Help me to get over a girl please :(

[musicgam3 10]

.

Edited September 20, 2014 by musicgam3

[sorariku17 37]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:20 PM, 'musicgam3' said:

First I want to say normally I never post such a problem online.

But this time I need some help pretty bad.

 

Ok I will not give you any names for private reasons as you probably will understand.

I live near Amsterdam and I am a 17 years old boy/guy.

Party like every weekend on saturday on Amsterdam.

In my life I never really liked a girl (this is pretty important in my situation).

Had a couple of girlfriend, but never something serieus.

Also never talked about girls to my parents ever.

Normally I went out with a good friend of mine who is a guy model.

I am not ugly at all, but as you have already guessed he gets all the girls and I am his wingman.

Not a bad job to be his wingman though met some pretty hot girls.

But I always had bad luck

 

Until I was going out with an other friend of mine.

I wasn't even in the club for 5 minutes and caught the eye of a beautiful Vodka (Codeword for blond girl ).

I was like ok nice, but didn't expect anything, because of my bad luck.

She walked past me and her hand went over my belly.

I went after her and asked her if she wanted a drink.

she said no

But turned and blinked at me.

So went after her (and stupid me) 'asked' if she wanted to dance ((like a loser) tip: never ask a girl that just do it).

she said maybe later, I thought that I screwed it up and didn't saw her for a while.

later I was having a drink and I saw her leaving with her friend.

I went up to her and asked her why are you leaving.

She said I am going to the next bar and begon to stand really close to me.

She asked if came with her and I said ok.

She nearly kissed me, but then said we will do that in the next club.

I will see you at the next squar she said, because you still have to pick up your jacket and she gave me her number.

I rushed to my jacket and stood out side in a splitsecond.

Called and she said go to the square I will meet you there.

I waited there for like an hour still no sign so I called her a bit mad and she said go in a club and I will come to that club.

I went to a club not a second later I got a text that she was in a different club.

I went to that club and I didn't came in the club cause it was 18plus.

She came outside and we stood against eachother again.

It was very nice, but still she didn't kiss me.

and after a half of an hour she went back in.

 

In the beginning I thought that that would never work out and didn't had feelings for her.

Later we still text a bit and everything became better.

We had a date like 3 weeks later.

This date was steaming hot (no details )

I fell in love for the first time that day. (not because it was hot in the beginning everything was relaxed).

later things went down south and I said to her that I never fell in love like this.

She found me too sweet.

After our first date we only kissed 2 times.

And she began to talk about other guys (a lot of guys were interested in her).

She told me she wanted to be young and free and didn't want a relationship.

I could live with that, but I knew it wasn't true.

Now she friendzoned me.

And I payed for everything I did with her (took her out for dinner everytime) I have spend like 400 euros in 3 months on her.

Even told my parents about her and they were shocked and think we have something.

My friends think I am crazy that I still go after her and become friends.

So I have no one to talk to.

I just can't get her out of my head.

And that is not a big problem, but I have final school exams in one week and I just can't learn because of this.

 

PLEASE HELP ME!

I am a good guy that is my problem.

She is the 12th girl who friendzoned me in one year.

All the other 11 times didn't bother me though.

 

sorry for the long post hope you can help me

 

Thanks for your time.

 

Maybe you should just, speak to her? seems like you like her a lot if your like this, and if she knocks you back then she isn't the right one for you , simple as that . i was like you last year, so i told her, and now we have been going out for a year, and engaged <.< quick i know, but i loved her for like 2 years, turns out it was the same way for her (even though she covered it up by talking about other guys etc). and btw we were best friends (still are)

 

So yeah, just speak to her and confess, either it will be good, or bad, if bad, chin up and you'll find another ;D

Edited May 9, 2012 by sorariku17

[Koko 3,944]

This goes in Personal, not Real Life News.

[musicgam3 10]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:28 PM, 'Goddess Koko' said:

This goes in Personal, not Real Life News.

 

O sorry how can I change that?

 

Oh I c its already changed thanks

Edited May 9, 2012 by musicgam3

[Koko 3,944]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:28 PM, 'musicgam3' said:

O sorry how can I change that?

