The Unpopular Opinions Thread

[Forever 3,550]

Sex and gender are technically separate. Sex is the biological stuff, genes and anatomy and whatnot. Gender is the societal construct of how people of a certain sex are viewed/should behave. Ffor instance, in different societies a woman should be covered head-to-toe, can show a little skin, or go topless. They can be expected to be nothing but glorified baby makers, or encouraged to pull their weight as much as the male gender. So, gender is constructed because there's no universally accepted expectation for what a woman "should" be (well, maybe aside from motherhood). A handy way to remember it is "Gender is between the head, sex is between the legs."

 

That said, I can't pretend to say I completely understand transgender plights, either. It's one thing to disregard certain societal conventions about what a man/woman "should" be like, but it's another to decide, "I want to be the opposite." And then there's the genderfluid/agender folks who make the whole thing messier. But part of trans surgery usually involves hormone replacement. A few wires probably got crossed in their brain somehow, so surgery and therapy are means to "fix" it I guess. Of course, I don't know what it feels like to have the wrong hormones, to feel like I'm not in the wrong body somehow, so I try to just let them do their own thing.

 

Hmmmmm, very earnestly put. It's definitely something that the individual should work out themselves, without feeling condemned for it. Besides....doesn't everyone take solace in being comfortable with who they are?

[Ghost 1,857]

while we're on the subject of things we cant wrap our heads around...

 

i personally cannot understand how people can be straight, or gay, exclusively. like i just assume everyone is bisexual or something unless stated otherwise. like...idk, maybe ita because the only thing im attracted to is mental rather than physical (seriously. idc wtfs in your pants; if i like your personality, i like you.) but then again, im asexual somidk heether or not that plays a part. obvs not every asexual is like thst so idk maybe just me? of course i can look at people, and in my mind register them as "attractive" or "good-looking", but to me it doesnt matter what your gender is, i fall in love based on personality if that makes any sense...idk...

 

to me its like. idk. i cant even explain it i just dont understand it how can someone like just one or the other?

 

sorry if this post made zero sense i dont think i even know what im talking qbout now

 

confirmed: ghost does not believe in straight and gay people.

 

that last part was a joke lol

[Shana09 5,769]

while we're on the subject of things we cant wrap our heads around...

 

i personally cannot understand how people can be straight, or gay, exclusively. like i just assume everyone is bisexual or something unless stated otherwise. like...idk, maybe ita because the only thing im attracted to is mental rather than physical (seriously. idc wtfs in your pants; if i like your personality, i like you.) but then again, im asexual somidk heether or not that plays a part. obvs not every asexual is like thst so idk maybe just me? of course i can look at people, and in my mind register them as "attractive" or "good-looking", but to me it doesnt matter what your gender is, i fall in love based on personality if that makes any sense...idk...

 

to me its like. idk. i cant even explain it i just dont understand it how can someone like just one or the other?

 

sorry if this post made zero sense i dont think i even know what im talking qbout now

 

confirmed: ghost does not believe in straight and gay people.

 

that last part was a joke lol

 

Everybody's a little gay.

[Jilly Shears 2,144]

while we're on the subject of things we cant wrap our heads around...i personally cannot understand how people can be straight, or gay, exclusively. like i just assume everyone is bisexual or something unless stated otherwise. like...idk, maybe ita because the only thing im attracted to is mental rather than physical (seriously. idc wtfs in your pants; if i like your personality, i like you.) but then again, im asexual somidk heether or not that plays a part. obvs not every asexual is like thst so idk maybe just me? of course i can look at people, and in my mind register them as "attractive" or "good-looking", but to me it doesnt matter what your gender is, i fall in love based on personality if that makes any sense...idk...to me its like. idk. i cant even explain it i just dont understand it how can someone like just one or the other?sorry if this post made zero sense i dont think i even know what im talking qbout now

 

Everyone is attracted to different things, so I think it's more that it's impossible to truly understand just because all of our brains don't physiologically work the same way. Obviously as identifying as asexual (or bisexual, for that matter) you don't care so much what's going on down there, but for me personally it does (not saying being mentally attracted isn't as important, it's just that I care about the physical more than you probably do). There's only a couple of lewd acts that I'm interested in, but I'm sure for any other men or women or whatever out there it's highly possible they don't share the same view, which is why sexual orientation is such a widespread concept that exists.

 

Basically it's just that everyone has preferences, but some are more exclusive than others. It makes the world a lot more interesting than if sodomy never existed. lol

 

confirmed: ghost does not believe in straight and gay people.

