I feel..Alone

[4Everbee 1,365]

I been feeling alone when i'm not.I'm always talking to somebody. And if i'm not,I'm with my family.

I just been feeling..Alone.Like nobody wants me.And 2 days ago.I was talking to my sis.And out of now where i felt real emo and sad.I don't know why.I just do.I just feel depressed.I got a everything i need.

So i don't know why i feel like this.And it not the start.I been feeling like this for about 5 6 months now?

And when i am happy.5 sec later.I feel depressed again.

Is this just a stage or something.Or am i really a emo?

Any help?

[Iamkingdomhearts1000 1,170]

I am the same as you if not exactly khgirl4ever i feel like that too sometimes though i manage to cheer myself up eventually if not by myself then with others if only tempoary of course and if you ever feel like you need someone to talk with i am here to talk.

[Ivan 969]

I think that this is a stage that every girl goes through in her life that can can vary in length. It's very torturous, very painful, and very food-needing. The stage that has Aunty Flow knocking at your door and acne bombing your face like it's World War II. It's a stage where you think the world's against you and everybody hates you, because right now your brain is firetrucked up and the little people that work inside it are going "ABANDON SHIP! ABANDON SHIP!" It's also the time when your pelvis is your worst enemy, for it will give you many stabbing cramps as you get older, and you will want to take a knife to your woman parts.

 

But in conclusion, I just think it's puberty.

[Iamkingdomhearts1000 1,170]

Maybe or not like Doctor Ivan said which i have to give a lol to she's right and not just girls, boys too can feel like that at times obiviously and all together can we go and talk to both our family and/or friends if we want to and/or as long as we ourseleves our fine with making that decision.

[waytothexdawnx 1,159]

I think it's a phase. I went through the same exact thing when I was younger. I was always done, felt alone when I wasn't, just really depressed.

 

You'd be surprised, but a lot of it is hormonal. As you go through life, your hormones change and can make you feel like you're literally going insane sometimes lol One minute you can feel so happy, the next sad out of your mind, the next angry and wanna just argue with someone.. It's all hormonal.

 

It's a difficult stage in life, but if it helps, talk to people about it. Talk to family, friends or even a councelor or therapist. Either way, you'll definitely feel better eventually. It does pass. If it doesn't, I would highly recommend a therapist if it gets worse or doesn't go away and maybe some anxiety/depression medicine. But that's only if it gets worse or doesn't lessen.

[AlucardSuccessor 19]

Eh, you'll grow over it. I talk from personal experience. Just clothe yourself in something you really like(for me it was anime, video games and RPing) and it'll be over in a flash before you know it.

[Koko 3,944]

Eh, you'll grow over it. I talk from personal experience. Just clothe yourself in something you really like(for me it was anime, video games and RPing) and it'll be over in a flash before you know it.

 

 

Not true, it's not simply something you 'get over'

Hormonal problems and puberty is not something that is over in a flash

It takes time and it takes time for your hormones to finally balance out and by time maybe a couple of years and during that time, which is the teenage years, it truly is one of the hardest times of one's life because of everything coming at you and stressing you 10x more than if you weren't going through this hormonal unbalance.

And you can't simply find something to distract you because you know it's kind of hard to ignore the fact that 'HEY I FEEL LIKE CRAP AND I WANT TO CRY' sometimes.

 

Js.

 

It's pretty much just a hard stage in life, but you'll get through it. It's not easy, but you'll manage.

[Nweintraub 630]

I can only say, that's too bad. Such a shame.

[Iamkingdomhearts1000 1,170]

Same here Alucard Successor, the clothe yourself in Anime,Video Games and RPing bit i mean lol.

[wayfinder823 477]

Like Lady KoKo said, you're probably just going through some hard hormonal changes. It happens to everybody. I've gone through this stage multiple times.

 

I know what I am about to say, you might just brush off immediately, but if you take my advice, I promise you it really does help.

Look around, and see if there's any service you can do. It doesn't have to be anything big or project worthy. Random small acts of kindness is all it takes, such as doing the dishes, cooking dinner, cleaning your room or the bathroom, or vacuuming/sweeping the floors (doing at least one of these without being asked.) Not only will it help others feel good, you'll begin to feel better as well. And I'm not lying about this! I always give people a dull look when they talk about how warm they feel when they do service, because I think they're doing nothing but showing off, but I've noticed, it's not showing off, it's a fact. When I do service, it's not necessarily I feel "warm," I just notice that I smile more. Which sounds like the kind of medicine you need.

 

Hope you feel better soon.

[Miku Hatsune 636]

All the male responses in this thread are derpy, lol. Mostly because they think 'it'll be over soon' or 'that's too bad.' Female puberty is like having a bag of bricks smacked right across your face.

 

It sounds to me like this is one of the earliest stages of puberty, as I went through the same thing when I was 10 or 11, and so did a lot of my female friends.

