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[Koko 3,944]

It depends on what agency you use koko my mom was a foster parent for over 50 years and raised over 275 kids in that tenure. I have also done interships with dyfys so I know how the system works. More often then not the bilogical parent will make what is called an adoption plan in which they plan who their child is left with. It really depends on what agency you use. Also add me to the list of contacts I have worked with countless of special needs kids with all sorts of diablities so I can give out first hand advice of needed

 

I know it varies, but it's just a general warning.

I know there are several great orphanages and foster parents but there are equally as many bad ones. I'll add you~

[Robbie the Wise 5,050]

I am schizophrenic. I hear things. They are not good things either, voices tell me to kill myself and to harm others or myself. It's hard battling with this everyday, but my medication blocks out the voices although some voices slip in now and again if I don't take my medicine on time. Being schizophrenic makes you unemotional....It's hard for me to relate to others and I try so hard everyday of my life to understand people and to be normal and fit in. I'm tired of trying so hard everyday...it wears me out.

 

My neice has this disease while it is hard just know that people will always be there for you when it gets hard. You have your family friends and and your kh13 friends. One bit of advice I can give for when you hear those voices is make a comic out it(minus the killing yourself) make the voices say funny things instead of negative. This alway helps my niece out when she has this problem.

[Cricket 1,180]

My neice has this disease while it is hard just know that people will always be there for you when it gets hard. You have your family friends and and your kh13 friends. One bit of advice I can give for when you hear those voices is make a comic out it(minus the killing yourself) make the voices say funny things instead of negative. This alway helps my niece out when she has this problem.

 

Thank you and I'll try that idea if they ever pop up again. So far it's been a few days and I haven't heard any voices, so I guess that means I am taking my meds right. Thanks for caring!

[Robbie the Wise 5,050]

Thank you and I'll try that idea if they ever pop up again. So far it's been a few days and I haven't heard any voices, so I guess that means I am taking my meds right. Thanks for caring!

 

No problem

[Wolfgang 735]

I think what you need to do is make sure she's pregnant.

Have her buy a pregnancy test from a small store or maybe go to planned parenthood for a free one.

If it turns out she is pregnant then she needs to find out what she wants to do: Whether she wants to keep the baby, put it for adoption or get an abortion.

Of course, she needs to tell her parents.

Hopefully her parents will help her and be supportive.

From the three options, I would highly suggest getting an abortion since keeping the child would probably not allow her to get the proper education and it's possible her family might not be able to financially support another child.

Adoption is shady and orphanages are not that great and are very underfunded and you never know if the child will be adopted into a good family or not.

She could also try setting up an adoption beforehand (like in Juno???) so she knows where her child is going, if she doesn't want have an abortion.

I'll dig around for some hotlines she can call to.

 

The sad part is her parents will kick her out if she is, she is 18 and i don't think she will get an abortion... shes working on getting a test right now... Shes just, well an idiot cause she sleeps around.. i am tired of it, but thank you Koko .

[Koko 3,944]

The sad part is her parents will kick her out if she is, she is 18 and i don't think she will get an abortion... shes working on getting a test right now... Shes just, well an idiot cause she sleeps around.. i am tired of it, but thank you Koko .

 

Then she needs to try to find a job, maybe go to planned parenthood and find out what her options are.

And she's not an idiot for sleeping around, she can do whatever she pleases when it comes to her body and if she wants to sleep around so be it, but that doesn't mean she can't take responsibilities for her action and be smart about what she's going to do if she is pregnant.

If she is not ready mentally or financially for a child and you honestly don't think she would get an abortion (I'd like to emphasize that it's completely alright if she does), then she should make an effort to find adoptive parents to take her child.

[Wolfgang 735]

Then she needs to try to find a job, maybe go to planned parenthood and find out what her options are.

And she's not an idiot for sleeping around, she can do whatever she pleases when it comes to her body and if she wants to sleep around so be it, but that doesn't mean she can't take responsibilities for her action and be smart about what she's going to do if she is pregnant.

If she is not ready mentally or financially for a child and you honestly don't think she would get an abortion (I'd like to emphasize that it's completely alright if she does), then she should make an effort to find adoptive parents to take her child.

