Zhanton 1 Posted February 9, 2012 How do you guys/gals deal with having crushes on your straight friends? I absolutely hate it... 1 Shana09 reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Koko 3,944 Posted February 9, 2012 I had a crush on my straight, Christian, best friend. That's how I realized I liked girls. I kind of just got over it because well there was no chance of it ever happening. I was content with her being my friend and even more so that she accepted me when I came out to her. It's kind of distressing, but in the end, I think it's best to let go. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kelvy 60 Posted February 9, 2012 It sucks, doesn't it? I can't tell you how many times I've had a crush on one of my guy best friends, just to have him go out with one of my girl best fiends and live happily ever after... It's absolutely horrible and I have to act like I'm fine with everything >_>. I just don't let myself get close to guys anymore lol. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shana09 5,769 Posted February 9, 2012 My friend had the same problem..hes over him now. Ill text him to ask him brb....(ill edit here) (FINALLY he responded) Edit: He said this, but ill reword it: Basically he got in love with him, he said you should see how the person is, and the reason why you have a crush on him. He made a mistake since his love has clouded his eyes until he noticed that guy was a total jerk and backstabber. Another thing he said, never fall for a guy only by his looks, even though you may know this, it is just a tip because not all good looking guys are great boyfriends. He said answer those, and once he sees the answers he will come up with a plan. I think you should trust him, he is best person to ever expierence love I have ever met. Also make sure you ask his friends how he actually acts, since that he might be nice to some, and mean to others, for completely no reason. Get to know him a lot more. This is his answer....also if you cant answer by around 9:30 then I cant be able to tell him....ill tell him tomorrow. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ventus_XIII 50 Posted February 9, 2012 It was difficult. I had a huge crush on one of my friends, I figured it's not gonna happened though it was hard to deal with. Later I accidentally I fell for another best friend but instead of hiding it like I did the first one I told her how I felt. A week later I asked her out, a month after that I asked for an answer. well hey maybe you'll lucky. I've been dating my best friend for about 2 years now. Yes it's difficult and maybe you'll get shut down. But you never know till you try. BUT ALSO if your gonna confess be sure you ask them. "if I tell you a secret you promise we'll still be friends?" if their a good friend and the best friend you say they are they'll say yes, ok? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
maurica rodriguez 24 Posted February 9, 2012 das it! if they r straight i dont care and chit i get all the papis that i want and das it ! make them feel wepa all the time das it thats all u need and chit Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyRaptor 30 Posted February 9, 2012 i had a crush on a friend in high school and never told her and now its 2 years after graduation, i havent seen her sence and i miss her alot Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miku Hatsune 636 Posted February 9, 2012 My best friend is gay. He had the hots for this one guy really bad and then asked him out, found out he was straight. Real bummer. I've liked chicks before, but all the girls I've really been into have reciprocated my feelings. So far, anyways. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ventus_XIII 50 Posted February 9, 2012 I went lesbian when I've come to realize all the guys I've dated were douchbags. oh btw the girl I date now, the one I've been dating for 2 years left her boyfriend for me. isnt that abit sad? lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rob 5,571 Posted February 9, 2012 I like this girl that's straight, and she likes me back. 1 Shana09 reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ventus_XIII 50 Posted February 9, 2012 I like this girl that's straight, and she likes me back. awesome. try to work things out. *hint hint* Valentine's Day :P Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Uncle Dolan 963 Posted February 9, 2012 I like this girl that's straight, and she likes me back. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Spectrum of Life 188 Posted February 9, 2012 Not necessarily.Sexuality is never a black and white affair That aside, I usually just try to forget about it. After an incident, (Painful story short: I asked a guy out, the little [[REDACTED]] told my best friend and outed me in public after I had moved away. Thankfully no one believed him... except my best friend. He didn't take it well, but he seems to have gotten past it since he started talking to me again.) I do a lot of research and asking around to make sure before taking the leap. I'm almost able to go socialize in an exclusively Gay environment.