Oniaku 280 Posted August 27, 2012 (edited) I am in love with this girl, and we have been in love for awhile. We plan to get married in a few years. The problem? I'm 18, She's 13. Is our age difference too great? Edited August 27, 2012 by Oniaku Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HarLea Quinn 26,501 Posted August 27, 2012 (edited) At this point in your life ? Yes .Its too much of an age gap in this age group when even a few years difference means lightyears in maturity and emotional developement . Not to mention the expectations of one another could drastically differ in such an age gap. Also I should add the ramifications of you being legally an adult and her a minor .This could lead to trouble . Edited August 27, 2012 by Flaming Lea 3 _The Door To Light_, Robbie the Wise and hatok reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Namikaze 654 Posted August 27, 2012 I'm just going to go off on a limb and say yes. 2 Kinode and axelrulz reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Weiss 8,279 Posted August 27, 2012 At the teenage age, yes. That would probably cause a lot of stress and problems IMO. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
xXVentusfanXx 33 Posted August 27, 2012 yea thats way to big of a age gap...for now at least wait for her to mature alittle cuz most girls dont plan on getting married a few years later when their just 13 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TripleNipple 308 Posted August 27, 2012 As long as she's mature. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LightningXIII 310 Posted August 27, 2012 (edited) 5 years may or may not be much of a difference, depending on age range. Like this: 13 to 18 sounds like a big difference, but 21 and 26 doesn't sound bad at all. You should wait until she's at least 18, any younger than that is a bit too much. Good luck! http://kh13.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/happy.png Edited August 27, 2012 by LightningXIII Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Oniaku 280 Posted August 27, 2012 At this point in your life ? Yes .Its too much of an age gap in this age group when even a few years difference means lightyears in maturity and emotional developement . Not to mention the expectations of one another could drastically differ in such an age gap. Also I should add the ramifications of you being legally an adult and her a minor .This could lead to trouble . The legal thing only applies if your having sex. I already looked into it to make sure. I know not at this point, why do you think we are waiting? yea thats way to big of a age gap...for now at least wait for her to mature alittle cuz most girls dont plan on getting married a few years later when their just 13 A few is like 5-8 or more 5 years may or may not be much of a difference, depending on age range. Like this: 13 to 18 sounds like a big difference, but 21 and 26 doesn't sound bad at all. You should wait until she's at least 18, any younger than that is a bit too much. Good luck! http://kh13.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/happy.png Lol, see, that's why we are waiting. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kinode 3,056 Posted August 27, 2012 Yeah, a relationship right now is bound to problems. As much as it seems difficult for you to wait, you both should be patient. If everything's still fine when you are both a bit older, then go for it. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Oniaku 280 Posted August 27, 2012 Yeah, a relationship right now is bound to problems. As much as it seems difficult for you to wait, you both should be patient. If everything's still fine when you are both a bit older, then go for it. Thank you, thats what I'm saying that people seem to be missing. We are waiting! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HarLea Quinn 26,501 Posted August 27, 2012 (edited) The legal thing only applies if your having sex. I already looked into it to make sure. I know not at this point, why do you think we are waiting? A few is like 5-8 or more Lol, see, that's why we are waiting. I think you missed the fact that even if you are waiting to get married this could be a problem with her parents . What do they think ? Five years isnt a bigger deal later on in life , but at this point in your life its huge .What you may need /expect from each other even emotionally can be drastically different .If you are waiting , why are you even asking us this ? Are you in a current relationship or not ? Edited August 27, 2012 by Flaming Lea 2 Robbie the Wise and MyDixieRect reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brox Relwal 5 Posted August 27, 2012 if you take it from me, live your life for yourself, cause when its all said an done, you dont need anyone else. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Col.Random 3,683 Posted August 27, 2012 um..yes. Obviously it's not only a big age gap, but there's also a big maturity gap. Like, dude, she's 18 >_> Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Smithee 327 Posted August 27, 2012 Keep your relationship entirely platonic, and I think you might be fine. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Azure Flame 670 Posted August 27, 2012 um..yes. Obviously it's not only a big age gap, but there's also a big maturity gap. Like, dude, she's 18 >_> He's 18 and she's 13. Also, I've been in a couple situations like yours in the past, though they were all online relationships. None of them ever lasted because of the difference in maturity. 13 years old is too young to be thinking about marrige or any kind of serious commitment. Girls at that age are too impressionable and will try to grow up too fast for you, because they think you're 'the one' even though they haven't developed enough to really know what they want. Just look at the Family Guy episodes where Meg falls in love with Brian, and later Joe. Yeah, it's a bit extreme as well as a comedy, but similar things can happen, maybe not as extreme as the show has, but it's not good. I think you should give her some time, let her date other people and find out what she really wants, then when she's 18, see if she's still into you. 2 TheApprenticeofKingMickey and Robbie the Wise reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
King Demise 2,359 Posted August 27, 2012 Yeah the age difference is to great. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Elijah Gravenhorst 480 Posted August 27, 2012 Dude that's waaaaaaay to young to get married. Especially her. She's too young to make that kind if decision and it would be taking advantage of her immaturity if you got her to marry you. Also its kinda illegal if ya know what I mean. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kinode 3,056 Posted August 27, 2012 Dude that's waaaaaaay to young to get married. Especially her. She's too young to make that kind if decision and it would be taking advantage of her immaturity if you got her to marry you. Also its kinda illegal if ya know what I mean. They said they were planning on getting married in the FUTURE. And if they are, then their love must be really strong. If he's not forcing her to do anything, I don't see what the problem is. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Oniaku 280 Posted August 27, 2012 if you take it from me, live your life for yourself, cause when its all said an done, you dont need anyone else. I lived my life for myself for too long. I'd rather not go back to that. They said they were planning on getting married in the FUTURE. And if they are, then their love must be really strong. If he's not forcing her to do anything, I don't see what the problem is. ^ Thanks Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nouhous 19 Posted August 27, 2012 I had to sign in and ask....ARE YOU firetruckING KIDDING ME?! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Snow 1,800 Posted August 27, 2012 Yeah, but if you two actually love each other and you don't molest her, then there's no problem. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Oniaku 280 Posted August 27, 2012 Yeah, but if you two actually love each other and you don't molest her, then there's no problem. O_O That's just wrong. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Snow 1,800 Posted August 27, 2012 O_O That's just wrong. Well, are you? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Oniaku 280 Posted August 27, 2012 Well, are you? No, zhe was abused when she was younger, I would never think of doing the same thing to her, Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Snow 1,800 Posted August 27, 2012 No, zhe was abused when she was younger, I would never think of doing the same thing to her, Good. But still man, five years. Couldn't you have looked for someone around you're age? She's barely beginning her teen years. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
