Decision to make... just don't know what to do...

[Hunter Hawk 392]

Hey guys!

 

I usually don't get really hard decisions, but for this one I need a bit of help. It's alright if you don't wanna help me, but if you do, please reply on my questions honestly.

 

The thing is... I'm in third year of high school and we'll have a trip that almost every high school has this year. Some of my older friends along with my older sis said this trip is unforgettable. I believed that myself too. But a few days ago, I didn't believe that anymore.

Some guys came to officially introduce that trip to us. We'd suppose to go in Spain in the same time as all other schools should go. Most of my classmates were really excited about it. Especially after introducing that there will be parties every day, really loud ones all night with hundretds of people. Also that guy who was introducing the whole thing, kept mentioning how many alcoholic drinks we will be drinking, how we'll be on parties all night and sleep through the day.... and about major things, like going on beaches, trips around city and taking photos to have memories? Nothing, he only talked about parties and little he told about going on beach was only about huge coctails you get there. He did mentioned some things, like ancient castle, knight games, aquarioum, but he was talking about those things as they're extremely boring and not worth seeing.

Like how he decribed dance performance " You see some guy comes on stage and dances. Some girls are totally crazy about him, but don't worry. Soon after some DJs come and start totally awsome party! Houndreds of people are literally dancing on each other. Imagine how cool is that?"

After describing about all this, he started talking about Greece.You see we have decision to go in Spain or Greece. That guy seemed to hate trip in Greece. He said like this " And then we have Greece, but it's extremely boring. Most of the schools usually go in Spain, which fills one city with more than thousand students right in hot tourist season! Imagine how much fun with so many people will be there? In Greece only hundred people will go, when is no tourist season. I strongly recommend Spain, cuz much more people will be there. And Greece doesn't have so much discos. Lame country huh?"

I strongly didn't agree with this, cuz I already was in Greece for four times and it's very nice place to visit. Then guy again said how awsome will be, cuz we'll have huge party every single night. Guy even said he doesn't excatly remembers when he went on this trip. I mean isn't the best on this trip to have nice memories? Not getting hangover every single morning with being to tired to have nice time.

Almost everyone in class was so damm excited just becuase they will be drinking and party every single night.

 

Which brings you to the question, why I'm talking about this. Well, I need to decide on which trip should I go, Spain where almost all of my class will go with thousands of other students from our country and tourists or Greece which will have much less visitors.

I'm not very party person plus I have sensitive ears and fear from crowds ( when I was little, don't remember exact age, I was on concert whic was awsome but through the end I wanted to go out, but others around me didn't let me - they just wanted to have fun and didn't care a damm thing that I wanted to leave - they even didn't let me after I started crying and yelling to let me go through ). That's one reason why I really don't like parties.

Also one friend of mine had simmilar thoughts as I did. She also said others like that cuz they're all single and they can get wild as much as they want. That friend of mine said she rather doesn't want to go anywhere cuz she has boyfriend, and parties like that could easily break them apart. She also mentioned two other classmates who doesn't like parties like as well.

I rather don't want go anywhere, but if I do that, I'll miss one of the "most important trips in my life". Also most of my class will resent my not going and this will be really bad cuz we're very good class and we all work together.

There's also my childhood friend, who always wants to make everything good. She wants everybody to come, to have very nice time. Problem is that she always thinks what kind of fun she likes and some aren't seeing party as the best fun or are even afraid of it. She also knows me for more than twelve years. Every time I said I don't like something, she thinks it's only becuase I haven't tried it. No, she has her type of fun and I have mine. She never understand my saying, just becuse of that thought.

My sis who went in Greece said they had really nice time, spending day on beaches with a lot program and trips. They were on parties but just for couple of nights.

Guy who introduced that didn't mention any of that.

 

I just don't know what should I do now. I can hardly explain this to anyone, to a friend with simmilar thoughts was really hard and I even started crying while doing so. I wanna have a nice trip ( it's called Maturanc and it's some kind of school's tradition ), but not tired from party every single morning and crowds of people on every single spot. And I wanna go with my class that's very awsome, like we went on some other school trips ( like we went in Italy for three days and we have really nice time, when we were taking photos, walking around, talking, practiacally enjoying a lot without any parties or drinking and none was complaining it's boring ).

