Need emotional support? Don't want to start a new topic?

[Koko 3,944]

Hello lovely members! I was thinking today, and I realized that although we may or may not know it, some of our beloved members here may be going through some rough times, whether it be depression, self harm, abuse, or anything really. I thought it'd be a good idea to make a support thread for these members.

As for general advice, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE TALK to someone if you need any help. It can be someone on the site, or you can try one of the hotlines (which I will include at the end, in a spoiler). Talk and be honest and know that it's okay to cry and to be weak and to ask for help. There's no shame in getting help, whether it be from a trusted adult or on the internet, just get help!

You are free to ask for advice here if you are comfortable with publicly posting, but I ask for other members to be sympathetic and if you have no advice to give or nothing nice to say, please don't respond to someone's post. We want to help people, not put them down.

If you are not comfortable asking for advice publicly, I will be posting another list, a list of members you can privately message for help. So far it's just me, but if you're interested in helping out and forming a little advice team, message me and I'll add you to the list. As well, if you have any hotline numbers for other countries, please post them so I can add them to the list.

I will also try to post information on different things (like depression, bipolar disorder, sexuality, gender dysphoria, etc)

 

Also remember, none of us (as far as I know) are professionals! So our advice may not be absolutely perfect, but we'll try to help the best we can.

 

Members you can privately message:

Koko

Think Pink

Not-a-whimper

AnsemTheWise

devereauxr

Snow

 

 

Hotlines:

 

 

North America

Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696

Self-Injury Hotline: 1-800-DONT CUT (366-8288)

Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433

National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433)

National LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255

Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386

Teen Helpline: 1-800-400-0900

 

Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743

Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438

Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673

Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272

Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000

Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-439–4253

 

 

United Kingdom

Samaritans

Tel: 08457 90 90 90 (National number charged at local call rates)

To find a local center in the UK, you can click here

Minicom/textphone: 08457 90 91 92

Email: jo@samaritans.org

 

Violence and Crime

0845 30 30 900 (local rate)

 

Womens aid domestic violence helpline

08457 023468 (local rate)

 

Health NHS direct (mental health/suicide)

0845 46 47 (local rate)

Website: http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/ > NHS Direct Mental Health FAQ

 

CHILDLINE (young person or child helpline)

Free call calls cant be traced

0800 1111

Website: http://www.childline.org.uk/

 

Alcoholics anonymous

0845 769 7555 (local rate)

Website: http://www.alcoholic...onymous.org.uk/

 

Curse bereavement care

0870 167 1677 (local rate)

 

Sexuality

(020) 7837 7324

 

National Debt Helpline

0808 084000

 

Cruse Bereavement Care

0870 1671677

 

Farmers in Difficulty

07002 326326

 

Worried someone is having thoughts of Suicide - Call PAPYRUS HOPEline

0870 1704000

Ireland

Samaritans

Tel: 1850 60 90 90 (National number charged at local call rates)

To find a local Samaritans center in Ireland, click here

Minicom/textphone: 1850 60 90 91

Email: jo@samaritans.org

 

Childline - freefone 1800 666 666

Depression - Aware (01) 676 6166

Bodywhys (help for Anorexia and bulimia) - (01) 283 5126

NSPCC, Child Protection Helpline:freephone, 24 hrs - 0800 800500

NICAS-n.i.community addiction service, alcohol,drugs addiction – 028 90664434/90330499/90731602

Zest for the prevention of suicide -Londonderry -028)71266999

Eating Disorders Assessment (NI) - 90618299 /90621627

Contact Youth (counselling for young People) - 028)90457848

Youthline - 0808 808 8000

Young Persons Advice line - 0808 808 5678

Childline - 24 hr helpline for children and young people in trouble - 0800 1111 / Website: http://www.childline.org.uk/

 

Nexus Rape and Incest Counselling

Belfast centre - (028)90326803

Londonderry centre-(028)71260566

Enniskillen - (028)66320046

Portadown - (028)38350588

 

Rape crisis and sexual abuse centre - (028)90249696

Freephone - 0800 0526813

Victim Support Belfast - (028)90244039

 

Other useful numbers in Northern Ireland:-

Belfast city Hospital – 028 90329241

Royal Victoria Hospital –028 90240503

Mater Hospital – 028 90741211

Dunlewey Substance advice - 028)90743999

Alcoholics Anon – 028 90434848

Aids Help Line - 0800 12743/02890 326117

Relate Marriage Guidance counselling -028)90323454

Brook advisory centre (Family Planning for under 25)