 

This is why we need Straight Rights

[DragonMaster 1,166]

while we're on the subject of things we cant wrap our heads around...i personally cannot understand how people can be straight, or gay, exclusively. like i just assume everyone is bisexual or something unless stated otherwise. like...idk, maybe ita because the only thing im attracted to is mental rather than physical (seriously. idc wtfs in your pants; if i like your personality, i like you.) but then again, im asexual somidk heether or not that plays a part. obvs not every asexual is like thst so idk maybe just me? of course i can look at people, and in my mind register them as "attractive" or "good-looking", but to me it doesnt matter what your gender is, i fall in love based on personality if that makes any sense...idk...to me its like. idk. i cant even explain it i just dont understand it how can someone like just one or the other?sorry if this post made zero sense i dont think i even know what im talking qbout nowconfirmed: ghost does not believe in straight and gay people.that last part was a joke lol

Hm, as someone who is exclusively straight I must say, this does make me think about it. I guess the only real way I can explain it is that I simply don't feel desire for men. I can like another guy's personality just as much as I can like a girl's. However, if you were to take two hypothetical people, one guy and one girl, whom I found to be equally likeable, I would never say that guy was attractive to me, while the girl might be. I have no desire to hug/cuddle/etc. with a guy, whereas if I like a girl enough that desire would be there. I've certainly met dudes with awesome personalities, and I'm certainly capable of acknowledging whether another man is attractive or not. However I never feel love or attraction to them the same way I do towards women. I suppose the easiest way to describe it is that there's a physical impulse towards women that simply does not exist towards men.

 

That said, I don't think it's out of the realm of possibility that I've simply been conditioned by societal norms and pressures to feel that way.

 

In any event, even though I'm exclusively attracted to women, personality still plays an absolutely huge role. If I hate a girl's personality, I simply don't feel any sort of attraction to them. If I love her personality, I may begin to find her more attractive. Heck, there's one girl who I absolutely adore personality wise, which made me go from not finding her physically attractive at all to finding her INSANELY attractive*. That's a rare occurrence, though.

 

*May be more of a situation where I just didn't realize she was attractive until I got to know her, idk...

[Ghost 1,857]

Hm, as someone who is exclusively straight I must say, this does make me think about it. I guess the only real way I can explain it is that I simply don't feel desire for men. I can like another guy's personality just as much as I can like a girl's. However, if you were to take two hypothetical people, one guy and one girl, whom I found to be equally likeable, I would never say that guy was attractive to me, while the girl might be. I have no desire to hug/cuddle/etc. with a guy, whereas if I like a girl enough that desire would be there. I've certainly met dudes with awesome personalities, and I'm certainly capable of acknowledging whether another man is attractive or not. However I never feel love or attraction to them the same way I do towards women. I suppose the easiest way to describe it is that there's a physical impulse towards women that simply does not exist towards men. That said, I don't think it's out of the realm of possibility that I've simply been conditioned by societal norms and pressures to feel that way. In any event, even though I'm exclusively attracted to women, personality still plays an absolutely huge role. If I hate a girl's personality, I simply don't feel any sort of attraction to them. If I love her personality, I may begin to find her more attractive. Heck, there's one girl who I absolutely adore personality wise, which made me go from not finding her physically attractive at all to finding her INSANELY attractive*. That's a rare occurrence, though. *May be more of a situation where I just didn't realize she was attractive until I got to know her, idk...

wow, this actually really helped me to understand. thank you!!! makes sense now

[Key Sharkz 69]

I'll never really acknowledge genderfluid as a thing. "Oh today I am feeling male, but tomorrow, I could feel female." I feel a lot of this kind of stuff is just being made for special snowflake status because we're getting more and more ridiculous with pronouns, to the point where I have seen people literally tell me that I should only refer to animals with gender neutral pronouns because animals can't tell you what gender they wish to identify as.

 

That's where I draw the line. Animals don't give a crap.

[Hazimie 1,595]

Pretty much sums it up about my opinion...

 

[Dave 5,715]

Pretty much sums it up about my opinion...

 

 

 

Who's "They?" 

[Shulk 8,623]

I have no problem with how many sword fighters there are in Smash Bros. Nintendo has a lot of cool sword users, and it'd be a shame to leave some of them out. Not to mention there are plenty of other characters in the game who share other fighting styles. I don't get why sword fighters are such a big deal, especially when the only ones who are similar to each other are Marth and his clones.

 

Of course, apparently the only one exempt from that "TOO MANY SWORD FIGHTERS WAAAH" rule is Isaac, because... well, I don't even know.

