Asking a girl out, need to get her alone, 5 choices. Help me choose

[Amon 4,279]

I'm planning on asking out a girl that I've really liked for a long time. I determined that the most difficult part will be getting her alone long enough for me to ask her out. I've narrowed it down to 5 options and I would like your opinions on which would be most successful. I also need to ask her out this week. I determined that waiting any longer would result in permanent friendzone. I know what to say to her when I ask her out, this thread is strictly on how to get her and me alone.

 

Option A The Direct Method: Tell her I'd like to talk to her alone via facebook chat/phone this weekend. I only see her once a day in school, during lunch (she sits at my table) so telling her that I'd like to talk to her alone in person would be difficult. Upon confirming a moment where the two of us could be alone and in person, I shall let out my feelings and ask her out.

 

Pros:

- Most direct way of getting her alone

- My friends and her friends won't know of plans, reducing the chance of interference.

- After careful consideration I feel this is my best option. (I still want opinions)

 

Cons:

- Might intimidate her

- Will arouse suspicious (could be good or bad)

 

Option B Interception: She goes to some activities after school, two of which I am in. The plan here is to intercept her after school while she is en route to one of her activities, then pull her aside to a quiet spot and ask her out.

 

Pros:

- Could be effective in getting her alone

- Won't make her confused/suspcious for a long period of time

 

Cons:

- She might feel rushed to get where she needs to go and might not be able to go with me or give a hasty and dishonest answer

- Very tricky, I have to predict her movements accurately and reach her before she enters the activity or else the plan is a bust

 

Option C Lunch Time: Get to lunch earlier than her, then pull her aside before she enters the lunch line and ask her out somewhere

 

Pros: See option B

 

Cons:

- Will almost certainly be with a friend, getting her alone will be difficult without informing friend beforehand, which can't happen.

- Not many private places around the cafeterias, would have to bring her somewhere far to ask her out, which could be awkward

 

Option D NUCLEAR OPTION: Just ask her out in front of everyone at lunch.

 

Pros: At least I get to ask her out.

 

Cons:

- Friends and surroundings may influence her decision

- Extremely awkward for both of us

 

Option E Coward's way out: Ask her out on the phone or on facebook.

 

Pros: At least I get to ask her out and we are alone

 

Cons:

- Seems cowardly

- Seems insensitive

- No real human interaction

- Lowest chance of success

- Worst possible option.

[King Demise 2,359]

Option A Edited September 29, 2012 by King Demise

[Tails 6,692]

Option A

[Rayo_Rojo 253]

First of all, DONT DO IT DIRECTLY AND/OR OBVIOUSLY INFRONT OF OTHER PEOPLE! If there's one thing i've learned in my experiences with women, They HATE being put on the spot. Is there any sort of public event happening that you can invite her to? That might work. Otherwise try to pull her aside during lunch or after school.

 

And good luck!

[VanitasisKirby 1,227]

I like option B the most

[Robbie the Wise 5,050]

Option A

[HarLea Quinn 26,501]

I vote option A ..As a female myself, I feel this is the best option imo .It's direct without putting pressure on either party by putting her instantly on the spot ..Plus by talking to her preferably on the phone while doing this , you can ' feel ' out the situation and guage the best way to say what you got to say .

 

 

Also , inb4shitstormoverfriendzone LOL

[Amon 4,279]

  On 9/29/2012 at 8:45 PM, 'Rayo_Rojo' said:

First of all, DONT DO IT DIRECTLY AND/OR OBVIOUSLY INFRONT OF OTHER PEOPLE! If there's one thing i've learned in my experiences with women, They HATE being put on the spot. Is there any sort of public event happening that you can invite her to? That might work. Otherwise try to pull her aside during lunch or after school.

 

And good luck!

 

Yeah I wasn't going to ask her directly in front of other people. That's why I called it the nuclear option. If it's friday and I have absolutely no other choice I'll be forced to go with that option. There aren't really any public events in my town right now. Just sports events for the local teams. Both of us aren't really into sports so it wouldn't be the best plan. Good suggestion though.

 

  On 9/29/2012 at 8:47 PM, 'Flaming Lea' said:

I vote option A ..As a female myself, I feel this is the best option imo .It's direct without putting pressure on either party by putting her instantly on the spot ..Plus by talking to her preferably on the phone while doing this , you can ' feel ' out the situation and guage the best way to say what you got to say .

 

 

Also , inb4shitstormoverfriendzone LOL

 

Yeah that's why I determined A as the best option, provided I can reach her this weekend. We don't talk on the phone much though, generally though texting or facebook messages so it might be a bit awkward.

 

And honestly, I don't care what this forum thinks of the friendzone. It's happened to my closest friend, It's very real. I won't explain it now but if a shitstorm does happen I will.

[Kinode 3,056]

Option A, B or C... Option A seems like the easiest yet less creative way to do it. But it still seems like the most effective way. Option B may work, too, but you can't really be sure.

Whatever you do, I wish you really good luck. I've been in a similar spot to you quite a few times so I know how difficult it is to do this kind of stuff. Just don't hold back, but try not to be cheesy >_>

#singlemangivingromanticadvice

[Cricket 1,180]

Definitely Option A.