So what should I do? Go Spain where I'll probably won't feel good or go in Greece where it might be better and be resented by almost entire class? Or just stay home and get even bigger resentment.

 

 

Please, advise me what to do....

[Iamkingdomhearts1000 1,170]

  On 9/16/2012 at 5:27 PM, 'hawk' said:

Hey guys!

 

I usually don't get really hard decisions, but for this one I need a bit of help. It's alright if you don't wanna help me, but if you do, please reply on my questions honestly.

 

The thing is... I'm in third year of high school and we'll have a trip that almost every high school has this year. Some of my older friends along with my older sis said this trip is unforgettable. I believed that myself too. But a few days ago, I didn't believe that anymore.

Some guys came to officially introduce that trip to us. We'd suppose to go in Spain in the same time as all other schools should go. Most of my classmates were really excited about it. Especially after introducing that there will be parties every day, really loud ones all night with hundretds of people. Also that guy who was introducing the whole thing, kept mentioning how many alcoholic drinks we will be drinking, how we'll be on parties all night and sleep through the day.... and about major things, like going on beaches, trips around city and taking photos to have memories? Nothing, he only talked about parties and little he told about going on beach was only about huge coctails you get there. He did mentioned some things, like ancient castle, knight games, aquarioum, but he was talking about those things as they're extremely boring and not worth seeing.

Like how he decribed dance performance " You see some guy comes on stage and dances. Some girls are totally crazy about him, but don't worry. Soon after some DJs come and start totally awsome party! Houndreds of people are literally dancing on each other. Imagine how cool is that?"

After describing about all this, he started talking about Greece.You see we have decision to go in Spain or Greece. That guy seemed to hate trip in Greece. He said like this " And then we have Greece, but it's extremely boring. Most of the schools usually go in Spain, which fills one city with more than thousand students right in hot tourist season! Imagine how much fun with so many people will be there? In Greece only hundred people will go, when is no tourist season. I strongly recommend Spain, cuz much more people will be there. And Greece doesn't have so much discos. Lame country huh?"

I strongly didn't agree with this, cuz I already was in Greece for four times and it's very nice place to visit. Then guy again said how awsome will be, cuz we'll have huge party every single night. Guy even said he doesn't excatly remembers when he went on this trip. I mean isn't the best on this trip to have nice memories? Not getting hangover every single morning with being to tired to have nice time.

Almost everyone in class was so damm excited just becuase they will be drinking and party every single night.

 

Which brings you to the question, why I'm talking about this. Well, I need to decide on which trip should I go, Spain where almost all of my class will go with thousands of other students from our country and tourists or Greece which will have much less visitors.

I'm not very party person plus I have sensitive ears and fear from crowds ( when I was little, don't remember exact age, I was on concert whic was awsome but through the end I wanted to go out, but others around me didn't let me - they just wanted to have fun and didn't care a damm thing that I wanted to leave - they even didn't let me after I started crying and yelling to let me go through ). That's one reason why I really don't like parties.

Also one friend of mine had simmilar thoughts as I did. She also said others like that cuz they're all single and they can get wild as much as they want. That friend of mine said she rather doesn't want to go anywhere cuz she has boyfriend, and parties like that could easily break them apart. She also mentioned two other classmates who doesn't like parties like as well.

I rather don't want go anywhere, but if I do that, I'll miss one of the "most important trips in my life". Also most of my class will resent my not going and this will be really bad cuz we're very good class and we all work together.

There's also my childhood friend, who always wants to make everything good. She wants everybody to come, to have very nice time. Problem is that she always thinks what kind of fun she likes and some aren't seeing party as the best fun or are even afraid of it. She also knows me for more than twelve years. Every time I said I don't like something, she thinks it's only becuase I haven't tried it. No, she has her type of fun and I have mine. She never understand my saying, just becuse of that thought.

My sis who went in Greece said they had really nice time, spending day on beaches with a lot program and trips. They were on parties but just for couple of nights.

Guy who introduced that didn't mention any of that.