 

Thanks KoKo

[WerXand-XV 34]

I don't know where to begin, I hate myself, I'm pretty convinced that I have depression, I don't like to be around other people, I'm stressed out to the point of having white hairs. I don't like to talk about this stuff usually, it's even hard for me to say this here.

 

I really hate myself. Every time I look into a mirror I just stare at myself, and when I do, I feel nothing but hate at what I see. I have no idea what's wrong with me, but I can't look it the mirror without doing this. At first, all it was was that I couldn't think of anything about myself that I liked, then all these negative thoughts and feelings about myself slowly began to show up.

 

I've debated with myself whether or not I'm actually depressed, thinking that I'm just whining because my life is a little bit bad. But now I've come to an agreement with myself that I probably am depressed. I spend countless hours, many of them awake at night, just wishing that I didn't exist, that no one every met me. My depression is starting to become dangerous, so dangerous that even me doing the dishes could turn out hazardous. When I was the knives, I put the blade to my wrist, and I'm almost tempted to run it across my wrist and arm. I want to do this so badly, I hid my pocket knife so I don't get any ideas. I'd tell somebody, my parents or a friend, but I can't find it in myself to trust anyone with this info

 

I am extremely introverted, I tend to keep to myself. I'm quiet and kinda shy, and I don't like to be around people that much or for very long, even the people that are my friends. I often wonder why they're even my friends. I have less than no self-esteem, I'm so pathetic and pitiful, I think so poorly of myself that is hard for me to believe it when someone complements me on something.

 

I just want to get this off my chest, maybe hear a word of friendly advice. I hide all of this stuff perfectly, no one knows about this, but I can only keep it buried for so long.

[Koko 3,944]

I don't know where to begin, I hate myself, I'm pretty convinced that I have depression, I don't like to be around other people, I'm stressed out to the point of having white hairs. I don't like to talk about this stuff usually, it's even hard for me to say this here.

 

I really hate myself. Every time I look into a mirror I just stare at myself, and when I do, I feel nothing but hate at what I see. I have no idea what's wrong with me, but I can't look it the mirror without doing this. At first, all it was was that I couldn't think of anything about myself that I liked, then all these negative thoughts and feelings about myself slowly began to show up.

 

I've debated with myself whether or not I'm actually depressed, thinking that I'm just whining because my life is a little bit bad. But now I've come to an agreement with myself that I probably am depressed. I spend countless hours, many of them awake at night, just wishing that I didn't exist, that no one every met me. My depression is starting to become dangerous, so dangerous that even me doing the dishes could turn out hazardous. When I was the knives, I put the blade to my wrist, and I'm almost tempted to run it across my wrist and arm. I want to do this so badly, I hid my pocket knife so I don't get any ideas. I'd tell somebody, my parents or a friend, but I can't find it in myself to trust anyone with this info

 

I am extremely introverted, I tend to keep to myself. I'm quiet and kinda shy, and I don't like to be around people that much or for very long, even the people that are my friends. I often wonder why they're even my friends. I have less than no self-esteem, I'm so pathetic and pitiful, I think so poorly of myself that is hard for me to believe it when someone complements me on something.

 

I just want to get this off my chest, maybe hear a word of friendly advice. I hide all of this stuff perfectly, no one knows about this, but I can only keep it buried for so long.

 

Come here and let me hug you because this is exactly how I felt for a long time.

I know you hear it a lot, but you are not alone.

Depression is awful, especially when you're not sure you have it and it's just another thing that bothers you and upsets you.

My best advice would be to talk to someone you trust. Tell them how you feel and have someone you can trust no matter what and someone you can spill your heart to. Sometimes harboring these feelings make it worse. It was a good thing to post here and you can post here as much as you like to vent if you need.

I would also advice you talk to your parents about it. In my experience it wasn't until my parents found out I was cutting that everything started getting a bit better. They got me some help and although sometimes I relapse into a state of self loathing, I feel pretty happy now.

Do what's best for you and please don't hurt yourself.

[WerXand-XV 34]

I haven't been able to trust anyone for a long time, I've been alone for longer than I care to remember. How am I not alone? Who would care about some sad, loser like me? Even my friends, my family, I know they love my, but somehow I can't bring myself to confide in them. I'm just too distant from my parents to trust them, I'm a black sheep in my family.