[HeyMouseSayCheese 1,133]

I have no problem with how many sword fighters there are in Smash Bros. Nintendo has a lot of cool sword users, and it'd be a shame to leave some of them out. Not to mention there are plenty of other characters in the game who share other fighting styles. I don't get why sword fighters are such a big deal, especially when the only ones who are similar to each other are Marth and his clones.

 

Of course, apparently the only one exempt from that "TOO MANY SWORD FIGHTERS WAAAH" rule is Isaac, because... well, I don't even know.

 

Are there even that many? SSB4 has like what, eight characters that use swords out of like 50? And they're mostly really unique- the only ones that are kind of similar are Marth and Lucina, and Link and Toon Link for obvious reasons. Do people really complain about that?

 

Also when you say Isaac, I can only imagine a small crying child with projectile tears.

[Dracozombie 4,554]

The SJW community's special snowflake syndrome feels more like a symptom of their tendency to see any kind of personal nuance, and give it a label. Straight, gay, bi, asexual -- fair enough. But... only rarely experiences attraction? Is only attracted to someone after forming a strong bond? Can be attracted to all genders? Okay, now they're just overcomplicating things. Why can't you as an individual person just happen to rarely experiences sexual/romantic attraction, or only after forming a strong bond? Why do you need a clean identification for something like that? I guess it's understandable since Tumblr (well, the SJW community) are mainly populated with teenagers who are still learning who they are, so they need clean and easy labels to identify themselves. And the community, in its paranoia about offending someone (but their toxic attitude towards white straight cis males is apparently heroic), will try to accomodate everyone no matter how many new rules they need to invent. They think they're being heroes by creating all these labels, like they're giving everyone a home -- but ironically they're just making it EASIER to offend someone because of how easy it is to accidentally use the wrong one.

 

And genderfluidity, now that I think about it, seems an iffy concept. If gender is supposed to be a social construct, then it feels like people who identify as genderfluid just can't be bothered to pick a group and stick with it. Could it be possible that they just so happen to have a somewhat rigid view of what a man/woman "should" be, and when they look at themselves and see they have traits of both, they think, "Gee maybe I'm both. But not at the same time! It changes depending on my mood." Um. Lots of things can change on your mood. Sometimes I feel like dressing up a bit nicer and learn how to cook a fancy meal, and other days I'd rather look a little boyish and be fine with store-bought hot tamales. Actually, I can feel like dressing up nicely and want some hot tamales, or dress boyish and want a fancy dinner. Hell, recently I've had this massive chocolate craving that I don't usually get. That doesn't make me special, or that I need some kind of label to accomodate my sometimes-chocolate-but-sometimes-vanilla preference.

 

Aside from how much they bend over backwards to not hurt anyone (unless, of course, you're a white straight cis male), that's probably the SJW community's biggest problem: everything needs to be a clean fit.

[Shulk 8,623]

Are there even that many? SSB4 has like what, eight characters that use swords out of like 50? And they're mostly really unique- the only ones that are kind of similar are Marth and Lucina, and Link and Toon Link for obvious reasons. Do people really complain about that?

 

Also when you say Isaac, I can only imagine a small crying child with projectile tears.

Yeah, there really aren't a whole lot. There are a lot more characters who use punches or projectile attacks, but no one really cares about those ones I guess.

 

No, I'm talking about Isaac from Golden Sun. He seems like a cool character, but it seems like any sword fighter who's not him just receives complaints.

[Dave 5,715]

Yeah, there really aren't a whole lot. There are a lot more characters who use punches or projectile attacks, but no one really cares about those ones I guess.

 

No, I'm talking about Isaac from Golden Sun. He seems like a cool character, but it seems like any sword fighter who's not him just receives complaints.

 

Issaac might have a sword, but there's a good chance that he will use more Psynergy based moves, since that what was at the heart of Golden Sun. If anything, he'd likely play more like Ness.

[HeyMouseSayCheese 1,133]

The SJW community's special snowflake syndrome feels more like a symptom of their tendency to see any kind of personal nuance, and give it a label. Straight, gay, bi, asexual -- fair enough. But... only rarely experiences attraction? Is only attracted to someone after forming a strong bond? Can be attracted to all genders? Okay, now they're just overcomplicating things. Why can't you as an individual person just happen to rarely experiences sexual/romantic attraction, or only after forming a strong bond? Why do you need a clean identification for something like that? I guess it's understandable since Tumblr (well, the SJW community) are mainly populated with teenagers who are still learning who they are, so they need clean and easy labels to identify themselves. And the community, in its paranoia about offending someone (but their toxic attitude towards white straight cis males is apparently heroic), will try to accomodate everyone no matter how many new rules they need to invent. They think they're being heroes by creating all these labels, like they're giving everyone a home -- but ironically they're just making it EASIER to offend someone because of how easy it is to accidentally use the wrong one.

