WerXand-XV 34 Posted December 22, 2011 I need some advice on something personal. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend over 2 years ago. I've since then kept in touch with her and still very good friends with her...but despite the fact that it's been 2 years, I can't stop thinking about what we broke up. I broke up with her because I didn't think that I was the kind of person that makes a good boyfriend. And tools me that she was happy with me as her boyfriend, that I was just fine as one, but I know that she could be happier with someone else. Have you ever wanted to be with someone, but you know that you don't deserve them. This tears me up inside, made me hate myself cuz I feel so selfish for wanting to be with her. Can anyone give me some advice? I would talk with her about this but I lost her number recently and don't have any other way to talk with her Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miku Hatsune 636 Posted December 22, 2011 I need some advice on something personal. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend over 2 years ago. I've since then kept in touch with her and still very good friends with her... I would talk with her about this but I lost her number recently and don't have any other way to talk with her Wat. Anyways, you're a bit of an idiot for leaving her for such a stupid reason. Not trying to offend, but it was pretty idiotic for you to be like 'BAAWWWW SHE CAN BE WITH SOMEONE BETTER I MIGHT AS WELL JUST LEAVE HER.' If she was happy with you, she obviously thought you were good enough. So you pretty much brought this upon yourself. You aren't selfish for wanting to be with a person you like. I don't even know where the firetruck you're getting that idea from, really. If you can't talk to her personally or over the phone/internet or anything, then you're shit outta luck, bro. Edit: Do you see her at school/work or something? 3 Sora96, Icarus and Cricket reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrownKeeper13 688 Posted December 22, 2011 Ask some of your friends for her number and ask her out. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
King Riku 2,063 Posted December 22, 2011 I would talk with her about this but I lost her number recently and don't have any other way to talk with her Doesn't she have your number? If you guys talk alot then I'm sure she'll call you to ask why you haven't called her. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
4Everbee 1,365 Posted December 22, 2011 Hm.Well I don't think you're dumb.Maybe ask one of her friends for her number.Then tell her how you feel.Then see where it goes from there. Gooood luck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
animemylove 439 Posted December 22, 2011 i think you just need more self respect, you obviously care about her. if things work in your favor and you two talk about your relationship i think you should take another shot at it. 1 4Everbee reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rob 5,571 Posted December 22, 2011 You cockblocked yourself? 3 Oishii, MarluXia777 and Cricket reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Oishii 3,987 Posted December 22, 2011 Omg, you're just like my ex-boyfriend http://kh13.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/ohmy.png Well, our situation was a little more complex, but he pretty much did the same thing to me. And, I might add, it's completely unfair for you and my stupid ex to decide what will make her happier for her. But I can understand your feelings. Holding a relationship while having a low self worth can be really hard to do. It's difficult to love others if you can't love yourself. It just leaves that doubt that says, "How could anyone love me?" And then you feel bad that someone expresses feelings for you that you don't deserve, right? I think before anything you should learn how to love yourself, because you do deserve it. I truly believe that. If you talked to her, I bet she would be willing to help you too. I think that what you really need is someone you can talk to that can support you. I would recommend a counselor because they can do wonderful things to help people. But even if it's a family member or friend, having their support can really help you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WerXand-XV 34 Posted December 22, 2011 You guys are right. I did bring this on myself, and if you knew me, you'd see why, but that doesn't change anything really Oishii, I never realized it, but you're totally right, it is unfair for me to decide her happiness for her, I feel so stupid now that I figured this out. Truth be told, when I lost her number, I was to afraid to get it again and talk to her...I'm so pathetic aren't I...she's probably happy in a new relationship(which I'm happy for btw, I beat no resentment towards her) while I've been sulking about our break up that happened in middle school (P.S. Don't be an ass Rob, that's not why I put this here) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shadowblade 31 Posted December 22, 2011 I need some advice on something personal. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend over 2 years ago. I've since then kept in touch with her and still very good friends with her...but despite the fact that it's been 2 years, I can't stop thinking about what we broke up. I broke up with her because I didn't think that I was the kind of person that makes a good boyfriend. And tools me that she was happy with me as her boyfriend, that I was just fine as one, but I know that she could be happier with someone else. Have you ever wanted to be with someone, but you know that you don't deserve them. This tears me up inside, made me hate myself cuz I feel so selfish for wanting to be with her. Can anyone give me some advice? I would talk with her about this but I lost her number recently and don't have any other way to talk with her Holy crap.dude my situation is kind of like yours. I think i ran into my possible soul mate but I can't have her(other guy in the equation).but anyway its best to let her know how you feel before you're faced with the possibility of never seeing her again.If you love her do not just let it pass you by or you'll regret it for the rest of your life. and never think you're not good enough confidence is always a must have. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
heartless101 83 Posted December 22, 2011 If she was happy enough with you, then obviously, you were a good enough boyfriend. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sora96 17,256 Posted December 22, 2011 Best of luck! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rob 5,571 Posted December 23, 2011 (P.S. Don't be an ass Rob, that's not why I put this here) Hmm......she was happy with you, and you decided to remove yourself from her happiness because you think little of yourself. Yeah, you didn't cockblock yourself. My bad bro. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WerXand-XV 34 Posted December 31, 2011 I've been thinking about what you guys of said for a while. To "learn how love myself" is some of the best advice I've ever gotten. It's a little hard for me to do that, cuz there isn't that much to love in the first place, and that's why I felt the way I did when I realized that she could be happier with someone else. I'm not the guy that every girl thinks is cute or good looking, I'm not the cool or popular kid, nothing really interesting about me. So when I heard that she liked me back, I thought it was a dream come true. There was no reason for her to like me, nothing they would in any way interest her in me, so that's why I felt like it was selfish to like her and want to be with her, she liked when there was nothing to like, and I didn't deserve it Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
