Keyblade_warrior895 51 Posted February 29, 2012 O.K. it's kind of embarassing for me to ask this, being a guy.....but i need advice, from both girls, and guys(If you want), i'm the oldest of 3, but have always been the most shy, still, i'm just wondering what girls look for in a guy, and how i can ask them out before i run the other way. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrownKeeper13 688 Posted February 29, 2012 If there's a girl you want to ask out, there are two things you need to be sure to do: Make sure she's single. This is the BIGGEST part of not making yourself look like a dweeb. 2: If she's really good looking, make SURE to ask her out quickly. I can't stress that one enough. I've been kicking myself in the ass for 2 years because the girl I like's boyfriend asked her out literally 5 minutes before i was gonna. And at least act confident, not asshole-ish, but confident and macho. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Venterrqua 85 Posted February 29, 2012 Just brave up, girls tend to be picky about nervous guys, just take a deep breath, be honest, give her a compliment, and ask her out, if you want go with some friends to give you encouragement, dont think! you may over think and slip up, just go up to her, tell her that you find her very pretty or you look like a certain celebrity (tends to work for me lol ) and ask if she would like to out sometime Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wolfgang 735 Posted March 1, 2012 ^ Be that.. Dont worry, you'll be fine.. Dont be nervous and complement her, make her blush! And what ever you do.... Dont ask her out via text message! 1 Robbie the Wise reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Godot 513 Posted March 1, 2012 Don't ask via text message and don't get someone else to do it for you, no matter how nervous you are. That's the best advice I can give. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Exlon 165 Posted March 1, 2012 First of all--how old are you? How much do you like this girl, and why? Would you do this hoping for anything permanent in the future? Or are you just dating for the sake of dating? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HarLea Quinn 26,501 Posted March 1, 2012 Girls love confidence. Also always ask her out face to face....Girls love compliments but make it something personal not generic..Treat her like a lady too, bc girls appreciate being respected.Also it helps to show interest in what she likes so she knows you have an interest in getting to know the real her and not bc of looks/ appearance 2 Godot and Robbie the Wise reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Leaxel 178 Posted March 1, 2012 If you want to gain confidence to talk to girls go to the mall or if you are good with PS3 or Xbox go to a electronic shop or something they always have girls in those stores and they have to talk to you and they will help you and respond to you just ask for help with something, you don't have to buy anything just talk to these girls/women I don't care if they are 40 you will gain the confidence to talk to girls and that is what matters. And later you will talk the those girls easy! and then you can take the next step and talk to girls and ask them out. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AnsemTheWise 1,114 Posted March 1, 2012 I've always had the shyness problem, too. Confidence is king! If you don't show that you can support yourself, then she won't look twice! Of course, a degree of timidity could help... But the biggest ones are make sure she's single (like CrownKeeper said) and do your homework on her first! I asked out the nicest girl last semester, and even now I still feel kind of... odd about it. But we had nothing between us. Sure, we enjoyed each other's company and could make each other laugh, but we shared no interests, didn't like a lot of the same things. There just wasn't much to work off of. Now, don't be a creeper, just get to know her first and be sure about what you're doing. That'll factor into the whole confidence thing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Robbie the Wise 5,050 Posted March 1, 2012 Girls love confidence. Also always ask her out face to face....Girls love compliments but make it something personal not generic..Treat her like a lady too, bc girls appreciate being respected.Also it helps to show interest in what she likes so she knows you have an interest in getting to know the real her and not bc of looks/ appearance This says it all in a nutshell(at least the easy stuff ) 1 HarLea Quinn reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tom 437 Posted March 1, 2012 Do it like how everyone does in da movies. Just go up to her, strike a conversation, talk about similar things, and act funny. No toliet humor, however. It's pretty simple really. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf on the Run 391 Posted March 1, 2012 okay dont text to see dont get a friend to ask her for you and when you are attempting be shore to look her in the eyes now ways to help with out breaking your top rules try texting her for a while talk about random stuff so the two of you get to no each other better just dont ask her out through text owe and add a tone of x's to the end of all your messages to her if she sents a message back with x's to she like you you can also get a friend to find out if she does but after they ask wait a good week or two before you ask her or she'll figure out why your friend asked her if she liked you and just get away from u then okay i think that should about do it and good luck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Robbie the Wise 5,050 Posted March 1, 2012 I'm waiting for Rob to come here and tell you what he tells everyone else when they ask this question. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HarLea Quinn 26,501 Posted March 1, 2012 I'm waiting for Rob to come here and tell you what he tells everyone else when they ask this question. Like a BOSS!!! BWAHAHAHA 1 Robbie the Wise reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amon 4,279 Posted March 1, 2012 Do it like how everyone does in da movies. Yes, Hollywood is a great source of information. Learning form completely fake scenarios that are written by some of the most socially awkward people on Earth is your best choice. One thing that hasn't been mentioned (enough) is that girls like laughing. So try to be funny. Don't start cranking out jokes that you googled or make yourself look like a retard. Just act how you would act with your guy friends (NOTE: Avoid masculine humor) and you should get her to laugh at least once. 1 Robbie the Wise reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Leaxel 178 Posted March 1, 2012 ONE MORE THING: Facebook, a source of information about this girl. Girls have liked like thousands of things on facebook, BAM there you have all you need to make this girl interested in you. just find like a band or something and if you don't know them listen to their songs maybe they remind you about other bands and those bands can you present to the girl and if she likes it then you will be in the back of her head when she listens to that band. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Keyblade Master Xoncron 499 Posted March 1, 2012 I'm pretty sure girls like guys who aren't nervous wrecks and make them laugh. It also might not hurt if you bring the girl a boquet of flowers and a box of chocolates. Also don't be a stalker because that'll just make the girl get a restraining order. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HarLea Quinn 26,501 Posted March 1, 2012 Yes yes girls dont like stalkers.. 1 Robbie the Wise reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tom 437 Posted March 1, 2012 Yes, Hollywood is a great source of information. Learning form completely fake scenarios that are written by some of the most socially awkward people on Earth is your best choice. Trust me man. Hollywood = Legit. There is no better way than those movies. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
legendkiller222 22 Posted March 3, 2012 It all depends on the girl you are dealing with. Most girls like a guy who is confident in themselves because it means they are going after the girl and the girl then has a good idea that the guy is interested in them. My advice to you is to be forward with the girl, sometimes it will result in the girl saying no and sometimes yes. It's just about how well you can talk to the girl, remember when asking her out think about if it would be weird for them to hang with you alone. Don't ask them out right away. Most girls pre mid 20s are not used to that and can feel awkward easily by being asked out within the first conversation or two you have with them Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
heartless101 83 Posted March 4, 2012 Get to know her a little first of all. Make sure that she doesn't have a boyfriend inside or outside of school. Find this out by asking one of her friends. If she doesn't, then make your move slowly. Be friendly to her, get her into a good mood and then ask her out. Good luck! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shadowblade 31 Posted March 7, 2012 Trust me man confidence is key.Alex always berrated me for not having confidence and beating myself up all the time. I'm still working on it but she does talk to me more now that i keep myself thinking positive. I'm about to take her out for the first time friday myself.good luck! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
demy1077 56 Posted March 20, 2012 write her a letter and stick it in her locker.if you don't want to do that then become her friend and let it grow from there after you trust eachother enought ask her out. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Number XV 490 Posted March 21, 2012 Yeah, if you barely know her, that won't go well. Anyways, confidence is nice, but being too confident usually ends up you being an asshole. Being the stupid confident boy only gets you so far. Being sensitive works if you're looking for a SERIOUS relationship. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sonic 487 Posted March 21, 2012 seeing as were on the subject i want your opinion guys and girls. i wanna ask out one of my friends who i've known for a while, but she broke up with her boyfriend about 2 weeks ago. what should i do? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
