Pro or Against Internet Dating

[Geralt 4,874]

I just wanted to see what everyone thinks of Internet Dating. Myself, I am pro for Internet dating. If someone ends up with one of those nasty ole perverts though, I weep for their future.

 

 

Try not to get too argumentative and such. I have strong fears of a mod closing this topic

Edited August 7, 2012 by Libirica

[Uncle Dolan 963]

You have no balls if you can't ask a girl out in person. Simple as that.

[HarLea Quinn 26,501]

The biggest problem with internet dating is you literally dont know who you may be talking too. It could be anyone bc they can say they are anyone .Which makes internet dating easy access for predators . I think its possible to meet cool people from the internet but you have to be very very careful. If you ever choose to meet anyone in person ,dont do it alone and always in a public place.

[Protoman 1,974]

not if you're 14

you gotta be responsible before you want to try that shit

[Elijah Gravenhorst 480]

Well I have my doubts about it but my sister started dating someone over skype and he came all the way to NH from one of the Carolinas to see her and things are going really well for them so I dunno...

[Geralt 4,874]

  On 8/7/2012 at 7:18 PM, 'Protoman' said:

not if you're 14

you gotta be responsible before you want to try that shit

 

I've already done it o.o I don't mind dating online or offline. But im not dating anymore since I found out I only really just loved one guy and only ever him. Although offline dating is much funner cause you get to do more things and I dont mean sex http://kh13.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/sleep.png Edited August 7, 2012 by Libirica

[Pyrrha Nikos 1,162]

  On 8/7/2012 at 7:16 PM, 'Flaming Lea' said:

The biggest problem with internet dating is you literally dont know who you may be talking to. It could be anyone bc they can say they are anyone .Which makes internet dating easy access for predators . I think its possible to meet cool people from the internet but you have to be very very careful. If you ever choose to meet anyone in person ,dont do it alone and always in a public place.

 

Basically everything Flaming Lea said.

[Dracozombie 4,554]

As someone who, when younger, had an online boyfriend in Canada, I can safely say that while it can work out, it usually doesn't. Dating someone over the internet isn't the same as being there in person, talking to them face-to-face, hanging out and doing activities that don't revolve around a computer. And yes, there's the issue of not knowing who you're talking to is trustworthy.

[Geralt 4,874]

If you do Internet Dating you gotta be know what you're doing and be pro at figuring out if they're telling the truth of things

[Rob 5,571]

What Dolan said.

[Geralt 4,874]

  On 8/7/2012 at 8:18 PM, 'Rob' said:

What Dolan said.

 

You and Dolan are partners in crime as usual

[Amon 4,279]

If they weren't ugly or crazy they wouldn't need to use the internet.

[Geralt 4,874]

  On 8/7/2012 at 8:32 PM, 'Amon' said:

If they weren't ugly or crazy they wouldn't need to use the internet.

 

I agree kind of I've only online dated like once and it was absolutely strange and terrifying e.e I mean sure i support people who want to Date online but its terrible for me

[Amon 4,279]

  On 8/7/2012 at 8:34 PM, 'Libirica' said:

I agree kind of I've only online dated like once and it was absolutely strange and terrifying e.e I mean sure i support people who want to Date online but its terrible for me

 

It's terrifying for anyone that isn't also terrifying.

[Think Pink 1,967]

Teenagers make stupid mistakes, whether we choose to admit it or not. So while a lot of teenagers would be fine internet dating, you do have to take into account that a lot would make big mistakes. I really don't think people should do it until they're older. And at that I'm more of an advocate for traditional relationships, where people meet irl.

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

Imo, it doesn't count as dating because you can't actually go on dates when you're on the internet.

 

As for online relationships, I'm not really sure. I'm not one for them personally because of the issue of internet privacy and safety but I'm not against letting other people do it, especially if they're happy in their relationship. If I were to have an online relationship, it would really have to depend on the circumstances otherwise, I wouldn't be in the relationship in the first place. But hey, if they're mature enough to handle it and being well aware of the consequences as well as being happy at the same time, I see no reason to stop them.

[Wolfgang 735]

  On 8/7/2012 at 7:21 PM, 'Elijah Gravenhorst' said:

Well I have my doubts about it but my sister started dating someone over skype and he came all the way to NH from one of the Carolinas to see her and things are going really well for them so I dunno...

 

I know where you live now haha.

 

@topic

I dont care, your life do whatever you want.

[Shana09 5,769]

It really depends actually.

If you are doing an online relationship than sure why the hell not? If two people like each other over the internet and blah blah, and then it's fine. Let them go out, it's not a big deal.

 

BUT If you try to find a date over the internet and then want to meet up IRL, think about it a lot. To be honest, the internet on dating websites is really bad. For example, a person on FB pretending to be a 10 year old boy who "likes you" may ask you to meet up at ur park. You do and it ends up being a 79 year old man. So really take caution in that, I highly recommend not to find a dating partner over the internet and meet up IRL. But if it's an online relationship, do whatever you like.

