She wants to throw it all away...

[TheDarKris 85]

I'm really hoping you could help me out with this one:

I was in a long distance relationship with a girl and to me she was my light, every little thing was soo much better with her, she made me happy in ways no girl has ever made me feel, and she wants to throw that all away.

 

Her parents, namely her mom, weren't ok with us being together, they would rather her be with someone in her state (For point of reference I'm 16 and a senior, she's 15 & a junior). Then they said that theres a 50% chance of us being together in real life and after thinking about what they said, she started agreeing with them.

 

Now she feels like I don't deserve to be with her, she says that all she does is hurt me and cause me pain and break promises that we make. She says she won't worry about things but she does, overall she thinks that I should find someone near me that makes me happier than she does, and all of this sounds ridiculous to me.

 

To me it seems like she's forgetting all the good times that we had, she says she only hurts me, but forgets how much she's helped me, she forgets all the times she made me smile, all the times she made me feel better about myself. I have never met someone who I've had a close of a connection to than her, no one else I can talk to about things I wouldn't tell anyone else, no one who's fully accepted me for who I am. I really don't want this to end this way, I don't want to lose everything that we had, I don't know what to do....

[Destiny_of_a_Key_Bearer 82]

Maybe you should tell her this ^

[Weiss 8,279]

Definetely talk to her. It's best to get your feelings out.

[Miaka 16]

You should tell her maybe she'll understand.

[Caity 3,946]

Bang her brains out.

 

In seriousness though, although you don't want to hear it long distance relationships have a very low success of working out, especially if you don't have regularly physical visits and your relationship is nothing more than a series of 0s and 1s (I don't know from what you've said if you've actually met in person or it's just an internet relationship so many kids are having these days).

Visit her. If she's having doubts I don't really think a few emails would change anything.

[Exodaze 491]

Call her by phone, tell her how you really feel about her, I've had this experience and doing so might be a good idea.. especially at this point.

 

I am also going into a distance relationship, I've been calling her, I even send her flowers, I live in US and she's back at my hometown which is another country, very far.. I call her everytime I receive my salary.. because long distance call is pretty much a rip off..

 

I've known the girl I am talking about.. I've met her in person.. so if you haven't seen yours yet in person, that might be a different story.

 

Besides, I am a grown man, has a stable job, and can travel anywhere lol so creating a long distance relationship at your age, will be a bit of a challenge.

Edited September 23, 2012 by Exodaze

[OkashiraKenrex 251]

I truly don't know what to say.But u to are real young and this is all new so of course your going to say that but truly see the relationship with open mind/heart and see at it truly is and it will hurt.Life's most persistent and urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?'

Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

Don't know if any of that will help but at least i thought about it.....Right?

[MyDixieRect 2,061]

Bang her brains out.

 

In seriousness though, although you don't want to hear it long distance relationships have a very low success of working out, especially if you don't have regularly physical visits and your relationship is nothing more than a series of 0s and 1s (I don't know from what you've said if you've actually met in person or it's just an internet relationship so many kids are having these days).

Visit her. If she's having doubts I don't really think a few emails would change anything.

 

Your display pic looks a lot like Demi Lovato. Just had to say something about that.

[XIIISwords 1,059]

Bang her brains out.

 

I find it really disconcerting that this is the one post Daniel likes...

 

But tell her what you think. Be honest, and maybe it'll work out.

 

And, what state are you in where you graduate at 16???

[TheDarKris 85]

I find it really disconcerting that this is the one post Daniel likes...

 

But tell her what you think. Be honest, and maybe it'll work out.

 

And, what state are you in where you graduate at 16???

 

Its called being born in December, I'll be 17 when I graduate.

Did Daniel actually read this o.o I feel special v.v

Edited September 23, 2012 by DkrisXIII

[XIIISwords 1,059]

Its called being born in December, I'll be 17 lwhen I graduate.

 

Oh, okay.

 

But long distance can work. I have two friends who have been at colleges a state away for two years and they're going as strong as ever.

[TheDarKris 85]

Oh, okay.

 

But long distance can work. I have two friends who have been at colleges a state away for two years and they're going as strong as ever.

 

Yeah, coupled with her parents not being ok with it (btw my mom's 100% fine with it and was willing to have us meet up) and her notions that I'd be better off without her, its hard trying to convince her otherwise.

[Amon 4,279]

Buy a webcam.

[TheDarKris 85]

Buy a webcam.

 

I did, and I put it in my laptop http://kh13.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/sleep.png

[kalnet 1,198]

Don't let her get to you and be depress about it. Prove yourself to her that you are a man worthy of her daughter. Do whatever it takes for you and your girlfriend to have a good life ahead.

[heyitsdeven 131]

Just so you know, long distance relationships CAN work. I met my boyfriend online 4 years ago, & we make frequent trips out to see each other. In fact, I'm getting on a plane tomorrow to see him. Both ends have to make an effort to make it work though.