 

Oh I c its already changed thanks

 

I moved it, dont worry. Just make sure you make threads in the proper sections

[musicgam3 10]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:25 PM, 'sorariku17' said:

Maybe you should just, speak to her? seems like you like her a lot if your like this, and if she knocks you back then she isn't the right one for you , simple as that . i was like you last year, so i told her, and now we have been going out for a year, and engaged <.< quick i know, but i loved her for like 2 years, turns out it was the same way for her (even though she covered it up by talking about other guys etc). and btw we were best friends (still are)

 

So yeah, just speak to her and confess, either it will be good, or bad, if bad, chin up and you'll find another ;D

 

Thats the problem she know I like her and doesn't give a ....

She is not the right one for me at all still I can't get her out of my head.

Thanx for the reply thought

[Koko 3,944]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:20 PM, 'musicgam3' said:

Now she friendzoned me.

And I payed for everything I did with her (took her out for dinner everytime) I have spend like 400 euros in 3 months on her.

Even told my parents about her and they were shocked and think we have something.

My friends think I am crazy that I still go after her and become friends.

So I have no one to talk to.

I just can't get her out of my head.

And that is not a big problem, but I have final school exams in one week and I just can't learn because of this.

 

PLEASE HELP ME!

I am a good guy that is my problem.

She is the 12th girl who friendzoned me in one year.

All the other 11 times didn't bother me though.

 

sorry for the long post hope you can help me

 

Thanks for your time.

 

this is your problem

this girl has nothing to owe you

saying she friendzoned you makes you look like an asshole im sorry

sure you paid for everything but you offered and that's your own fault for spending that money on her

you did it because you liked her

it's not like she has to pay you back or reward you

if she doesnt like you

if doesn't want a relationship

that's her decision

get over her

from what i read, you rushed into and fell in love with a girl for her looks and not an actual person

and even so, you just need to move on

[WakingDawn96 1,166]

Well, I say just be her friend and see where that takes you. If she ends up wanting you back, then she will stop at nothing than to be with you. You at least get to see her, which should be good enough for right now. Just focus on what matters at the moment, and forget she is even alive for the time being. (PS I have never had a GF, or crush until I saw this one girl, who still has no clue how I feel)

 

PS: These lyrics may help you calm down about the girl:

[sorariku17 37]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:32 PM, 'musicgam3' said:

Thats the problem she know I like her and doesn't give a ....

She is not the right one for me at all still I can't get her out of my head.

Thanx for the reply thought

 

Well love is a hard thing, either give her time. or ignore her completely somehow. i like xeveemon's reply, just wait and see if she wants you back or not, sometimes girls can't admit to feelings due to past problems, relationships etc.

[Koko 3,944]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:39 PM, 'sorariku17' said:

Well love is a hard thing, either give her time. or ignore her completely somehow. i like xeveemon's reply, just wait and see if she wants you back or not, sometimes girls can't admit to feelings due to past problems, relationships etc.

 

Or maybe

maybe

 

wait for it

 

 

she doesn't like you, move on.

[musicgam3 10]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:34 PM, 'Goddess Koko' said:

this is your problem

this girl has nothing to owe you

saying she friendzoned you makes you look like an asshole im sorry

sure you paid for everything but you offered and that's your own fault for spending that money on her

you did it because you liked her

it's not like she has to pay you back or reward you

if she doesnt like you

if doesn't want a relationship

that's her decision

get over her

from what i read, you rushed into and fell in love with a girl for her looks and not an actual person

and even so, you just need to move on

 

oh I don't care about he money at all.

I only put it in the post to ask if she used me or not.

At one moment she says she likes me and another moment she says she doesn't,

It is really confusing.

And believe me she is not that hot after I saw here the second time.

I really really fell for her character.

I am not a bad guy I always try to make other people feel better.

 

But it isn't about getting her back or what I lost.

Its about how to get over her...

 

Thanks for all the replys it already helps me a lot.

To have some advise of people

!

[Koko 3,944]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:41 PM, 'musicgam3' said:

oh I don't care about he money at all.

I only put it in the post to ask if she used me or not.

At one moment she says she likes me and another moment she says she doesn't,

It is really confusing.

And believe me she is not that hot after I saw here the second time.

I really really fell for her character.

I am not a bad guy I always try to make other people feel better.