[Rob 5,571]

Option A. If possible, have a friend be on the lookout to stop potential threats that may interfere with your plans.

 

Also, take off the mask when talking to her.

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

  On 9/29/2012 at 8:47 PM, 'Flaming Lea' said:

I vote option A ..As a female myself, I feel this is the best option imo .It's direct without putting pressure on either party by putting her instantly on the spot ..Plus by talking to her preferably on the phone while doing this , you can ' feel ' out the situation and guage the best way to say what you got to say .

 

 

Also , inb4shitstormoverfriendzone LOL

 

Misogyny and sexism at its finest. Excuse me, as I go break something. (((((:

[HarLea Quinn 26,501]

  On 9/29/2012 at 9:00 PM, 'Amon' said:

Yeah I wasn't going to ask her directly in front of other people. That's why I called it the nuclear option. If it's friday and I have absolutely no other choice I'll be forced to go with that option. There aren't really any public events in my town right now. Just sports events for the local teams. Both of us aren't really into sports so it wouldn't be the best plan. Good suggestion though.

 

 

 

Yeah that's why I determined A as the best option, provided I can reach her this weekend. We don't talk on the phone much though, generally though texting or facebook messages so it might be a bit awkward.

 

And honestly, I don't care what this forum thinks of the friendzone. It's happened to my closest friend, It's very real. I won't explain it now but if a shitstorm does happen I will.

 

Well if you plan on telling her your feelings and whatnot, its preferable to use the phone compared to texting bc its more personal ..But if texting is your only available option I can understand that too.

[Amon 4,279]

  On 9/29/2012 at 9:05 PM, 'Rob' said:

Option A. If possible, have a friend be on the lookout to stop potential threats that may interfere with your plans.

 

Also, take off the mask when talking to her.

 

I was considering tossing one of my friends into the mix, but there is a very limited time frame where I can do this. Finding a time to get her and myself alone will be difficult enough. Finding a time for myself and her to be alone and have my friend on lookout will be a logistical nightmare.

[HarLea Quinn 26,501]

  On 9/29/2012 at 9:06 PM, 'TheApprenticeofKingMickey' said:

Misogyny and sexism at its finest. Excuse me, as I go break something. (((((:

 

I knew this would happen. Called it !

[Amon 4,279]

  On 9/29/2012 at 9:08 PM, 'Flaming Lea' said:

Well if you plan on telling her your feelings and whatnot, its preferable to use the phone compared to texting bc its more personal ..But if texting is your only available option I can understand that too.

 

I wasn't going to tell her my feelings over the phone/texting, that's merely to arrange a time and place for me to tell her all that fun stuff in person.

 

Option E is where I would do that, but quite frankly I'd rather do option D than E.

Edited September 29, 2012 by Amon

[HarLea Quinn 26,501]

  On 9/29/2012 at 9:10 PM, 'Amon' said:

I wasn't going to tell her my feelings over the phone/texting, that's merely to arrange a time and place for me to tell her all that fun stuff in person.

 

Option E is where I would do that, but quite frankly I'd rather do option D than E.

 

Ok well then we are on the same page here . I just wasn't sure when you planned on executing that part so I figured I'd ask to be sure . In person is definitely the best way to say that stuff..

[Ace326 79]

Option A or B. Whatever you do do not do option E

[teh lazy prince Xylek 1,559]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[Weiss 8,279]

Well this may sound stupid but....

You could try actually just asking them out.

Mind=Blown

[Amon 4,279]

  On 9/29/2012 at 11:32 PM, 'Keysofblades' said:

Well this may sound stupid but....

You could try actually just asking them out.

Mind=Blown

 

This may sound stupid but...

You could read the thread and see that the problem isn't asking her out.

Mind=Blown

[Weiss 8,279]

  On 9/30/2012 at 2:06 AM, 'Amon' said:

This may sound stupid but...

You could read the thread and see that the problem isn't asking her out.

Mind=Blown

 

Lol. You obviously don't get the joke.

 

Option A.

Edited September 30, 2012 by Keysofblades

[MyDixieRect 2,061]

A or C would be just fine. Just say you want to talk with her alone, she's not going to be like "Oh sorry I'm with my friend it'll have to wait."

 

Don't ever do option B. It just seems too rushed to just pull someone aside on their way to somewhere else. Not to mention this way she doesn't even have to give you a proper answer she'll just imply it with a "Sorry, I'm running late! Gotta go!" and then your head will be rattling until the next day about what she meant.

 

I personally prefer C the most to be honest. You don't need to take her anywhere far just out of the lunch queue, the friend will know what you're about to do no matter how far you go. Option A like you said sounds intimidating and suspicious and if she tells her friends you want to speak to her alone then they'll put ideas in her head and yeah...

[Chronic Tumor 149]

  On 9/29/2012 at 8:36 PM, 'Amon' said:

, this thread is strictly on how to get her and me alone.

Roofies?

Roofies.

 

 

Because the way the title came across made it seem like you wanted to do not good things to her. Alone.

 

girls like the direct method. Call her or just ask her next time you see her

But do not text.

 

Actually text her. say "hey u me date dinner raep?"

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[King Riku 2,063]

Option A seems the best. Texting her is definitely a no no.