I want to hear what you think?

[The One Truth 48]

Well I want know what you guys think about this.

 

OK around Oct of 2011 I found my half sister on my father's side. That I haven't seen since I was 7 or 8. It's been 11 to 12 years since then. I'm 20 now and she is as well. Now we both feel the same about our father, we don't care for him. He wasn't in out lives really.

 

Now my father has been trying to call me, you know the whole father and son thing. Which he hasn't done much over the years and etc... Trying to get into my life acting like a father, asking me questions. Which in all honest is to late for. I feel as though if he wanted to be a father to me he should have done it when I was young not now when I'm in my second year of College.

 

He told me why he wasn't around, saying my mom went behinds his back with his friend and etc..., and he just had to get away from her. He never meant to make me feel like he just didn't care and etc not trying to make excuse saying what he did was wrong... I'm thinking "Dude....that is no excuse. If you didn't want to deal with my mom then fine but I'm your son it's your fault you weren't around no one else. And yes you were wrong for that" But I let it go. I don't care for him but I'm willing and trying to get over my very much dislike of him. I don't see him as my dad or a father figure for that matter, just the man that gave birth to be and I am thankful to that.

 

Then I find out that he moved and is in Texas, and that he is married. I also found out that he has another child and she is 12 years Ironic she is the age when I last seen my sister, and the girl lives in Georgia that he never told me about instead I find out by my sister.

 

OK now I want to go onto my mother. Now I love my mom but she is a person who lies a bit too much. She can't keep promises sometimes and has lied to her family, even me. It so bad that I don't really trust my mom when she says she would do this or that for me or w/e. Sad isn't it? A son can't even trust his mother and I didn't live with her much at all never really did with my dad. I lived with my grandparents all my life.

 

Now my Grandparents are like my true mother and father to me, they raised me and I love them, to be honest I don't know where I'd be without them.

 

So do you think of my case and what would do in my shoes?

[Lu Xun 2,069]

Man, I know exactly what you're talking about..

I'm 14, and my dad is divorced from my mom..

He sees me 8 times per year or even less... I recently discovered that he has another son AND another daughter.

The boy has 10 years and the girl 2, I think.

I don't see him as a truly dad as well.. My great grandfather was my true dad... He was with us all the time! Also, my mom makes some promises and breaks them lol. But it's not much of a big problem for me. The person I love the most surely is my grandmother. She's my mom,dad,cousing... everything. I'd die without her. She cares about my school, health, etc.

But that's my situation.

 

Maybe you should give him a chance == but I think it's all up to you. I'd give him only a unique chance, because I believe everyone deserves a second chance... But if he disappoints you, or you do not feel comfortable with him... Then simply do like you've always done. Forget him, and don't care about him... That's my opinion, at least.

 

But man, we have much in common ><

[animemylove 439]

that's tough to hear and i have no experience in this type of situation, but i honestly think you should try talking to your dad a bit, don't get too attached too soon in incase he backs off half way through, just study how he responds and try and figure out if you can trust him or not