What's the best way to confess to another guy without him telling everyone?

[baylaust 2,531]

Well, the possibility is there that he's also just screwing around (though that does seem like kinda weird behaviour for a 13 year-old).

 

I'd still say that you should probably wait until the two of you are better friends before making any moves.

[AlucardSuccessor 19]

What kind of messed up 12 year old does that kind of stuff??? Totally inappropriate, you should really try to ignore him.

 

Every 12/3 year old boy who's already aware of himself and the world around him... http://kh13.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/sleep.png

 

Kinode, here goes my advice, which is a recap of what everyone said. Hint hint hint... blah blah blah. Talk talk talk.

 

Here goes my real advice: If you're close enough, go up to him and declare yourself. That's the only way things will get better(per se). If afterwards he tells everyone and they start acting weird, don't mind them and have the guts to take it in, there is much fish in the sea, besides anyone who is homophobic in this day and age are what I call "old, not updated program". If you aren't that close yet, just befriend more with him and follow with the advice anyways.

[Exlon 165]

Every 12/3 year old boy who's already aware of himself and the world around him... http://kh13.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/sleep.png

 

Kinode, here goes my advice, which is a recap of what everyone said. Hint hint hint... blah blah blah. Talk talk talk.

 

Here goes my real advice: If you're close enough, go up to him and declare yourself. That's the only way things will get better(per se). If afterwards he tells everyone and they start acting weird, don't mind them and have the guts to take it in, there is much fish in the sea, besides anyone who is homophobic in this day and age are what I call "old, not updated program". If you aren't that close yet, just befriend more with him and follow with the advice anyways.

 

I will merely point out that it is actually offensive to say, "anyone who is homophobic in this day and age are what I call 'old, not updated program,'" for you may not truly understand their reasons for such a point of view. Also, if they feel no malevolence and show no hostility to a gay person (despite their disagreement on the issue), I don't think it's fair to point the finger at them.

 

Anywho. Back to the subject. Frankly, I think it's a really bad idea to go for someone if they're really perverted (Ex. humping chairs? Watching porn w/o guilt, talks/jokes about sex), even if they seem really nice in essence and everything. I had a HUGE crush on this one guy a couple of years ago, and I knew he was kind of pervy and everything, but I figured "But I really like him. And he's gotta be better than that." Let me just say---it was a reeeaaally bad idea. Not that he ever found out I liked him, but I got really hurt and upset in the end.

[AlucardSuccessor 19]

I meant homophobic in the malevolent kind of way... In these subjects I only speak of worst case scenarios... So yeah they have total right and duty of being called old programs, if they hate and make fun of people who are only aware of what they really are.

[Exlon 165]

I meant homophobic in the malevolent kind of way... In these subjects I only speak of worst case scenarios... So yeah they have total right and duty of being called old programs, if they hate and make fun of people who are only aware of what they really are.

 

They're not necessarily old or out of date, it's just that those who are homophobic in a hostile way are just...mean. Like I may not agree with everything my friends do, and maybe they don't agree with everything I do, but we still care about each other.