 

And genderfluidity, now that I think about it, seems an iffy concept. If gender is supposed to be a social construct, then it feels like people who identify as genderfluid just can't be bothered to pick a group and stick with it. Could it be possible that they just so happen to have a somewhat rigid view of what a man/woman "should" be, and when they look at themselves and see they have traits of both, they think, "Gee maybe I'm both. But not at the same time! It changes depending on my mood." Um. Lots of things can change on your mood. Sometimes I feel like dressing up a bit nicer and learn how to cook a fancy meal, and other days I'd rather look a little boyish and be fine with store-bought hot tamales. Actually, I can feel like dressing up nicely and want some hot tamales, or dress boyish and want a fancy dinner. Hell, recently I've had this massive chocolate craving that I don't usually get. That doesn't make me special, or that I need some kind of label to accomodate my sometimes-chocolate-but-sometimes-vanilla preference.

 

Aside from how much they bend over backwards to not hurt anyone (unless, of course, you're a white straight cis male), that's probably the SJW community's biggest problem: everything needs to be a clean fit.

 

I think not even in the SJW community, but online in general, people focus too much on labels, either assigning them or refuting them. Male, female, anywhere in-between, or gay, straight, bi, asexual, all that sort of stuff, really doesn't matter in most real world situations. When you're an adult with rent and bills to pay, chores and errands to complete, responsibilities to fulfill, you don't have the time to sit down and assign yourself or other labels and try and present yourself/them that way. There's too much shit you gotta do to worry about any of that, y'know?

 

I agree that's it's likely mostly teenagers or young adults who aren't exactly sure who or what they are and are feeling insecure about it, or possibly just confused and depressed about a million other things, so they need labels to try and help themselves make sense of the world. I've generally found that as people get older, they tend to see things in more and more shades of gray (there are a lot of obvious exceptions to this, mostly people who are consistently insecure about themselves their entire adult lives, but I'm drifting into amateur psychology territory).

[Shulk 8,623]

Issaac might have a sword, but there's a good chance that he will use more Psynergy based moves, since that what was at the heart of Golden Sun. If anything, he'd likely play more like Ness.

Link and Toon Link both focus on their tools, while Robin uses his/her tomes more than his/her swords.  Most of the sword fighters have different movesets.

[Dave 5,715]

Since we're on the topic of labeling people, I think it's generally unhelpful and not worthwhile. The more you begin to categorize people, the more you are, in a way, increasing segregation and alienation by determining who goes in what box. Even if it's not necessarily in a malicious sense, the mentality still becomes "I am in Group A. You are in Group B. Therefore, we are not the same." Which really goes against the grain of the motivation that the internet seems to be arguing in favor of, which is acceptance, awareness, and integration of differences. Not to mention that labelling really just makes it easier to be angry/negative towards a group of people in a general sense, and while the internet might turn a blind eye when it happens in regards to the people whom might be thought of as oppressive, it is still essentially the same action that actual oppressive people use against others. So simply embracing it on a set of terms that happens to work better for you still perpetuates the same problem we had when we started.

 

 

Link and Toon Link both focus on their tools, while Robin uses his/her tomes more than his/her swords. Most of the sword fighters have different movesets.

Didn't say they didn't.

Edited May 8, 2015 by Shana09

[VisitJoan 2,713]

Fifth Harmony's album was disappointing.

[FrightfurUnversed 177]

i dont agree with how death is done normally, i would rather throw a party when someone dies, you get everyone in the room that cared about them and loved them. you play the deads favorite music, play there favorite movies and games, talk about why you loved them why they ment so much to you, what you loved about them. i feel like we should celebrate who the person was and what they ment to us rather than the fact that there gone. i feel like death is just as important as birth is and is just another stage of life that we all get to and that its often stigmatized and demonized because people are afraid of it and what may come from it. and that doesnt need to be the case. and i mean yeah, ive lost someone, i get it im sad, i miss my grandma, but it was her time. and when its your time its your time. im also happy for her, in the end it was really hard for her to loose her independence to be so sick, shes not in pain anymore. and thats good. death is good.

