Then a friend called me and said he heard from a close friend of the guy who asked her out that their together. And I just lost it. I had to get up for work at 7:00 and I knew I couldn't possibly work with so much pain but I had to cause this is a new job. I went home at 11 after declaring sick, cause I really wasn't in a working shape.

 

I called her house and her mom picked up and she probably heard from my voice that I was crying earlier (I felt I had completely lost her) And she woke her up for me (We're on vacation) and I started explaining everything, how bad of a day I had and I asked her if she's with the other guy and said no and I started crying on the phone to her, like I haven't cried since my grandfathers funeral. So later on I talked to her and she said she doesn't want to meet with me until she says I'm truly better and that I'm my normal self again, and although I feel I am, It's not up to me so for a few days I'll need to give her some space and call less and the pain in my heart will grow stronger so I need you guys to help me pull it together. Whether it'd be jokes, story's or just support, I need someone neutral to help me.

 

I know it's long but I had to dump it all somewhere. And please, don't tell me to move on. I love her so much I'll wait forever for her. And she said she still loves me but want's to try some new stuff but I'm always paranoid she might like that new stuff over me..

Sometimes I wish I was a heartless..

Thanks for reading!

[Col.Random 3,683]

. And please, don't tell me to move on. I love her so much I'll wait forever for her.

 

not trying to meddle in your affairs, but i just don't think waiting forever is a very good idea. But, well if she says she loves you she might be worth waiting.

[Iamkingdomhearts1000 1,170]

You should never wish for being a Heartless and also i think you need to first calm yourself then be yourself and lastly take anger management sessions cause i think one of the major problems here is that you get too angry so easily whilst being paranoid so try to not focus on getting angry and do something that you like that relaxes you.

Edited October 3, 2012 by Iamkingdomhearts1000

[GTarablus 30]

not trying to meddle in your affairs, but i just don't think waiting forever is a very good idea. But, well if she says she loves you she might be worth waiting.

 

I've heard this from friends, but I tried moving on and it took me 2 days to realize I don't want anything else. When there's no hope left I'll let myself move on.

[Wolfgang 735]

I feel you man.

Edited October 3, 2012 by Wolfgang

[GTarablus 30]

I feel you man.

 

Good to know I'm not the only one like this.

Wanna share your story?

[Wolfgang 735]

Good to know I'm not the only one like this.

Wanna share your story?

 

I can relate to what your feeling.

Though my story is a bit different.

I shared once/dont want to get into it really

all i can say is

Be strong. Stand tall. Be proud of you. You are an amazing person.

[GTarablus 30]

 

 

I can relate to what your feeling.

Though my story is a bit different.

I shared once/dont want to get into it really

all i can say is

Be strong. Stand tall. Be proud of you. You are an amazing person.

 

Thank you. I really needed to hear that

[Demyx. 10,064]

This may not be what you want to hear. But I am going to tell you. I've been threw these sort of things. The problem is you both have hurt each other. So you don't trust each other anymore. (Even though you may think different.) It's most likely not going to work out and you will just keep playing this back and forth game over and over. That pain in your heart is you being codependent. You depend on her to much to make you happy. Your going to have to learn at some point to be happy with yourself for yourself by yourself. It doesn't have to ruin your friendship though. I'm friends with many of my ex's. It may be harsh. But I just felt like I should let you know. Take what I say and shrug it off if you will. I am just trying to help. Good luck.

[AROD666 175]

Move on she probrably wasn't that in to you anyways i mean 4 months for a kiss? how long she's gonna wait until sex? marriage. she's not golden down there there's plenty of girls out there

[GTarablus 30]

This may not be what you want to hear. But I am going to tell you. I've been threw these sort of things. The problem is you both have hurt each other. So you don't trust each other anymore. (Even though you may think different.) It's most likely not going to work out and you will just keep playing this back and forth game over and over. That pain in your heart is you being codependent. You depend on her to much to make you happy. Your going to have to learn at some point to be happy with yourself for yourself by yourself. It doesn't have to ruin your friendship though. I'm friends with many of my ex's. It may be harsh. But I just felt like I should let you know. Take what I say and shrug it off if you will. I am just trying to help. Good luck.

 

I understand what you're saying, and it's true except I believe we will have it good eventually. I can't go and lower than where I am now, so I just gotta hold together in these next few days, get to meet her and it'll be okay from there. Any tips about learning to be happy with myself by myself?

[Demyx. 10,064]

I understand what you're saying, and it's true except I believe we will have it good eventually. I can't go and lower than where I am now, so I just gotta hold together in these next few days, get to meet her and it'll be okay from there. Any tips about learning to be happy with myself by myself?

