How do know if you love(d) someone?

[Key2Oblivion 37]

So me and my ex broke up awhile back, and it took me awhile to get over her. But I was pretty sure I had gotten over her 100%. But now, I know(pretty sure) she is going to be at this football game I'm going to tonight, and I just realized that I tried to find any and every excuse I could think of to tell my friends that I couldn't make it.

 

I love my old highschool team, I know about half the team, I'm going with a good group of friends, the game is against our biggest rivals, and it's homecoming on the school's new turf field. So put all these together and I should be racing out the door to go watch, but part of me doesn't want to go and see her with her new boyfriend(I know he's going to be there, so I'm assuming she's going).

 

When we were together I never really thought of what we had as love. But that was the thing I kept going back to when I was trying to get over her, it took me MONTHS to get over her while it has only taken me a few weeks to get over my other two ex's. And now, I'm trying to avoid having a night out with my friend because I'm worried she's going to be there...so what the hell is wrong with me....

 

Oh btw, this is me just sort of venting. So no real need to reply but if you feel the need to say something please don't say stuff like "get over her, she's your ex for a reason." Because believe me my buddies won't let me hear the end of that, plus I'm giving myself enough of that.

[Koko 3,944]

How long were you guys together? It could be because you were together longer than the other two ex's you had. And I agree with your friends though. No good relationship ever ended in a split. You can't her hold you back. It might be hard, but maybe you need some sort of closure? Especially if you think you love(d) her. Closure usually helps to get over someone completely.

[Key2Oblivion 37]

We were together for a little over a year, and the others were 8 and 6 months, so yea, what we had was definitely more meaningful. Also, when it comes to the whole "no good relationship ends in a split" I agree, it's just that the reason we broke up is because we couldn't really put the time in anymore, and with me starting college we knew that wasn't going to change so we just called it quits sooner than expected, so it's not like we didn't like each other anymore you know? And with the closure I don't really know how that would work. I mean we left on good terms, we tried being just friends for awhile, and until someone told me she liked this other guy we were actually really close, but once I mentioned that I heard she liked this guy things have gotten really awkward between us.

 

So thank you but please stop. Not because I don't appreciate the advice, because I do, it's just that when it comes to my love life I get defensive and try to make it seem like everything is ok even when it's not. So again, thank you, and the night went well actually, so who knows maybe I just made too much out of the situation.

[Sora's Baby 729]

Well that's good.

[Koko 3,944]

We were together for a little over a year, and the others were 8 and 6 months, so yea, what we had was definitely more meaningful. Also, when it comes to the whole "no good relationship ends in a split" I agree, it's just that the reason we broke up is because we couldn't really put the time in anymore, and with me starting college we knew that wasn't going to change so we just called it quits sooner than expected, so it's not like we didn't like each other anymore you know? And with the closure I don't really know how that would work. I mean we left on good terms, we tried being just friends for awhile, and until someone told me she liked this other guy we were actually really close, but once I mentioned that I heard she liked this guy things have gotten really awkward between us.

 

So thank you but please stop. Not because I don't appreciate the advice, because I do, it's just that when it comes to my love life I get defensive and try to make it seem like everything is ok even when it's not. So again, thank you, and the night went well actually, so who knows maybe I just made too much out of the situation.

 

It's perfectly fine to get defensive! Love is tough road, and really in the end, handle it in the way you're most comfortable with.

[Key2Oblivion 37]

Alright thank you very much.

[Think Pink 1,967]

I guess it's probably something you just know. There are different types of love, though. I love my parents differently than I love my best friends, who I love differently from the occasional boyfriends I've had. She may just be a better friend than anything. (: