My Father

[Pyrrha Nikos 1,162]

He.. doesn't really appreciate me and he doesn't approve of the things I do. Just last night, he told me to get a life because I was spending the first 5 minutes on this site and I left to the guest room in a hurry so I don't have to listen him. He also told me to get REAL friends because internet friends don't count. I use to watch a lot of cartoons, but because my dad sees that I enjoy watching cartoons, he calls me childish and someone my age shouldn't watch shows that were meant to be watched by little kids. Ever since that incident, I stopped watching Legend of Korra and such great shows so he won't call me childish again (sadly he still does). And on the last day of the Meow Wow plushie giveaway, I was finally done drawing my 'master piece' and printed out another copy just for keepsakes, but my dad took the copied drawing I made and said: "I bought you ink for the printer to print out homework, not to do this". I felt very upset when he said that to me and I just can't take it anymore with how he is to me.

[RikuLove416 23]

My mom does the same to me......

[Villi1997 1,832]

maybe you could tell him something like ''hey, i want to be different'' or ''you have to be interested in something''

[Pyrrha Nikos 1,162]

maybe you could tell him something like ''hey, i want to be different'' or ''you have to be interested in something''

 

He won't listen to me, sadly. He never does even if I'm interested in anything like anime, he frowns upon it.

[Godot 513]

this is going to sound awful, but really the only thing you can do is suck it up (at least about the childish thing). try talking to him and trying to see things his way. if he only wants you to use the printer for school, then only use the printer for school.

 

if he actually starts abusing you, then make sure you let someone know right away. but as it is right now, there's really not much you can do.

[Robbie the Wise 5,050]

Your dad doesn't seem very supportive of you.

[Pyrrha Nikos 1,162]

this is going to sound awful, but really the only thing you can do is suck it up (at least about the childish thing). try talking to him and trying to see things his way. if he only wants you to use the printer for school, then only use the printer for school.

 

if he actually starts abusing you, then make sure you let someone know right away. but as it is right now, there's really not much you can do.

 

True maybe I should just suck it up. He never really listens to what I have to say anyways and I did stopped watching cartoons just for him.

[Villi1997 1,832]

He won't listen to me, sadly. He never does even if I'm interested in anything like anime, he frowns upon it.

 

wow, your parents are like the opposite of mine, they actually find it interesting that im interested in anime, comic books, video games, sci - fi etc.

[Godot 513]

 

 

True maybe I should just suck it up. He never really listens to what I have to say anyways and I did stopped watching cartoons just for him.

 

you shouldn't let him change what you like!! if you want to watch cartoons, then watch cartoons. you're not doing anything unsafe, so it's not his business.

[Pyrrha Nikos 1,162]

Your dad doesn't seem very supportive of you.

 

He never really is and never listens to what I need to say to him. He makes me feel like shit at times, but maybe I should just suck it up.

 

you shouldn't let him change what you like!! if you want to watch cartoons, then watch cartoons. you're not doing anything unsafe, so it's not his business.

 

I actually tried standing up to him about that and he still looked down on me and said that "only children watch those type of stuff and the last time I check you're not a child anymore"

 

And I just walked away despised.

Edited September 3, 2012 by Silent Maiden

[Robbie the Wise 5,050]

He never really is and never listens to what I need to say to him. He makes me feel like shit at times, but maybe I should just suck it up.

 

 

 

I actually tried standing up to him about that and he still looked down on me and said that "only children watch those type of stuff and the last time I check you're not a child anymore"

 

And I just walked away with despised.

 

I don't know about this sucking up buisiness, but that last person who should be making you feel that way is your father. I think you should talk to him, and let him know how he makes you feel when he does that kind of stuff. Edited September 3, 2012 by devereauxr

[VanitasisKirby 1,227]

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This is almost exactly my situation with my mother. I'm sorry to hear this, but that's just mean. First off,

 

1) Internet friends do count. They may be mutual or virtual or whatever, but at least they're your friends.

 

2) Watch whatever you want and don't let him get in your head. Hey, I still watch Spongebob. Is it so bad that I like watching kid cartoons because they entertain me? Besides, some cartoons and kid shows are really good. You know, except for a few Disney shows. Not everything is going to be about MTV or whatever.

 

3) Your dad needs to be more supportive of you. I feel like's he trying to turn you into the perfect child like my mother is doing to me. He needs to learn to support you, because no one is useless. You're really fun and an awesome friend, so you're totally not what he thinks.

 

I know how you feel. I'm in your position right now, for the past 4 years. I guess I can help out.

 

I feel like I made no sense Dx Sorry if I can't be of help.

[Pyrrha Nikos 1,162]

I don't know about this sucking up buisiness, but that last person who should be making you feel that way is your father. I think you should talk to him, and let him know how he makes you feel when he does that kind of stuff.

 

Talking to him does seem to be the only option right now, I hope he actually listens to me.

[KeyOfVentus 90]

this is going to sound awful, but really the only thing you can do is suck it up (at least about the childish thing). try talking to him and trying to see things his way. if he only wants you to use the printer for school, then only use the printer for school.

 

if he actually starts abusing you, then make sure you let someone know right away. but as it is right now, there's really not much you can do.

 

Dude you're There is verbal abuse, physical isn't the only kind.

 

And as for you Silent Maiden. I know you've tried talking, but maybe you need to yell. Let your voice out. Your dad needs to know exactly and excruciatingly how you feel. This is, at least what I did. MY father got madder at first, but then settled down. Also going to a higher authority works to, for example, your mother. My mother is the only person I know who can keep my father in line, mostly because she's one scary lady. I'm not saying cops, that's overkill for now, but like war, if you can come at him from multiple sides at once, you'll be able to break through.

[Geralt 4,874]

My moms like that .-. She doesn't give a pure damn of me. I want to do something important and shes like "Noooo" but for my two brothers she'll do anything for them. I know most people get in fights and scramble off call their mom a bitch but then apologize but I'm not like that and I extremely hate my mom.

[Iamkingdomhearts1000 1,170]

He.. doesn't really appreciate me and he doesn't approve of the things I do. Just last night, he told me to get a life because I was spending the first 5 minutes on this site and I left to the guest room in a hurry so I don't have to listen him. He also told me to get REAL friends because internet friends don't count. I use to watch a lot of cartoons, but because my dad sees that I enjoy watching cartoons, he calls me childish and someone my age shouldn't watch shows that were meant to be watched by little kids. Ever since that incident, I stopped watching Legend of Korra and such great shows so he won't call me childish again (sadly he still does). And on the last day of the Meow Wow plushie giveaway, I was finally done drawing my 'master piece' and printed out another copy just for keepsakes, but my dad took the copied drawing I made and said: "I bought you ink for the printer to print out homework, not to do this". I felt very upset when he said that to me and I just can't take it anymore with how he is to me.

 

Tell him this "Don't you have anything better to do? FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO LUMP ALL OF YOUR STUPID CRAP ON! IM YOUR OWN DAUGHTER FOR PETE'S SAKE!! NOT SOME STRANGER WHO, OUT OF ALL PEOPLE, MY OWN FATHER, IS TREATING ME LIKE!!! im allowed to have hobbies dad, geez.".

Edited September 3, 2012 by Iamkingdomhearts1000

[Godot 513]

 

Dude you're There is verbal abuse, physical isn't the only kind.

 

 

i'm fully aware, thanks. this isn't verbal abuse.

[Pyrrha Nikos 1,162]

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This is almost exactly my situation with my mother. I'm sorry to hear this, but that's just mean. First off,

 

1) Internet friends do count. They may be mutual or virtual or whatever, but at least they're your friends.

 

2) Watch whatever you want and don't let him get in your head. Hey, I still watch Spongebob. Is it so bad that I like watching kid cartoons because they entertain me? Besides, some cartoons and kid shows are really good. You know, except for a few Disney shows. Not everything is going to be about MTV or whatever.

 

3) Your dad needs to be more supportive of you. I feel like's he trying to turn you into the perfect child like my mother is doing to me. He needs to learn to support you, because no one is useless. You're really fun and an awesome friend, so you're totally not what he thinks.

 

I know how you feel. I'm in your position right now, for the past 4 years. I guess I can help out.

 

I feel like I made no sense Dx Sorry if I can't be of help.

 

Hey, your words are very useful to me, but yeah I can't get through to him and every time he yells at me I just get scared. Edited September 3, 2012 by Silent Maiden

[Xalaru 445]

My Dad thinks it's childish of me to still like Pokémon, and my stepdad has said I need to get a life ('cause I'm always on the computer or videogames), but to be honest you should just enjoy what you're doing and do it.

I mean, despite my Dad thinking I'm too old for Pokémon now, he still helped me go to Gamestop so I could download the Keldeo event, then joked about how we were being ninja Pokémon thieves 'cause we downloaded it around the corner of the store. He's awesome.

It's just people's views on things really, even though what some people say might seem harsh, it's just their opinion and it's not as if they hate you because you do such things.

 

It's not nice that your Dad is so... blunt about it, but that's just his perspective on it all. Doesn't make it right but just try talking to him about it.

Oh, and about the internet friends thing, they do count. I actually find them much better than 'real-life' friends because they get to know you more and you build closer friendships with them (in my case, at least).

My best friend is from online, and since I met him on an Animal Crossing website (ACC) I've met him 4 times and hopefully again this October (he's 3 hours drive from me).

I'm meeting another of my internet friends this October so we can go to an Owl City concert in Manchester.

I barely talk to 'real-life' friends at home anymore because I just can't seem to talk to them on a level that I do with internet ones. I feel too judged with those who I see every day.

Edited September 3, 2012 by Xalaru

[VanitasisKirby 1,227]

 

Hey, your words are very useful to me, but yeah I can't through to him and every time he yells at me I just get scared.

 

Thanks. Maybe like me, you're shy and quiet. I freak out when I'm 2 seconds late to class.

 

You should really talk with him about this, but the hard part is getting past your nervousness and shyness.

 

I'm learning to stand up for myself, and that's something you should do.

 

Don't let him walk over you, and don't let him call you childish. If I may, doea your mom know about this?

[Pyrrha Nikos 1,162]

My Dad thinks it's childish of me to still like Pokémon, and my stepdad has said I need to get a life ('cause I'm always on the computer or videogames), but to be honest you should just enjoy what you're doing and do it.

I mean, despite my Dad thinking I'm too old for Pokémon now, he still helped me go to Gamestop so I could download the Keldeo event, then joked about how we were being ninja Pokémon thieves 'cause we downloaded it around the corner of the store. He's awesome.

It's just people's views on things really, even though what some people say might seem harsh, it's just their opinion and it's not as if they hate you because you do such things.

 

It's not nice that your Dad is so... blunt about it, but that's just his perspective on it all. Doesn't make it right but just try talking to him about it.

Oh, and about the internet friends thing, they do count. I actually find them much better than 'real-life' friends because they get to know you more and you build closer friendships with them (in my case, at least).

My best friend is from online, and since I met him on an Animal Crossing website (ACC) I've met him 4 times and hopefully again this October (he's 3 hours drive from me).

I'm meeting another of my internet friends this October so we can go to an Owl City concert in Manchester.

I barely talk to 'real-life' friends at home anymore because I just can't seem to talk to them on a level that I do with internet ones. I feel too judged with those who I see every day.

 

Dude you're There is verbal abuse, physical isn't the only kind.

 

And as for you Silent Maiden. I know you've tried talking, but maybe you need to yell. Let your voice out. Your dad needs to know exactly and excruciatingly how you feel. This is, at least what I did. MY father got madder at first, but then settled down. Also going to a higher authority works to, for example, your mother. My mother is the only person I know who can keep my father in line, mostly because she's one scary lady. I'm not saying cops, that's overkill for now, but like war, if you can come at him from multiple sides at once, you'll be able to break through.

 

@Xalaru He just wants me to be friends with actual people since he knows Im a little anti social and my social skills are pretty weak. I even told him about the friends Im making here and he laughs at me and says thats stupid. Im just like "what?!"

 

@keyofVentus I did yell at him once and he fought back through telling me this is not the type of shit Im suppose to do and send me to my room.

Edited September 3, 2012 by Silent Maiden

[Demyx. 10,064]

Honestly, theres most likely no way your going to change his mind. When I was a teenager my dad was the same way. I always told him to just shut up I like what I like. But that really never ended well. I'd say just keep enjoying whatever it makes you happy. Because that's what really matters. I'm 24, I still play video games, watch cartoons and anime. I also make over $100,000 a year and am engaged. So really, enjoying "childish" things really hasn't messed up my life or anything. Just be happy you have those "childish" things that make you who you are.

[Queen Tery 4,591]

My parents are pretty similar. They use to make fun of me for liking Naruto, Avatar: The Last Airbender, and my dad looked at me with a weird look when I went to see the Lion King 3D with my friends. Luckily, my parents usually get over it because I try not to let it bother me. Plus I'm an adult, so I live by myself and like what I want to like. It does bother me at times and it was a lot harder when I lived with them, so trust me I understand that it does suck. My parents wouldn't let me on the computer or use the internet unless it was for school work, which is why I was barely on this site for the first year and a half of my membership. The best thing you can do is try not to let it bother you and just be yourself. Watch what you want to watch and like what you want to like. When it comes to the printer, he does buy the ink so it's better to play by his rules, until you're an adult or can buy your own ink or printer.

[Zola 3,038]

If other ways fail, I've found that people respond well when you do nice things for them. This may not seem easy or desireable. It can take a very long time. But if you really want to get through to people, your actions will usually get you places that words just can't. Look for things you can do for your father, even things he might not notice. This could help open doors to communication.

At the very least, you know he cares about you, because if he didn't, he wouldn't care to say anything.

Also, be careful not to insult his pride when you do talk to him. Men seriously put up a wall if it sounds in the least like you are saying they're wrong.

Good luck.

[KHKirkhouse 4]

I sort of know how you feel. I haven't really seen my Dad that much for about almost ten years now, and I am constantly trying to do things to get his approval. But recently I've figured that my Dad obviuosly doesn't care about me that much otherwise he would have talked to me, and he would let me just be me. It seems to me like your Dad is the same way. My advice (and I know that this is going to sound horrible) is to just get on with your life. It is not your father's to live. What you do is up to you and nobody else, and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. I hope this helps and I'm sorry if it doesn't.