 

But it isn't about getting her back or what I lost.

Its about how to get over her...

 

To me it sounded like you were complaining that you spent money on her, but w/e

 

Do something that occupies your mind

Draw, read, anything and stop thinking about her and move on.

[musicgam3 10]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:44 PM, 'Goddess Koko' said:

To me it sounded like you were complaining that you spent money on her, but w/e

 

Do something that occupies your mind

Draw, read, anything and stop thinking about her and move on.

 

Yeah I want to practise my passion breakdance, but with the exams next week studyng is better... sadly

[sorariku17 37]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:41 PM, 'Goddess Koko' said:

Or maybe

maybe

 

wait for it

 

 

she doesn't like you, move on.

 

LOL, a seriously pointless statement.

[Koko 3,944]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:48 PM, 'sorariku17' said:

LOL, a seriously pointless statement.

 

how is it pointless

it's the truth hun

if she doesnt like you

she doesnt like you

and it seems to me, she doesnt like you

[musicgam3 10]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:36 PM, 'Xeveemon' said:

Well, I say just be her friend and see where that takes you. If she ends up wanting you back, then she will stop at nothing than to be with you. You at least get to see her, which should be good enough for right now. Just focus on what matters at the moment, and forget she is even alive for the time being. (PS I have never had a GF, or crush until I saw this one girl, who still has no clue how I feel)

 

PS: These lyrics may help you calm down about the girl: http-~~-//www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQjBzwhr2g8

 

Good luck with your flame man.

Don't do it like I did take it slow is way better, but still be brave!

[sorariku17 37]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:54 PM, 'Goddess Koko' said:

how is it pointless

it's the truth hun

if she doesnt like you

she doesnt like you

and it seems to me, she doesnt like you

 

Who doesn't like who? i don't even know if this is ment to be directed at me, or the actual person who posted this forum.......i am so confused right now. period.

[Koko 3,944]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:56 PM, 'sorariku17' said:

Who doesn't like who? i don't even know if this is ment to be directed at me, or the actual person who posted this forum.......i am so confused right now. period.

 

she doesnt like him

i tend to say you whenever i talk about other people to someone else lol

[sorariku17 37]

  On 5/9/2012 at 10:59 PM, 'Goddess Koko' said:

she doesnt like him

i tend to say you whenever i talk about other people to someone else lol

 

AHHH!!! i get you, sorry for being confused. yeah it seems like she doesn't like him, but i didn't want to sound harsh...because there is ALWAYS a SMALL chance she might.....

[musicgam3 10]

  On 5/9/2012 at 11:05 PM, 'sorariku17' said:

AHHH!!! i get you, sorry for being confused. yeah it seems like she doesn't like him, but i didn't want to sound harsh...because there is ALWAYS a SMALL chance she might.....

 

hope so 0:) don't think so either though.

 

Still thank you guys/girls for the little hope you gave me.

It was so good and all of a sudden in like a day never touched me.

I just still don't get her, what did I do wrong?

[sorariku17 37]

  On 5/9/2012 at 11:09 PM, 'musicgam3' said:

hope so 0:) don't think so either though.

 

Still thank you guys/girls for the little hope you gave me.

It was so good and all of a sudden in like a day never touched me.

I just still don't get her, what did I do wrong?

 

one thing you must always remember.....GIRLS ARE CONFUSING!!.....its as simple as that.

[Skai 3,961]

I think you just need to cry it out for a couple days or hold your feelings in for a couple months.

[sorariku17 37]

  On 5/9/2012 at 11:11 PM, 'Sky Heart' said:

I think you just need to cry it out for a couple days or hold your feelings in for a couple months.

 

Typical male (i know i am one) who can't share his feelings, and bottles them up then it BLOWS UP at one stage of his life, and has a break down....life is....interesting isn't it

[rainbowdash64 194]

I wish I could help you in this sorta thing. I gave up wanting a Boyfriend or a Girlfriend a while ago. It just breaks your hearts. You searching for love, and love is hard to find.

 

I'm sorry I can't help you. : (

[HarLea Quinn 26,501]

When a girl doesnt reciprocate your feelings it doesnt necessarily mean you did anything wrong . It could just mean you werent right for her . Move on there will be others .