 

So in short; I really don't care what the person does as long as the person is cautious and doesn't meet up the person IRL unless it's extremely safe and under safe circumstances.

[Wuver 920]

I don't really care, but if you want to online date, go ahead. You just have to be careful about what you say and what you reveal to the person because really, the other person might not really be the person they told you they are. Also, if you're comfortable with it then shoot. Imo, I prefer meeting ppl irl and dating them because you actually can talk to them face-to-face and do things together ( not bad things owo).

 

Yeah that's all I have to say.

[Kirie 3,489]

The internet is unsafe

 

Thats why online daters should keep it steady if they want to be in a relationship not just meet in person the next day

people should think before they meet in real life

Edited August 7, 2012 by inori

[kalnet 1,198]

It's not really a complicated thing actually. You just need to know your risk and be cautious.

 

It's just that the internet is getting younger and there are more kids using the internet more nowadays compared to last time.

 

It's nothing much really. Just know and understand your place in life.

[The Transcendent Key 12,109]

  On 8/7/2012 at 10:31 PM, 'inori' said:

The internet is unsafe

 

Thats why online daters should keep it steady if they want to be in a relationship not just meet in person the next day

people should think before they meet in real life

 

Nicely said honey. ^^

[Geralt 4,874]

I agree with actually everyone here really. The internet is unsafe but if you know someone well and have known them for quite some time then sure it is safe to date online with them. But tons of kids these days and every social network site might as well set their Terms of Service for sign up allowed at age 8+. Parents these days :I and me being a really nice, mature, little boy when I was around like 8 or 9 begged my mom for a Myspace for many months and she finally gave in. Over all these years on the internet and I've been safe made some really nice friends though on games and such :I Most gone.

[Ivan 969]

My own personal preference is to be able to see the person you're dating in person often.

 

However I'm not against people dating online as long as they know what they're doing.

 

Relationships need a two things in order to work. They need the people in the relationship be able to communicate and interact with one another in order to form a bond.

 

Let's start with how people can communicate through an online relationship.

 

With technology these days, we can instant message people through programs such as MSN, Skype, and AIM. They can also do calls so they can talk to one another, and do video calls so they can also see one another instead of just reading text. It's a lot easier to talk to people online, we all know that. So it's easier to build that half of the bond.

 

However there is a downside. Like I said, it's easier for people to get out of their shell on the internet. This means that people can act completely different in real life. Personally, I like the internet because it gives me time to think about what I'm going to say. You ask me to give my opinion on this in real life and my brain and mouth will not cooperate with one another. So in real life I say a lot of things I don't mean to say, and I know I'm not the only one. Things like this can be harmless in relationships, however there are some people who take it to the extreme.

 

There are some people out there who will act like a completely different person online. They can lie about their age, and even their gender. They can easily steal someone else's photo and tell their partner it's them. They can lie about their home life and make themselves appear more vulnerable and in need of attention. It's hard to trust on the internet, which is why it's important that if you are going to date through the internet, be careful with where you meet your significant other.

 

Now there's the other half of the relationship to cover, the interacting/physical side. Now for a relationship to work, you have to have the possibility to meet the person you're dating in real life. If you're a 14 year old dating someone else half way across the country (and sometimes dating someone from another country), the odds are highly against you in the percentage of being able to meet your significant other. Because really, young relationships won't last long enough for you to grow up and have the funds to have your significant other over. The reason why I say grow up, is because chances are, your parents won't let you have a kid from the other side of the country that you've never met before over at your house because you've talked a few times online. So, most likely you're gonna have to rely on yourselves to be able to meet up.

 

Some people think they don't need a physical side to a relationship, I say otherwise. If you think you're serious about the relationship, then you need to be comfortable physically with your partner. Now physically doesn't have to be taken as sexually. Physically can mean that you're comfortable in their presence, both alone and with other people. You're going to need to be comfortable holding their hand, holding them, and kissing them (and then eventually having sex with them). Because you know if you're actually serious about the relationship, it's gonna get physical eventually. Even if you're like 14, I still believe you need to be comfortable around the person out in public.

 

Now remember how I said people can act differently online and irl? If you're meeting your significant other for the first time, then this is when you get to see what they're really like. Not just whether if they lied about themselves or not, but you see little habits they have, little ticks. They might set off a few of your pet peeves, they might joke about a trigger of yours. They might do something that makes you uncomfortable. You can't tell about many of these until you meet them irl. And if you break the relationship off after only meeting once, then it was all a waste of time and effort (especially if it took a lot to be able to meet up in the first place).

 

It may seem like I'm against online dating, but I'm not. I'm all for those dating sites and apps that can set you up with a person living in your area. It's a great way to meet new people, and sure they might not match you up with the right person, but you keep on trying. A lot of the time, adults don't have time to go out and actually look for a date, which is why these websites and apps are a good thing.

 

So I guess to really sum things up: I'm for internet dating for adults who know what they're doing, not so much kids.

 

Also note that my opinion is formed from my own personal experiences with online dating, along with experiences that my friends have had.