 

I just don't know what should I do now. I can hardly explain this to anyone, to a friend with simmilar thoughts was really hard and I even started crying while doing so. I wanna have a nice trip ( it's called Maturanc and it's some kind of school's tradition ), but not tired from party every single morning and crowds of people on every single spot. And I wanna go with my class that's very awsome, like we went on some other school trips ( like we went in Italy for three days and we have really nice time, when we were taking photos, walking around, talking, practiacally enjoying a lot without any parties or drinking and none was complaining it's boring ).

So what should I do? Go Spain where I'll probably won't feel good or go in Greece where it might be better and be resented by almost entire class? Or just stay home and get even bigger resentment.

 

 

Please, advise me what to do....

 

Since because there is too much writing here am i too lazy to read all of it however since because i still want to still help will i say this just do what you say, think, do and feel is right for you don't have to go to a whole lot of parties with your friends if you don't want to it's entirely your decision obviously since because in the end that's what you both truthfully and/or honestly want to do right? im sure your friends will understand maybe im not certain since i don't know them personally obviously but hey that's where you come in for you yourself can tell either or not if your friends want you to go with them obviously but hey like i said it's entirely up to you in the end if you want to go on the trip with them or not obviously.

Edited September 16, 2012 by Iamkingdomhearts1000

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

You should do what you are most comfortable with. Personally, I am not a partier or a drinker, I am more interested in Greece than in Spain. It seems to me like you are similar. What I would choose is obvious. If you are thinking the same thing I am, then your classmates need to respect your decision, and they're being really inconsiderate and immature if they don't. After all, this trip is to enjoy the country you're seeing, right?

[Col.Random 3,683]

if you like greece better try convincing your friends to go there with you.

[Zola 3,038]

You really need to do what you feel is the right thing for you. I know it's really hard to do things when the crowd is against you, but you can't let other people frighten you into making their decision. It's your trip! You do what will be the most fun for you. I'd also go to Greece if I were in your position. If you do go to Spain, there will be a lot of pressure from the others to go to the parties, even if you don't want to. You can always say no, but it is probably wiser to just avoid that situation by not placing yourself in it in the first place.

 

Whatever you do, just make sure you get the most out of it in your way, not other peoples way.

[Rhiscx 54]

First of all, I think you should get yourself some better friends. That might sound harsh, but it sounds like the people you surround yourself with don't care about how you feel, think, or like to enjoy your time. Your friend has known you for 12 years, and she still doesn't understand certain things about you (you don't like parties, you prefer to actually enjoy a country for the country and not for the booze that it has to offer, for example)? You need to do what is right for you. On the one hand, you say you've been to Greece four times? Maybe you'd enjoy going to Spain, but avoiding the parties and rather enjoying the country itself. As the poster above me said, that's gonna be difficult because of the peer pressure, but that's also a part of life. You need to learn not to follow the crowd just because they outnumber you, and act on what you know is best for you. Besides, I guarantee you're not the only person in your class that isn't a big partier. You'll find others who you can enjoy Spain with and not have to feel forced into a situation that you're not comfortable with. Or, if you really enjoyed Greece during your previous trips, go back! Anybody who resents you for following your heart is not worth having as a companion, friend, acquaintance, whatever. Those kinds of people are just not worth your time.

[VanitasisKirby 1,227]

Do what would make you more comfortable I can see how you might feel pressured. If you go to Spain, you will be even more pressured by your friends trying to convince you to go party with them.

 

If I were you, I'd go to Greece and maybe try to convince a few friends to come, I wouldn't force them to.

[Loki 1,184]

Umm, even if you go to Spain that doesnt automatically mean you have to go to the parties. The guy did mention the site seeing, but since the only way he can enjoy life is by being in an impaired state of mind, he wouldnt know much about that. It seems like you have some friends that would accompany you on those sort of sightseeing stuff. See if you can get more information about what you can do in Spain and plan your trip without all the parties. Then if anyone asks if you want to go to so and sos party, you can tell them you already have plans. Just saying I would go to Spain if I were in your position because you have already been to Greece so it sounds like a good chance to see more of the world.

[Geralt 4,874]

Well alcohol stay away from it o-o But if you wanna party go ahead don't do any of the dumb stuff a lot of people do at those though.

[Weedanort 8,786]

Basically what everybody said. Go with what you feel most comfortable.

 

And, I think that the city you're talking about in Spain is Lloret Del Mar

 

Everybody goes there to party.