It just means that you're growing up, that's all. It's not something to be ashamed of or to put yourself down for; every girl goes through it at one point in their lives.

[AlucardSuccessor 19]

Not true, it's not simply something you 'get over'

Hormonal problems and puberty is not something that is over in a flash

It takes time and it takes time for your hormones to finally balance out and by time maybe a couple of years and during that time, which is the teenage years, it truly is one of the hardest times of one's life because of everything coming at you and stressing you 10x more than if you weren't going through this hormonal unbalance.

And you can't simply find something to distract you because you know it's kind of hard to ignore the fact that 'HEY I FEEL LIKE CRAP AND I WANT TO CRY' sometimes.

 

Js.

 

It's pretty much just a hard stage in life, but you'll get through it. It's not easy, but you'll manage.

 

Who said it has to be difficult? I entered puberty, like, about 3/4 years ago and didn't really have any hormonal changes. Yes, I admit I am crap and whatever every single day but it's not like I'm going nuts about it(maybe that's why my friends call me nuts, because I don't have any of their weird pubescent habits). Besides this girl isn't saying she feels like crap or anything, she says she's depressed. Any good listener knows the difference between the two. Either way, my point is, nobody says it has to be in an extended period of time. If you're a masochist or whatever, and you like to keep putting yourself in a situation that only hurts your brain and body even more, fine. But you can get easily over it. I know you try to speak from experience but not everyone is the same. This girl might get over it fast, or not. Depends on which advice she takes: 1. Face that it's hormonal change and keep feeling like crap. 2. Take her mind off of such complicated matters and get on with her life, laughs and happiness included.

[Cellar Door 652]

it doesn't have to be difficult, but for some people it is and koko is just saying that we or most of us understand that it is tough for a lot of people and that we're here for her.

[waytothexdawnx 1,159]

Who said it has to be difficult? I entered puberty, like, about 3/4 years ago and didn't really have any hormonal changes. Yes, I admit I am crap and whatever every single day but it's not like I'm going nuts about it(maybe that's why my friends call me nuts, because I don't have any of their weird pubescent habits). Besides this girl isn't saying she feels like crap or anything, she says she's depressed. Any good listener knows the difference between the two. Either way, my point is, nobody says it has to be in an extended period of time. If you're a masochist or whatever, and you like to keep putting yourself in a situation that only hurts your brain and body even more, fine. But you can get easily over it. I know you try to speak from experience but not everyone is the same. This girl might get over it fast, or not. Depends on which advice she takes: 1. Face that it's hormonal change and keep feeling like crap. 2. Take her mind off of such complicated matters and get on with her life, laughs and happiness included.

 

Everyone is different. Everyone has puberty different. It's not something you can control.

 

You're one of the lucky ones that didn't go through this, but that doesn't mean khgirl is a frigin masochist. Everyone experiences puberty different. Just my 2 cents.

[Koko 3,944]

Who said it has to be difficult? I entered puberty, like, about 3/4 years ago and didn't really have any hormonal changes. Yes, I admit I am crap and whatever every single day but it's not like I'm going nuts about it(maybe that's why my friends call me nuts, because I don't have any of their weird pubescent habits). Besides this girl isn't saying she feels like crap or anything, she says she's depressed. Any good listener knows the difference between the two. Either way, my point is, nobody says it has to be in an extended period of time. If you're a masochist or whatever, and you like to keep putting yourself in a situation that only hurts your brain and body even more, fine. But you can get easily over it. I know you try to speak from experience but not everyone is the same. This girl might get over it fast, or not. Depends on which advice she takes: 1. Face that it's hormonal change and keep feeling like crap. 2. Take her mind off of such complicated matters and get on with her life, laughs and happiness included.

 

You do realize that male and female experience different things during puberty right?

And you do realize that depression falls under the 'feeling like crap' category. Lmao. And nobody says it has to be BECAUSE HEY GUESS WHAT YOU CAN'T TELL YOUR HORMONES TO STOP BEING ALL STUPID AND firetruckED UP

You can't ignore hormonal changes that affect your mood, it's difficult and hard to do and if you can then you're pretty lucky because you know it's kind of hard for me to ignore HOLY CRAP THERE IS BLOOD COMING OUT OF THERE AND HOLY SHIT IT FEELS LIKE SOMEONE IS STABBING MY UTERUS

 

Just because it was easy for you doesn't mean it will be easy for her, and she should prepare and know that it can be hard and stressing.