- (028)90328866

Family Planning association -(028)90325448

 

Other useful numbers in ROI:-

Dublin

Rape Crisis centre - 6614911/6615464

Sexual assault unit, Rotunda Hospital - 8732111

Women and aids - 8745302

Women’s aid helpline - 1800 341 900 or 01 8745302/3

Women’s aid refuge - 961002

 

Galway

Rape Crisis Centre - 563676

Women’s aid refuge - 63581

 

Limerick

Rape Crisis Centre - 311511

 

 

 

[Number XV 490]

Yeah, I'm bisexual, and I don;t know how to tell my dad. I'm scared that he won;t accept me.

[Koko 3,944]

Yeah, I'm bisexual, and I don;t know how to tell my dad. I'm scared that he won;t accept me.

 

Is your dad homophobic or does he give any signs of being homophobic? You could bring up a celebrity that's gay or start talking about politics and ask what he thinks about gay marriage and homosexuality and etc to try to figure out what he thinks. If he's okay with homosexuality, just tell him, don't be afraid! If he isn't okay with it and you think you may be kicked out of your house or something along those lines if you tell him, my best advice is to not tell him. It may seem hard, but it may be necessary.

Try calling the sexuality support hotline for more help!

[Number XV 490]

Is your dad homophobic or does he give any signs of being homophobic? You could bring up a celebrity that's gay or start talking about politics and ask what he thinks about gay marriage and homosexuality and etc to try to figure out what he thinks. If he's okay with homosexuality, just tell him, don't be afraid! If he isn't okay with it and you think you may be kicked out of your house or something along those lines if you tell him, my best advice is to not tell him. It may seem hard, but it may be necessary.

Try calling the sexuality support hotline for more help!

 

I don't think he's AGAINST homosexuals, but he's very religious, so he won't take it well.

[Shana09 5,769]

This may not be a problem for me...but I have a friend who is a homosexual...and he is having problems...can I ask for advice to give him? Maybe I could show him what you post, because he is having a tough time

Btw he has not told anyone except me and 2 of his friends...I just feel like I need to help him but I am stuck. So what advice can you give to him?

[Koko 3,944]

I don't think he's AGAINST homosexuals, but he's very religious, so he won't take it well.

 

Ease him into acceptance maybe?

You could try that.

Wait until you're completely comfortable with telling him too!

 

 

 

 

This may not be a problem for me...but I have a friend who is a homosexual...and he is having problems...can I ask for advice to give him? Maybe I could show him what you post, because he is having a tough time

Btw he has not told anyone except me and 2 of his friends...I just feel like I need to help him but I am stuck. So what advice can you give to him?

 

You need to specify what kind of problems he's going through!

[Think Pink 1,967]

I don't think he's AGAINST homosexuals, but he's very religious, so he won't take it well.

 

As Koko suggested, try bringing the subject up without really saying it, and ask him specifically since it's been in the media so much whether he thinks it interferes with your religion. And parents love their children most of the time, so if you feel like you and your Dad have a good relationship, tell him anyway. He might be initially upset, but you're his son and he loves you. If you don't think you can come out to your Dad, start with maybe a guidance counselor, some close friends, or if you don't have the courage to yet, we're right here if you need to vent.

[Number XV 490]

Well, I mean I 've started liking boys for about a year now, and I haven't told anyone. I told my friend, but he started being a jack-ass and making wise-ass jokes, like backing away when I came and stuff. Good-bye friend. Bloop. So, now my self-confidence is ruined.

[Think Pink 1,967]

Well, I mean I 've started liking boys for about a year now, and I haven't told anyone. I told my friend, but he started being a jack-ass and making wise-ass jokes, like backing away when I came and stuff. Good-bye friend. Bloop. So, now my self-confidence is ruined.

 

Well, maybe try someone you feel a bit closer too. I know it's cliche, but guidance counselors can be really helpful. They'll keep what you tell them confidential, so you have someone to let your feelings out to who won't judge you. I would suggest that if you feel brave enough, be completely out-right about it with everyone at school. I don't know about everywhere else, but kids at my school get teased for being straight, not gay. So you never know. Some people might be idiots and joke with you but, hey, they don't know who they're missing out on.