[Koko 3,944]

I haven't been able to trust anyone for a long time, I've been alone for longer than I care to remember. How am I not alone? Who would care about some sad, loser like me? Even my friends, my family, I know they love my, but somehow I can't bring myself to confide in them. I'm just too distant from my parents to trust them, I'm a black sheep in my family.

 

You're not alone because there are many people who have gone through the same thing. It seems like you can't trust your parents, trust me, I didn't trust mine ever, but the first step towards feeling better is to reach out for help

[King Demise 2,359]

I don't have any problems currently at the time, but i would help someone if I can. You can just PM me and I'll try to help in any way i can.

[4Everbee 1,365]

I wanted to post this sooner but I didn't know how to.

I tried ranting to help me out a bit.

It only made things worse

 

 

 

I don't know why. But I'm going crazy. I'm eating right. I'm walking on my feet. But my head hurts me to much. And my heart it hearts.

And I don't know what to do.

My little sis won't leave me the firetruck alone. She can't clean for shit and I have to do it.

I feel bad for my dad now cause he mad cause I love my mom more. I tried being with him and talking but when I do.

There's a voice in my head that says. "That asshole left you for dead. I firetrucking hate this man." And now it happening with almost everybody on his side of the family.

I can't sleep then when I do fall sleep my sis put on the TV,

I want to fight with Luan again and I want take my nails and put them in my skin.

I want to fight with everybody. There a boy I liked but he hurt me so bad and I can't forget that and he keep talking about the person he likes and then I hurt even more and I feel like my "Friends." Are not my friends and I'm just losing it.

I'm sorry but I really just need help.

[Koko 3,944]

First of all, about your sister.

Being a big sister is hard, I know.

My little sister is constantly annoying me too, but what can you do?

Try to bond with her at least. Don't have an awkward hateful relationship with her, she's your sister after all. She looks up to you. You need to teach her to do things for herself.

What did your dad do to you? If you don't mind sharing? If you really feel you can't have a good relationship with him, don't try. It might make things worse. Maybe when you're older you can try to talk about whatever happened? But do what you feel comfortable with.

Try to find a way to vent your anger. You like to write, right? Write more. Express your feelings in your writing. Write an angry poem, scream, yell, cry even, anything to get your negative emotions out.

I don't know what else to say but I hope things look up for you

[4Everbee 1,365]

First of all, about your sister.

Being a big sister is hard, I know.

My little sister is constantly annoying me too, but what can you do?

Try to bond with her at least. Don't have an awkward hateful relationship with her, she's your sister after all. She looks up to you. You need to teach her to do things for herself.

What did your dad do to you? If you don't mind sharing? If you really feel you can't have a good relationship with him, don't try. It might make things worse. Maybe when you're older you can try to talk about whatever happened? But do what you feel comfortable with.

Try to find a way to vent your anger. You like to write, right? Write more. Express your feelings in your writing. Write an angry poem, scream, yell, cry even, anything to get your negative emotions out.

I don't know what else to say but I hope things look up for you

 

Thanks.

[marinaAxel56 24]

its not a big problem compared to some stuff posted here.... btw, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being homosexual or bisexual.

but recently, ive become aware that lots of people at school who barely know me, if at all, instantly hate me. a bunch of 'popular' people, in particular, but just in general i seem to give off a bad impression without trying to. i don't act deliberately unfriendly and my friends like me, it's just the people i don't know who have problems with me. most of them are horrible anyway, but that doesn't mean im okay with being judged so much like this.

[Godot 513]

its not a big problem compared to some stuff posted here.... btw, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being homosexual or bisexual.

but recently, ive become aware that lots of people at school who barely know me, if at all, instantly hate me. a bunch of 'popular' people, in particular, but just in general i seem to give off a bad impression without trying to. i don't act deliberately unfriendly and my friends like me, it's just the people i don't know who have problems with me. most of them are horrible anyway, but that doesn't mean im okay with being judged so much like this.

 

firetruck them. If they aren't willing to get to know you better before judging you, then they aren't worth you even thinking about them.

[marinaAxel56 24]

firetruck them. If they aren't willing to get to know you better before judging you, then they aren't worth you even thinking about them.