[Miku Hatsune 636]

Who said it has to be difficult? I entered puberty, like, about 3/4 years ago and didn't really have any hormonal changes. Yes, I admit I am crap and whatever every single day but it's not like I'm going nuts about it(maybe that's why my friends call me nuts, because I don't have any of their weird pubescent habits). Besides this girl isn't saying she feels like crap or anything, she says she's depressed. Any good listener knows the difference between the two. Either way, my point is, nobody says it has to be in an extended period of time. If you're a masochist or whatever, and you like to keep putting yourself in a situation that only hurts your brain and body even more, fine. But you can get easily over it. I know you try to speak from experience but not everyone is the same. This girl might get over it fast, or not. Depends on which advice she takes: 1. Face that it's hormonal change and keep feeling like crap. 2. Take her mind off of such complicated matters and get on with her life, laughs and happiness included.

 

 

>Actually, it does have to be an extended period of time. Puberty lasts for a long time.

 

>Puberty in females is much different than that in males. This includes way more dramatic hormonal and emotional changes, which can lead to feelings like what she's having.

 

>Advice has nothing to do with how fast puberty goes by, no matter how you look at it.

 

>It's very difficult to "just get on with your life" when you feel like this.

[Cellar Door 652]

what may be easy for you is not easy for everyone. the beauty of biology and life and other deep shit is that everyone is so amazingly different, though sometimes that means certain changes will affect people more than others. all we can do is tell her that we are here for her and help her try to find ways to fight it instead of telling her 'well you can just find a simple trick its easy', all that does is bring someone down more if that 'simple trick' does not work for them. im not trying to be harsh, im trying to explain to you, i hope you understand.

 

now you edited your post, but i'll leave this up for anyone else that might not understand.

i hope things get better for you khgirl, and you will get through this, dont worry. (:

[Ivan 969]

Who said it has to be difficult? I entered puberty, like, about 3/4 years ago and didn't really have any hormonal changes.

 

The thing is, girls have more hormonal changes during puberty because our body is making changes in order to prepare us for childbirth. And like Dawn said, it's different for every person.

 

I went through a similar phase when I was Khgirl's age, possibly younger (like, 4-5th grade, so yeah younger). First I started having random spurts of anger at my friends. I'd yell at them for stupid reasons and ruined friendships because I was an idiot because my body was like "RAWR BE MAD AT ALL THE PEOPLE!" And then by middle school-early high school I ended up going through a phase similar to her's. I felt like my friends weren't really there for me, I thought my family wanted me to be just like my brother. I'd go into these periods of depression and I felt like shit. And sometimes surrounding yourself by something you like isn't enough. All you want to do is be alone and do nothing for the rest of your life, because your hormones are telling you that you're the scum of the Earth.

 

By junior year of high school I started to grow out of that phase and focus on more important things (like school and mending broken friendships for example). So when you look at all of it, my little phase went from 4th grade to 11th grade. That's... about seven years. Yeah, that's not very quick.

 

Khgirl, it is a phase, and you will grow out of it. It's not going to happen quickly, trust me. I understand what you're going through, I'm sure other girls on the site do too. Talk to someone if you had to. I talked to my friends, and sometimes I even thought about going to my school's social worker/guidance councilor. I know you're homeschooled, so there isn't anyone like that you can talk to. But try opening up to your parents, ask them if you can see someone about it. Talk to one of us on here if you have to. Keeping it bottled up isn't going to help, it'll only make things worse.

[Oishii 3,987]

Mostly what other people said but I would like to add one thing. When my sister was at the age of puberty, my parents denounced her emotions as being hormonal. When it got to be too much, she went to the school counselor and several doctor referrals later she was diagnosed with depression. Sure hormonal changes may have been a part of it or a trigger, but she was having suicidal thoughts and stuff like that. It's something she'll have to take medication for the rest of her life.

 

Now, to me it doesn't sound like right now it's so bad that it's depression, but if things continue to escalate and get worse, then you should ask a counselor at school about it. You can even do that now. Sometimes it's good to talk these things out with someone. Just be sure to take care of yourself and you'll be fine ^^

[Miku Hatsune 636]

actually that one was for koko but whatever Yes, that's what I was trying to say, and I wasn't implying that she was. I was just saying that she can easily get over it with simple tricks, instead of prolonging what would be a painful period of her life.(I see my friends go over these crazy stages and simply thank god or whoever that I wasn't destined to go through that stage)

 

What "tricks" are you talking about?

There are no "tricks" for us to overcome mood swings, periods, and PMS stages.

 

What do you want us to do, bro?

Just sit there and take it like a bitch?

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[shadowblade 31]

dont be girlie nobody is alone.i used to feel the same way you did so trust me when i say i know wht youre goin through.i promise you you'll never be alone.If you still feel that way you can count me as a friend come talk to me when you feel lonely

[4Everbee 1,365]

dont be girlie nobody is alone.i used to feel the same way you did so trust me when i say i know wht youre goin through.i promise you you'll never be alone.If you still feel that way you can count me as a friend come talk to me when you feel lonely

 

Thanks

[shadowblade 31]

Thanks

 

your welcome