[Kaiso 2,764]

  On 8/7/2012 at 11:42 PM, 'Ivan' said:

 

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My own personal preference is to be able to see the person you're dating in person often.

 

However I'm not against people dating online as long as they know what they're doing.

 

Relationships need a two things in order to work. They need the people in the relationship be able to communicate and interact with one another in order to form a bond.

 

Let's start with how people can communicate through an online relationship.

 

With technology these days, we can instant message people through programs such as MSN, Skype, and AIM. They can also do calls so they can talk to one another, and do video calls so they can also see one another instead of just reading text. It's a lot easier to talk to people online, we all know that. So it's easier to build that half of the bond.

 

However there is a downside. Like I said, it's easier for people to get out of their shell on the internet. This means that people can act completely different in real life. Personally, I like the internet because it gives me time to think about what I'm going to say. You ask me to give my opinion on this in real life and my brain and mouth will not cooperate with one another. So in real life I say a lot of things I don't mean to say, and I know I'm not the only one. Things like this can be harmless in relationships, however there are some people who take it to the extreme.

 

There are some people out there who will act like a completely different person online. They can lie about their age, and even their gender. They can easily steal someone else's photo and tell their partner it's them. They can lie about their home life and make themselves appear more vulnerable and in need of attention. It's hard to trust on the internet, which is why it's important that if you are going to date through the internet, be careful with where you meet your significant other.

 

Now there's the other half of the relationship to cover, the interacting/physical side. Now for a relationship to work, you have to have the possibility to meet the person you're dating in real life. If you're a 14 year old dating someone else half way across the country (and sometimes dating someone from another country), the odds are highly against you in the percentage of being able to meet your significant other. Because really, young relationships won't last long enough for you to grow up and have the funds to have your significant other over. The reason why I say grow up, is because chances are, your parents won't let you have a kid from the other side of the country that you've never met before over at your house because you've talked a few times online. So, most likely you're gonna have to rely on yourselves to be able to meet up.

 

Some people think they don't need a physical side to a relationship, I say otherwise. If you think you're serious about the relationship, then you need to be comfortable physically with your partner. Now physically doesn't have to be taken as sexually. Physically can mean that you're comfortable in their presence, both alone and with other people. You're going to need to be comfortable holding their hand, holding them, and kissing them (and then eventually having sex with them). Because you know if you're actually serious about the relationship, it's gonna get physical eventually. Even if you're like 14, I still believe you need to be comfortable around the person out in public.

 

Now remember how I said people can act differently online and irl? If you're meeting your significant other for the first time, then this is when you get to see what they're really like. Not just whether if they lied about themselves or not, but you see little habits they have, little ticks. They might set off a few of your pet peeves, they might joke about a trigger of yours. They might do something that makes you uncomfortable. You can't tell about many of these until you meet them irl. And if you break the relationship off after only meeting once, then it was all a waste of time and effort (especially if it took a lot to be able to meet up in the first place).

 

It may seem like I'm against online dating, but I'm not. I'm all for those dating sites and apps that can set you up with a person living in your area. It's a great way to meet new people, and sure they might not match you up with the right person, but you keep on trying. A lot of the time, adults don't have time to go out and actually look for a date, which is why these websites and apps are a good thing.

 

So I guess to really sum things up: I'm for internet dating for adults who know what they're doing, not so much kids.

 

Also note that my opinion is formed from my own personal experiences with online dating, along with experiences that my friends have had.

 

 

Seriously what Ivan has said is pretty much what I agree with.

Overall though I'm sort of half and half with this. The internet is a more easier way to find people who share things in common with you, so chances of you finding a boyfriend or girlfriend online are bound to be easier too, right? Despite that there are still certain things that make me feel iffy about that. Most if it is basically what Ivan has said in the post above. At some point they would eventually need to meet. However, it's really REALLY easy for someone to trick someone into thinking they're something they aren't on the internet. For all you know your online boo could be a 56 year-old pedophile, but I'm sure you're willing to take the chance if you want to online date. Another problem is location. If a couple that wants to meet in public but they're A) too young and B ) live on possibly polar opposites from one another it would seriously be difficult for a couple to achieve meeting in person, which I think is a really key part of a relationship. Yeah there are ways to interact online but it will never be the same as actually being there with the real person. If it is a serious relationship the couple should really think about this. Online chats can really only go so far. =\

 

Another problem I have is something that COULD go on in the real world, but on the internet I find to be much easier and that is cheating. No, I am not saying if lover A is in love with lover B and C and lovers B and C have given consent for lover A to have an intimate relationship with both it isn't ok. If all parties give consent it is perfectly fine, but when you are dating someone online for all you know while you're having a serious conversation they could be sitting there with three other chat windows up doing the same thing to other people that you don't know about and probably never will. If you're someone that has issues with stuff like that, this is another problem that I have seen occur quite often though some of my online acquaintance's relationships.

 

Really though if you want to online date, go crazy but know the dangers of it. :U