[Not-with-a-whimper 144]

I'm really glad that someone started something like this. I'm not currently going through anything, but I am a really good listener and I don't judge others. I happen to be a Christian, so if you're not okay with that then that's fine, but I promise to never jump down anyone's throat about anything. I'm here for support and comfort of those in need, because I know how vital that can be. Always try to find someone to talk to about these things, whether it's on here or somewhere else. If anyone would like to talk to me to vent or whatever, feel free to message me at any time. No one deserves to be alone, especially in the trying times of their lives.

[Wolf on the Run 391]

Okay well i got Dyslexia a learning disability that makes reading and writing alot harder for me and alot of people try to mess with me because of it and i also have a life long illness that i found out about almost a year ago called Crohns disease which didnt help me out much since its kind of an embarrassing kind of one to talk about didnt even tell my mom i had the symptoms for about three years and even then it was forced out of me by a doctor when i started to very sick all the time it got so bad for me hiding it that i was highly anemic by the time we caught it well i think thats everything anyway

[Koko 3,944]

Well, I mean I 've started liking boys for about a year now, and I haven't told anyone. I told my friend, but he started being a jack-ass and making wise-ass jokes, like backing away when I came and stuff. Good-bye friend. Bloop. So, now my self-confidence is ruined.

 

Don't let things like that get to you!

Not everyone is going to accept you, but there are people who will accept you no matter what.

Your friend was insensitive, so maybe it was best that you part, but you will find people who will care about you, whether you like boys, girls, both or none at all.

Try talking to other friends, maybe do the same as I suggested earlier with your dad, talk about gay celebrities and gay marriage and find out how they feel about it and when you're comfortable and want to, tell them. Just do it one person at a time.

[Think Pink 1,967]

Okay well i got Dyslexia a learning disability that makes reading and writing alot harder for me and alot of people try to mess with me because of it and i also have a life long illness that i found out about almost a year ago called Crohns disease which didnt help me out much since its kind of an embarrassing kind of one to talk about didnt even tell my mom i had the symptoms for about three years and even then it was forced out of me by a doctor when i started to very sick all the time it got so bad for me hiding it that i was highly anemic by the time we caught it well i think thats everything anyway

 

I have a few friends with dyslexia, so I know what you may be going through right now. With focus and sometimes therapy, you can overcome it. (: On the issue of Crohn's Disease, that sounds horrible. I saw it on one of my Dad's fiancee's shows, and they were talking about some sort of treatment surgery type deal? That could be an option. I don't really know the details, but I'm sure you could look it up or ask your doctor. Good luck<3

[Number XV 490]

Don't let things like that get to you!

Not everyone is going to accept you, but there are people who will accept you no matter what.

Your friend was insensitive, so maybe it was best that you part, but you will find people who will care about you, whether you like boys, girls, both or none at all.

Try talking to other friends, maybe do the same as I suggested earlier with your dad, talk about gay celebrities and gay marriage and find out how they feel about it and when you're comfortable and want to, tell them. Just do it one person at a time.

 

Thanks, Koko. I feel better now. : )

[Koko 3,944]

I'm really glad that someone started something like this. I'm not currently going through anything, but I am a really good listener and I don't judge others. I happen to be a Christian, so if you're not okay with that then that's fine, but I promise to never jump down anyone's throat about anything. I'm here for support and comfort of those in need, because I know how vital that can be. Always try to find someone to talk to about these things, whether it's on here or somewhere else. If anyone would like to talk to me to vent or whatever, feel free to message me at any time. No one deserves to be alone, especially in the trying times of their lives.

 

Would you like me to add you to the list of people to privately message?

 

 

Okay well i got Dyslexia a learning disability that makes reading and writing alot harder for me and alot of people try to mess with me because of it and i also have a life long illness that i found out about almost a year ago called Crohns disease which didnt help me out much since its kind of an embarrassing kind of one to talk about didnt even tell my mom i had the symptoms for about three years and even then it was forced out of me by a doctor when i started to very sick all the time it got so bad for me hiding it that i was highly anemic by the time we caught it well i think thats everything anyway

 

Dyslexia is something you can surpass by trying harder. It's okay to make a few mistakes, we're not perfect, you just have to try harder and I think that's very admirable. You are just as smart and capable as any other person and if people mess with you for having dyslexia, ignore them because it's none of their business and they're being very immature. As for Crohns disease, that's rough and I'm not really sure what to say D: Are you getting some sort of treatment for it?