 

thank you, i like that answer )

[khfanXIII 60]

Ok... I'm kind of in a chain of unrequited love. I'm gay and have been in love with my childhood friend for over 6 years now. He's homophobic and he knows that I'm gay and in love with him and he's been avoiding me ever sinse I came out. He's my first love and I feel like I can't breath without him. I love him so much... Meanwhile my best friend who is a girl and knows im gay is in love with me. And I feel bad because i don't want to hurt her the same way my crush has been hurting me but... I'm gay! What can I do? I can't date her because then I'd feel like I'd be lying to her and myself. What do I do...?

[Koko 3,944]

Ok... I'm kind of in a chain of unrequited love. I'm gay and have been in love with my childhood friend for over 6 years now. He's homophobic and he knows that I'm gay and in love with him and he's been avoiding me ever sinse I came out. He's my first love and I feel like I can't breath without him. I love him so much... Meanwhile my best friend who is a girl and knows im gay is in love with me. And I feel bad because i don't want to hurt her the same way my crush has been hurting me but... I'm gay! What can I do? I can't date her because then I'd feel like I'd be lying to her and myself. What do I do...?

 

Okay first of all, it's okay

You'll be fine, trust me

I know what it's like to fall for a friend that's straight

It's hard, and I fortunately didn't have the problem where she was homophobic, so i don't know how to help you out there

My best advice is to move on.

He's homophobic and it's really hard to get someone out of that state of mind.

He's avoiding you and that might mean he doesn't care about you as a friend enough to stick by your side no matter what

So I think you need to move on, as hard as it may be.

 

Make it clear to your friend that you are not interested. That you are gay and she needs to move on because it won't happen. It might be harsh but it's what she needs. She can't chase someone that won't chase back

[FireRubies1 1,325]

I'm bi and there's this guy I like. Sometimes he does things that make me feel like he likes me too. But he's a Christian extremist and doesn't support that.

 

But my problem is that he seems to have control over my emotions.... he can do something to either make me the happiest person alive, but if I go a day feeling ignored or I don't see him I just feel really ill emotionally and I start to wonder if the future is really worth it.

[Godot 513]

I'm bi and there's this guy I like. Sometimes he does things that make me feel like he likes me too. But he's a Christian extremist and doesn't support that.

 

But my problem is that he seems to have control over my emotions.... he can do something to either make me the happiest person alive, but if I go a day feeling ignored or I don't see him I just feel really ill emotionally and I start to wonder if the future is really worth it.

 

gah, I have the same exact problem (minus the Christian extremist thing). like literally the exact same. There's no real advice I can give except to just kind of grin and bear it. ;_; if you ever want to talk, just PM me~ .3.

[Think Pink 1,967]

I'm bi and there's this guy I like. Sometimes he does things that make me feel like he likes me too. But he's a Christian extremist and doesn't support that.

 

But my problem is that he seems to have control over my emotions.... he can do something to either make me the happiest person alive, but if I go a day feeling ignored or I don't see him I just feel really ill emotionally and I start to wonder if the future is really worth it.

 

He doesn't have to be an extremist to not support it. :// Just sayin'. It's not an exclusively extremist thing.

 

But if he's making you feel bad, then you might not want to hang out with him anymore. And there's nothing you can do to make him like you--that goes for everybody. If someone doesn't feel that way about you, then there really isn't much to be done, especially if they have a different sexual orientation. If he can really make you feel that miserable, then maybe you should stop hanging out with him?

[FireRubies1 1,325]

He doesn't have to be an extremist to not support it. :// Just sayin'. It's not an exclusively extremist thing.

 

But if he's making you feel bad, then you might not want to hang out with him anymore. And there's nothing you can do to make him like you--that goes for everybody. If someone doesn't feel that way about you, then there really isn't much to be done, especially if they have a different sexual orientation. If he can really make you feel that miserable, then maybe you should stop hanging out with him?

 

I know, but he personally told me he doesn't support it. I would stop hanging out with him but when he does make me happy.... I feel like the luckiest person alive.

[Think Pink 1,967]

I know, but he personally told me he doesn't support it. I would stop hanging out with him but when he does make me happy.... I feel like the luckiest person alive.

 

Well you can't fault him for what he believes. But what is most important here is you, and if he can screw with your emotions this much, then he has far too much control over your life.