Why is everyone making excuses?

[Think Pink 1,967]

Lately I've been seeing both online and in real life kids claiming that any misbehavior is the part of autism.

 

I have two brothers with autism--one with Aspergers, the other somewhere on the more severe end of the Spectrum, but he hasn't specifically been diagnosed with anything. They go to lots of autistic camps and went to a special school for pre-school and most of elementary school. I'm willing to say I don't know everything, but I know a lot about interacting and dealing with autistic children, so I can tell you this: EVERY TIME YOU SCREW UP YOU CAN'T BLAME IT ON THAT.

 

Maybe some mistakes are the result of it. I've seen Alex get unnaturally angry over things like getting an A- on a test. And that does partially have to do with the Aspergers. But it is not a catch-all thing. More often than not, the kids control the autism, and it doesn't control them. Therefore most decisions to misbehave are made in the part of the individual, and not usually influenced by there presence on the Spectrum. No one is perfect, meaning that not every single mistake can be blamed on being autistic. People need to face up to their actions and can't expect to blame everything.

 

Now everyone's a bit different, and they have different places on the Spectrum, but generally autistic children--especially ones with Aspergers--and quite smart. So, please, stop blaming everything on your autism because, chances are, that's not why you're doing what you're doing.

[Kinode 3,056]

inb4 Nweintraub

[Koko 3,944]

This.

And to add on, people should not use any disability or traumatic experience to justify their actions.

It irks me so much when people blame their bad spelling on dyslexia or when people are just like 'DON'T BE MEAN TO ME, I'M DEPRESSED AND I CUT' or 'I WAS ABUSED AS A CHILD, STOP BULLYING ME'. It's understandable in some situations (people are triggering you, etc) , but most of the time, these people need to fess up that they are wrong and that their disability or anything else had nothing to do with their actions.

[Shana09 5,769]

I agree, but I have not seen one person who done this =/ how many people exactly blamed autism?

 

inb4 Nweintraub

 

Edit: Nevermind I noticed he was faking as well. Well you answered my question, not really thats just one person

[TheApprenticeofKingMickey 3,689]

Not to single myself out, but I do a lot of what I can to prevent the limitations of Asperger's Syndrome. I try to do or enjoy things the way most (as my parents call it) neurotypicals do. firetruck yes, it's hard. But it doesn't mean it's not impossible. Sometimes, their level of maturiy wavers and don't know how to deal with a situation other than using the excuse, "It's my autism," or "It's my Asperger's."

 

It was the same for myself at first. At one point, I acted like I was a virus to the world and shouldn't live among people because of what I have. Next moment, I act like I'm special and people should treat me as such because of what I have. I stopped and smartened up when I realized how wrong it was to treat people that way. It was as bad as how some neurotypicals manipulate and treat other people with disabilities.

 

We need help, yes. We're troubled and easily stressed out by the simplest of things. But that does not mean the world revolves around us. The world does not follow every Aspie or autistic's whim. Even ordinary people have wants and needs too. Which is why I abhor how people use, not just autism or Asperger's but any disability, as an excuse or use to manipulate those around them. Look at that turned out for me. Sometimes (behavior-wise) it's almost like I don't have it. Sometimes I still get these lapses where I act like a child and every now and then, I succumb to the symptoms. But it doesn't mean I'm not trying the best I can! I'm still learning myself. My level of maturity wavers all the time. Asperger's Syndrome/Austism isn't you, only a part of you. You choose where to go with it.

[rikunobodyxiii 700]

It's an unfortunate tendency of people to blame things for their problems. Yes, conditions and experiences that adversely effect you should be considered, but they aren't the main problem. I have a blood sugar problem that makes me really irritable when I haven't eat stuff good for me, and while this does effect me, I choose my actions.

[Miku Hatsune 636]

firetruck I hate that too.

 

"YOU CAN'T BULLY ME I HAVE ASPERGERS" or "I HAVE AUTISM" isn't valid when you don't have those issues.

Especially those who decide to be 'emo' and then call themselves 'depressed' or 'misunderstood.'

Just stop it. My mom was diagnosed with depression when she was 18. It's something you have to take medication for. It's not something that just happens.

 

I myself suffer from mild Bipolar Disorder, but at least I can control myself, take responsibility for my actions and learn how to cope with my shit instead of blaming everything on it.

God. I'd like to go up to every person who claims to be 'special' and just tell them to grow up and get over themselves.

 

(All due respect to those who legit suffer from disorders or diseases like that, of course.)

[Sora's Baby 729]

Wow I was just reading a book on this a week ago, I tend to agree that people blame their problems on the disorders.When people do this I get upset beacuse a lot of people use it as an excuse to do bad things.

[Key2Oblivion 37]

I'm guessing this topic has something to do with the other thread I started?

[Think Pink 1,967]

I'm guessing this topic has something to do with the other thread I started?

 

Actually no. I've just seen it all over the place lately and it's getting on my nerves. At school especially, but quite often on the Internet, even on here a few times.

[Kishira 2,854]

Really? My younger brothers *twins* both have autism, but on the milder end of the spectrum. And I've never heard of this happening. o-O But then again, they hate when we mention that they have it... e.e;

[AnsemTheWise 1,114]

I've been clinically depressed for 12 years and was just stricken with Bell's Palsey... I screw up because I don't pay attention. IT'S NOT MY MEDICAL CONDITIONS!

 

Get your act together, world! Or I'm blaming you next time.