 

Ask yourself these questions when thinking of getting back together with her and be truthful to yourself. Are you going to be paranoid? Are you going to question her motives? When some other girl comes onto you (like before) are you going to be able to hold back? What do you think she would say to these questions regarding you?

 

You can get lower then you are now. Don't lie to yourself. That's what all codependent people think. (Like me)

 

To be happy with yourself you need to realize what makes you happy, that doesn't involve other people.

 

There are more women in this world then men. There is no one person for you. You need to find someone who loves you for who you are and doesn't play these silly little games.

Edited October 3, 2012 by XaonSchock

[GTarablus 30]

 

 

Ask yourself these questions when thinking of getting back together with her and be truthful to yourself. Are you going to be paranoid? Are you going to question her motives? When some other girl comes onto (like before) are you going to be able to hold back? What do you think she would say to these questions regarding you?

 

You can get lower then you are now. Don't lie to yourself. That's what all codependent people think. (Like me)

 

To be happy with yourself you need to realize what makes you happy, that doesn't involve other people. She told me this isn't the end of us cause we're to good together to finish it off like this, she just wants to experience new stuff. I'm her only boyfriend but I had a few before her so I don't have this urge to find out how it is to be with others. I'm just scared that unlike me, she won't want us again after experiencing other people.

 

There are more women in this world then men. There is no one person for you. You need to find someone who loves you for who you are and doesn't play these silly little games.

 

I will appreciate every moment I have with her and she with me, we're very important for one and other and we're so good together. I've had chances with other girls but I have em up cause I was happy with her. And no I won't be paranoid, I'm afraid of losing her and that's why I'm paranoid, not cause she might be with someone else. No one can ever compare himself to me as her boyfriend and no girl will ever stand up to what I had with her.

[Demyx. 10,064]

I will appreciate every moment I have with her and she with me, we're very important for one and other and we're so good together. I've had chances with other girls but I have em up cause I was happy with her. And no I won't be paranoid, I'm afraid of losing her and that's why I'm paranoid, not cause she might be with someone else. No one can ever compare himself to me as her boyfriend and no girl will ever stand up to what I had with her.

 

You'll find out.

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

It seems to me like you need a bit of time to yourself and focus on your own well being. I think you are both indecisive and focusing on yourselves may be something you really need before getting back together.

 

Move on she probrably wasn't that in to you anyways i mean 4 months for a kiss? how long she's gonna wait until sex? marriage. she's not golden down there there's plenty of girls out there

 

Wow, not only do you sound like a prick, you are being incredibly rude and disrespectful towards this girl and towards all women. You think of women like a pieces of meat, like they're not worth anything except for what their bodies can provide. Talk about awful and misogynistic. Just because a girl or anyone for that matter waits four months before kissing doesn't mean "they aren't into you." From what he describes, she probably loved him very much but she might had not been sexually ready yet or she might have had to familiarize herself with her own body.There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. And who are you to criticize someone if they want to wait until marriage to have sex? You have no right, it's their bodies, their mind, THEIR CHOICE. You should freaking apologize for being so awful.

[baylaust 2,531]

Hang in there, bud. Hopefully things work out for you and her, and if you need to vent, we're always here for you.

 

Move on she probrably wasn't that in to you anyways i mean 4 months for a kiss? how long she's gonna wait until sex? marriage. she's not golden down there there's plenty of girls out there

 

So if she doesn't feel she's ready to be more physical, whether it be a kiss or having sex, he should give her up? You know that sex isn't the most important part of a relationship, and if she isn't ready for that, or even to kiss a boy, that's her choice, it doesn't mean she isn't into him. You just came off as really disrespectful and sexist, man.

 

And also,

 

she's not golden down there

 

Classy.

[Demyx. 10,064]

Hang in there, bud. Hopefully things work out for you and her, and if you need to vent, we're always here for you.

 

 

 

So if she doesn't feel she's ready to be more physical, whether it be a kiss or having sex, he should give her up? You know that sex isn't the most important part of a relationship, and if she isn't ready for that, or even to kiss a boy, that's her choice, it doesn't mean she isn't into him. You just came off as really disrespectful and sexist, man.

 

And also,

 

 

 

Classy.

 

I am not disagreeing with you. I just thought I'd say how funny it is how the human race has evolved.

[GTarablus 30]

I'm not feeling any better.. The pain consists and I tried doing stuff that I love, playing games, watching movies, listening to music; nothing..

I keep having the urge to call her and I keep doing it.. At least once an hour and I hate myself for this! I just want the pain to go away..

[Flying Cattle 48]

You'll be alright, man. These things happen. If you two are meant to be, then it'll work out.

Edited October 8, 2012 by Flying Cattle