(I come out to my father this week, everyone else knows and he probably suspects. It doesn't feel right to do things behind his back in the first place.) So this won't be a problem for much longer. 1 Ventus_XIII reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kishira 2,854 Posted February 9, 2012 Fffu, reading these made me realize I've never even had a crush on any guys in all my years of school. Forever alone. e.o Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Not-with-a-whimper 144 Posted February 9, 2012 I went lesbian when I've come to realize all the guys I've dated were douchbags. oh btw the girl I date now, the one I've been dating for 2 years left her boyfriend for me. isnt that abit sad? lol As a straight guy, I've come to realize that a lot, if not most, guys are jerks. It makes me frustrated and sad because I know that a lot of my guy friends and I aren't awful, but girls always seem to fall for the bad ones. I'd just like to say that not all straight guys are bad, myself among the number, and I'm sad that you had bad experiences with them before going lesbian. I really often times wish that more straight guys would act more like gay guys because gay guys treat girls how they deserve to be treated. 1 lizzie1238 reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lizzie1238 538 Posted February 9, 2012 Wow, lots of gays here. There seem to be getting more and more, sometimes I wonder if in the future straight people will be the minority. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ventus_XIII 50 Posted February 9, 2012 As a straight guy, I've come to realize that a lot, if not most, guys are jerks. It makes me frustrated and sad because I know that a lot of my guy friends and I aren't awful, but girls always seem to fall for the bad ones. I'd just like to say that not all straight guys are bad, myself among the number, and I'm sad that you had bad experiences with them before going lesbian. I really often times wish that more straight guys would act more like gay guys because gay guys treat girls how they deserve to be treated. see there's no guy like you here lol thanks 1 Not-with-a-whimper reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Koko 3,944 Posted February 9, 2012 Wow, lots of gays here. There seem to be getting more and more, sometimes I wonder if in the future straight people will be the minority. its not that theres more, its just that theyre being more open about it. 2 Kelvy and Shana09 reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Godot 513 Posted February 9, 2012 I really often times wish that more straight guys would act more like gay guys because gay guys treat girls how they deserve to be treated. not necessarily. I had a gay friend who treated me like complete shit, and I've had straight friends who are the nicest and most respectful guys ever. @OP: it's firetrucking terrible. D: I have a crush on one of my best friends. who is 100% straight. and obsessed with only fictional men/celebrities. and doesn't want to date anyways. feels bad, man. 2 Koko and Miku Hatsune reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ventus_XIII 50 Posted February 9, 2012 its not that theres more, its just that theyre being more open about it. It's a good thing though, social places like kh13, Facebook, etc is a great place to escape from being shunned and outcast-ed by society. So many people treat us like we're nothing. So we feel at home in social network. At least I do lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Not-with-a-whimper 144 Posted February 9, 2012 not necessarily. I had a gay friend who treated me like complete shit, and I've had straight friends who are the nicest and most respectful guys ever. True, but that seems to be the case more often than not in my admittedly limited experience. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Uncle Dolan 963 Posted February 9, 2012 Not necessarily.Sexuality is never a black and white affair That aside, I usually just try to forget about it. After an incident, (Painful story short: I asked a guy out, the little [[REDACTED]] told my best friend and outed me in public after I had moved away. Thankfully no one believed him... except my best friend. He didn't take it well, but he seems to have gotten past it since he started talking to me again.) I do a lot of research and asking around to make sure before taking the leap. I'm almost able to go socialize in an exclusively Gay environment.(I come out to my father this week, everyone else knows and he probably suspects. It doesn't feel right to do things behind his back in the first place.) So this won't be a problem for much longer. Er, what? It was a joke. lol and there's a black and white thing going on with that comment? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Spectrum of Life 188 Posted February 9, 2012 Er, what? It was a joke. lol and there's a black and white thing going on with that comment? I can't always tell, sorry. I meant in the sense that sexuality isn't clearly categorized, Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