[Wolf on the Run 391]

I have a few friends with dyslexia, so I know what you may be going through right now. With focus and sometimes therapy, you can overcome it. (: On the issue of Crohn's Disease, that sounds horrible. I saw it on one of my Dad's fiancee's shows, and they were talking about some sort of treatment surgery type deal? That could be an option. I don't really know the details, but I'm sure you could look it up or ask your doctor. Good luck<3

 

Thanks Pink i think ill pass on the surgery thought getting myself cut open i think i'll stick with the medication for now

Dyslexia is something you can surpass by trying harder. It's okay to make a few mistakes, we're not perfect, you just have to try harder and I think that's very admirable. You are just as smart and capable as any other person and if people mess with you for having dyslexia, ignore them because it's none of their business and they're being very immature. As for Crohns disease, that's rough and I'm not really sure what to say D: Are you getting some sort of treatment for it?

 

I already no dyslexia is something i can surpass by working hard one of the reasons why im so active on the roleplay treat if you look back on my first ever stuff on that section compared to now you can see how much has changed and what dyslexia slightly took away from me in reading and stuff was put into some of my other senses with were a huge boost in some places as for the Crohns doctors got me on a load of medication has all kinds of side effects but im managing to adjust to them all though this week one of the side effects hit me bad so havent been in school the last few days but im going to try and go back tomorrow cause starting to feel a lot better now

[Not-with-a-whimper 144]

Would you like me to add you to the list of people to privately message?

Yeah, that'd be great. I'd like to do anything I could to help others.

[Koko 3,944]

I already no dyslexia is something i can surpass by working hard one of the reasons why im so active on the roleplay treat if you look back on my first ever stuff on that section compared to now you can see how much has changed and what dyslexia slightly took away from me in reading and stuff was put into some of my other senses with were a huge boost in some places as for the Crohns doctors got me on a load of medication has all kinds of side effects but im managing to adjust to them all though this week one of the side effects hit me bad so havent been in school the last few days but im going to try and go back tomorrow cause starting to feel a lot better now

 

I think you're doing really well and handling things nicely. It's good just to talk about it sometimes!

[Wolf on the Run 391]

I think you're doing really well and handling things nicely. It's good just to talk about it sometimes!

 

So true i mainly just put it all up there incase there was anyone else on the site who had Dyslexia or Crohns figured if they saw i had it to they could come to me to talk if they needed help since ive been able to manage everything so well so far since ive been handle knowing ive had Dyslexia since i was around 10 and since ive spent near enough to a year with Crohns

[Shana09 5,769]

You need to specify what kind of problems he's going through!

 

He is probably going through a few more...but here are some I saw and he told me about:

 

Bullying: People make fun of the way he dresses, acts, and talks. I stand up for him at times when I am around, but it does not help...Also people annoy him telling him he is gay, when he know he is, but he finds it annoying since they use it as an insult. Also they make fun of him because he hangs out with me now and a group of girls...

 

 

He also has not told anyone in his family, and I have been around his mother and father. His mother is kind, but I have asked her questions about homosexuality, well his brother did and I added. She replied that "Oh if my son is gay then ill be scared! I mean most gay people always think about sex all the time!" I wanted to stand up but I couldn't do it in front of his mother, or it make it show able that her son is gay if I bring it up.

 

He also feels like he is hated by everyone, he is scared on what everyone is going to do if they find out about his sexuality, even though he accepts it.

 

I feel bad that he has a fake smile, when he is hurt inside. He shows it, but never admits it.

 

Please help...btw I hope I can show him tomorrow, if his parents make him able to come outside tomorrow...

[Koko 3,944]

He is probably going through a few more...but here are some I saw and he told me about:

Bullying: People make fun of the way he dresses, acts, and talks. I stand up for him at times when I am around, but it does not help...Also people annoy him telling him he is gay, when he know he is, but he finds it annoying since they use it as an insult. Also they make fun of him because he hangs out with me now and a group of girls...

He also has not told anyone in his family, and I have been around his mother and father. His mother is kind, but I have asked her questions about homosexuality, well his brother did and I added. She replied that "Oh if my son is gay then ill be scared! I mean most gay people always think about sex all the time!" I wanted to stand up but I couldn't do it in front of his mother, or it make it show able that her son is gay if I bring it up.

