UGH! My Ex-Best Friend

[chargeblade497 36]

Ugh, so my best friend takes back a 2 time cheater (he cheated on her twice so far) and when i say sarcastically "TAKE HIM BACK" she really does. she doesnt understand how i really like her. She also said she wasnt gonna date anyone for the rest of the summer -,- LIES. lies.

After i said "i couldnt believe you" she sent this long message saying how she really loved me but probably ruined her chances. then she said she hated her self and wanted to hurt herself. i convinced her not to, but then she was all like "are we friends again?" and i said,

"Ireally dont know."

I'm just really mad at her to see her go back to someone that hurt her twice and whenever he did she came straight to me to talk to me- so what should i do? forgive her or not?

[Rob 5,571]

Sad to say that this is the equivalent to women going back to boyfriends that abuse them. They forgive them, but the same result will happen again. I say forgive her, but if he cheats on her again.....don't. This will be her 3rd strike, then you move on.

Edited July 9, 2012 by Rob

[KissyFace 134]

Damn dude, you got friendzoned, HARD.

[chargeblade497 36]

Damn dude, you got friendzoned, HARD.

 

dude, that's not the point! She keeps going to the cheater that cheated on her MULTIPLE times! And he says he didn't when it was proven he was lieing!

[musicgam3 10]

Best way to deal with it I think is to leave her a little, but be there when she needs you.

So if it happens again suddenly you are there for her and make sure you help her and let her know you still like her.

This is how I am nearly out of the friendzone and going in the friends with benefit zone, but that is a whole other story.

I hope you find your luck like I did man

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

What matters more? Your integrity or her? If she matters that much, you'll put aside your annoyance and just be there for her. She isn't making the best choices and I think when she comes to realize that, she'll look to you for help. I don't think she was lying to you in the moment but love can a change the way a person thinks. Sometimes she love him more than anything and sometimes she might wonder why she liked him in the first place. And if you care, you'll be a shoulder to cry on whether as a friend or something more.

[HikariYami 354]

She is playing you and friend zoning you.

She is confused and don't know what she wants; it's best to leave her alone.

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

She is playing you and friend zoning you.

She is confused and don't know what she wants; it's best to leave her alone.

 

Why does she have to be playing him? If she only wants to be friends with him, it's not her in fault in any way.

[HikariYami 354]

Why does she have to be playing him? If she only wants to be friends with him, it's not her in fault in any way.

 

I couldn't think of a word, but it was closest to what I was trying to say.

[Shana09 5,769]

Give her some time, she will come to realize one day who she really likes and dislikes and she will come to her senses that this guy cheated on her 2 times. Love is a perplexed situation to deal with.

 

"OMFG BOI U GUT FRIENDZONED MANNNNNNNN OMG"

 

no what kind of idiotic answer is that, what does this have to do with a girl who goes back to his cheating boyfriend?

Also friendzoned is an idiotic word, if she wants to remain friends with him then fine, but if she kind of likes him, then she does.

 

Anyways,

Friendzone = Bullcrap

find better ways to explain want in your sentence without taking something out of context.

[MasterNahi 46]

I say forgive unless she does it again. Three strikes, she's out. I know what you're going through. Two friends of mine go through this, too, and they seem to never stop. Break up then get back together, over and over. I understand how you feel.

[Koko 3,944]

SHUT UP WITH THE FRIENDZONE BULLCRAP OH MY GOD

If you actually valued her friendship, then you would let her do whatever the hell she wants AND BE THERE FOR HER.

But if you decide to be all 'BLUH BLUH SHE FRIENDZONED ME, FRIENDSHIP REVOKED' it makes you look like a firetrucking child who doesn't understand you can't always get what you want. As well it makes it look like YOU used HER by only befriending her to hook up with her.

[Sonic 487]

Give her some time, she will come to realize one day who she really likes and dislikes and she will come to her senses that this guy cheated on her 2 times. Love is a perplexed situation to deal with.

 

"OMFG BOI U GUT FRIENDZONED MANNNNNNNN OMG"

 

no what kind of idiotic answer is that, what does this have to do with a girl who goes back to his cheating boyfriend?

Also friendzoned is an idiotic word, if she wants to remain friends with him then fine, but if she kind of likes him, then she does.

 

Anyways,

Friendzone = Bullcrap

find better ways to explain want in your sentence without taking something out of context.

 

THIS.

[Col.Random 3,683]

I just don't get why girls are so attracted to a jerk in the first place. Seriously sometimes it's like the only way to get a girl is to be an As***** cause i've always seen every undeserving jerk going out with a really sweet girl and a nice guy being left forever alone. So..um...WHY THE FIRETRUCK DOES THIS HAPPEN?

[Sonic 487]

I just don't get why girls are so attracted to a jerk in the first place. Seriously sometimes it's like the only way to get a girl is to be an As***** cause i've always seen every undeserving jerk going out with a really sweet girl and a nice guy being left forever alone. So..um...WHY THE FIRETRUCK DOES THIS HAPPEN?

 

Dude don't question it, people are just confusing in general

[Koko 3,944]

I just don't get why girls are so attracted to a jerk in the first place. Seriously sometimes it's like the only way to get a girl is to be an As***** cause i've always seen every undeserving jerk going out with a really sweet girl and a nice guy being left forever alone. So..um...WHY THE FIRETRUCK DOES THIS HAPPEN?

 

Simple: PEOPLE LIKE WHO THEY LIKE

Also in most situations the 'nice guy' is a jerk who only befriends girls to get with them and when they don't want to date him, he turns on them and calls them bitches and sluts.

[chargeblade497 36]

OK. i never asked her out or anything or got "friendzoned" ok, she just told me she plain liked me. thats it. i never asked her out.

[Koko 3,944]

OK. i never asked her out or anything or got "friendzoned" ok, she just told me she plain liked me. thats it. i never asked her out.

 

If she likes you and you like her, then go for it?? Unless she's dating someone else then wait???

Not that hard????

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

I just don't get why girls are so attracted to a jerk in the first place. Seriously sometimes it's like the only way to get a girl is to be an As***** cause i've always seen every undeserving jerk going out with a really sweet girl and a nice guy being left forever alone. So..um...WHY THE FIRETRUCK DOES THIS HAPPEN?

 

Um, maybe because the guy she likes isn't a jerk? Maybe that's what she finds attractive in men? Maybe she wanted to see what her preferences are? Why is it bad? Why does she have to go out with this designated nice guy, who is in fact, a misogynist prick? Why is it bad if she wants to choose and/or explore?

[chargeblade497 36]

If she likes you and you like her, then go for it?? Unless she's dating someone else then wait???

Not that hard????

 

I just really hate the term 'FriendZoned'

[Koko 3,944]

I just really hate the term 'FriendZoned'

 

Same

Just do what you want but make sure you think about her and her feelings about the situation

[Cricket 1,180]

She'll learn the hard way, let her experience this first hand, the only thing you can do for her is to sit back and support her. It's her fault for going back to a guy that will continually hurt her, but she can't depend on you forever, I mean you have t move on too and if she keeps going back to jerks then forget about her and move on, but still be her friend.

[KissyFace 134]

dude, that's not the point! She keeps going to the cheater that cheated on her MULTIPLE times! And he says he didn't when it was proven he was lieing!

 

I know but...dang...

 

Give her some time, she will come to realize one day who she really likes and dislikes and she will come to her senses that this guy cheated on her 2 times. Love is a perplexed situation to deal with.

 

"OMFG BOI U GUT FRIENDZONED MANNNNNNNN OMG"

 

no what kind of idiotic answer is that, what does this have to do with a girl who goes back to his cheating boyfriend?

Also friendzoned is an idiotic word, if she wants to remain friends with him then fine, but if she kind of likes him, then she does.

 

Anyways,

Friendzone = Bullcrap

find better ways to explain want in your sentence without taking something out of context.

 

It's not taken out of context in the least. Unless he's not attracted to her for whatever reason (don't see that often) then I give a moment of silence for a zoned brother.

 

And girls hate the term "Friendzone" for obvious reasons.

Edited July 10, 2012 by KissyFace

[Koko 3,944]

And girls hate the term "Friendzone" for obvious reasons.

 

I'm not a girl and I despise the word greatly because it's a stupid word to describe when a misogynistic asshole doesn't get laid and decides a woman's friendship means nothing if he can't get some.

[KissyFace 134]

I'm not a girl and I despise the word greatly because it's a stupid word to describe when a misogynistic asshole doesn't get laid and decides a woman's friendship means nothing if he can't get some.

 

Umm, not sure I believe you actually. But that may just not matter to you.

 

But anyways, that's the rationalization I'd expect. In fact, you didn't change my view at all. It's a term used when a boy who sincerely likes a girl is limited to only being her friend, or "best friend". It doesn't mean he decides it's worth nothing, but that's just how other people will describe it.