He also feels like he is hated by everyone, he is scared on what everyone is going to do if they find out about his sexuality, even though he accepts it.

I feel bad that he has a fake smile, when he is hurt inside. He shows it, but never admits it.

Please help...btw I hope I can show him tomorrow, if his parents make him able to come outside tomorrow...

 

He needs to learn how to stand up for himself! It's good that you stand up for him sometimes, so it's good that he has a good friend to look out for him, but he should also look for himself. Try talking to a teacher or the principal about the bullying if it's really bad. Bullying is a horrible thing.

As for his family, his mother seems quite ignorant about homosexuality so subtly bring up the topic and educate her on it. It'll make her more comfortable and maybe he'll be able to come out to her.

Just be there for him, support him and show him that you care and his sexuality doesn't matter and if people don't like him or accept him, that's their loss.

Like I said before, there will be people that will judge him, but there are also people that will care and accept him and he'll find those people. He already has you as a friend, just be supportive and talk to him. (:

[Shana09 5,769]

He needs to learn how to stand up for himself! It's good that you stand up for him sometimes, so it's good that he has a good friend to look out for him, but he should also look for himself. Try talking to a teacher or the principal about the bullying if it's really bad. Bullying is a horrible thing.

As for his family, his mother seems quite ignorant about homosexuality so subtly bring up the topic and educate her on it. It'll make her more comfortable and maybe he'll be able to come out to her.

Just be there for him, support him and show him that you care and his sexuality doesn't matter and if people don't like him or accept him, that's their loss.

Like I said before, there will be people that will judge him, but there are also people that will care and accept him and he'll find those people. He already has you as a friend, just be supportive and talk to him. (:

 

 

Thank you

 

He does stand up sometimes, but they end up thinking he is joking. They joke sometimes, so i believe they are teasing him. Which I know it is not okay, but he gets hurt a little. I will talk to his mother, I was thinking about that when I got the chance alone with her. But what exactly could he do? I cant be there always for him, so I need some advice for him so he could try doing something himself. Standing up is good, he needs to do it more, but I see that. But that really does not help much since they find it as a joke. =/

[Koko 3,944]

Thank you

 

He does stand up sometimes, but they end up thinking he is joking. They joke sometimes, so i believe they are teasing him. Which I know it is not okay, but he gets hurt a little. I will talk to his mother, I was thinking about that when I got the chance alone with her. But what exactly could he do? I cant be there always for him, so I need some advice for him so he could try doing something himself. Standing up is good, he needs to do it more, but I see that. But that really does not help much since they find it as a joke. =/

 

He needs to have confidence and be sure of himself. He should stand his ground and not give up. If they tease him about being or acting them, he could tell them how ignorant and homophobic they're being or try to remove himself from the situation. If they mean it in a joking manner he should tell them to stop and if they don't, like I said, go talk to a trusted adult.

[Shana09 5,769]

He needs to have confidence and be sure of himself. He should stand his ground and not give up. If they tease him about being or acting them, he could tell them how ignorant and homophobic they're being or try to remove himself from the situation. If they mean it in a joking manner he should tell them to stop and if they don't, like I said, go talk to a trusted adult.

 

Alright thanks again!

 

He says they are homophobic, but they always say "how are we homophobic?!"

I always roll my eyes every time I hear that and grab him and take him away, since I dont want him to get heart broken because they usually say something worse after that.

I told him that, but he said something like this, "I dont want anyone to know, the last thing I want to do is tell a adult because they would think I am actually gay."

[Koko 3,944]

Alright thanks again!

 

He says they are homophobic, but they always say "how are we homophobic?!"

I always roll my eyes every time I hear that and grab him and take him away, since I dont want him to get heart broken because they usually say something worse after that.

I told him that, but he said something like this, "I dont want anyone to know, the last thing I want to do is tell a adult because they would think I am actually gay."

 

He could point out that they are using gay as an insult and that in itself is homophobic and they are poorly educated. And leave it at that.

He needs to tell someone if he wants the bullying to stop. Teachers aren't supposed to discriminate against kids, they're supposed to help, so just try to convince him to talk to someone, anyone. It's only going to get worse if he doesn't speak out.