 

 

i also dont understand saying im sorry for your loss, yes, i feel bad that your sad but i dont like when people do that to me why would i do it to someone else, its pity, pity is pretty worthless, your sad, i get that. but i really want to tell you to feel better soon not that im sorry, you need to feel better, you need to be able to move on with your life no matter how much you cry the dead is never going to come back. and you have your life to live, i want that person to get to a point were the loss doesnt hurt so badly i want them to know that that persons not really gone there still with them and they more than likely wouldnt want the person to be forever wallowing in there sadness though, its going to be ok, the pain will always be there but your going to be able to think about them and talk about them without being really upset. 

 

sorry doesnt really mean alot in that case, but get well soon isnt exactly the right words either, 

 

i think people are too soft and overprotective with there kids now, if it falls ask the kid if there ok if they have a scrape or something deal with it, but more than likely the kids going to stumble get up and run off its NOT the end of the world, you freak out the kid is going to freak out, also if your kid hits me with something and i tell him to stop and you dont want me telling him no take some incentive and disipline your child yourself dont just let them run around like wild animals. when i was working at walmart this woman was letting her kid lick the floor for firetrucks sake and you dont want to know how filthy those floors get..im not a germaphobe normally but yuck.

 

 

also just because i dont want to talk or i dont always like others or want to socialize doesnt have to be a bad thing, quit trying to force me or others like me be it for my reasons, shyness, social anxity, introverts whatever to socialize, its not really to our benifit its what socity thinks is right to do. 

Edited May 24, 2015 by FrightfurUnversed

[Forever 3,550]

i dont agree with how death is done normally, i would rather throw a party when someone dies, you get everyone in the room that cared about them and loved them. you play the deads favorite music, play there favorite movies and games, talk about why you loved them why they ment so much to you, what you loved about them. i feel like we should celebrate who the person was and what they ment to us rather than the fact that there gone. i feel like death is just as important as birth is and is just another stage of life that we all get to and that its often stigmatized and demonized because people are afraid of it and what may come from it. and that doesnt need to be the case. and i mean yeah, ive lost someone, i get it im sad, i miss my grandma, but it was her time. and when its your time its your time. im also happy for her, in the end it was really hard for her to loose her independence to be so sick, shes not in pain anymore. and thats good. death is good.

 

 

i also dont understand saying im sorry for your loss, yes, i feel bad that your sad but i dont like when people do that to me why would i do it to someone else, its pity, pity is pretty worthless, your sad, i get that. but i really want to tell you to feel better soon not that im sorry, you need to feel better, you need to be able to move on with your life no matter how much you cry the dead is never going to come back. and you have your life to live, i want that person to get to a point were the loss doesnt hurt so badly i want them to know that that persons not really gone there still with them and they more than likely wouldnt want the person to be forever wallowing in there sadness though, its going to be ok, the pain will always be there but your going to be able to think about them and talk about them without being really upset. 

 

sorry doesnt really mean alot in that case, but get well soon isnt exactly the right words either, 

 

i think people are too soft and overprotective with there kids now, if it falls ask the kid if there ok if they have a scrape or something deal with it, but more than likely the kids going to stumble get up and run off its NOT the end of the world, you freak out the kid is going to freak out, also if your kid hits me with something and i tell him to stop and you dont want me telling him no take some incentive and disipline your child yourself dont just let them run around like wild animals. when i was working at walmart this woman was letting her kid lick the floor for firetrucks sake and you dont want to know how filthy those floors get..im not a germaphobe normally but yuck.

 

 

also just because i dont want to talk or i dont always like others or want to socialize doesnt have to be a bad thing, quit trying to force me or others like me be it for my reasons, shyness, social anxity, introverts whatever to socialize, its not really to our benifit its what socity thinks is right to do. 

 

Actually....that's a brilliant idea! Taking the time to reminiscence about your loved ones, and have a lovely time in their honor just sounds beautiful. I've always envisioned that one day, when my grandmother passes, I'd play her favorite party song as a way to celebrate her life-

 

You have an interesting way of thinking there....nice.

[FrightfurUnversed 177]

Actually....that's a brilliant idea! Taking the time to reminiscence about your loved ones, and have a lovely time in their honor just sounds beautiful. I've always envisioned that one day, when my grandmother passes, I'd play her favorite party song as a way to celebrate her life-

 

You have an interesting way of thinking there....nice.

thanks!

and that sounds really nice actually too. whats her favorite party song?

[Forever 3,550]

thanks!

and that sounds really nice actually too. whats her favorite party song?

 

The Electric Slide. Not even kidding, she requests that it gets played every time we go to a wedding. :tongue:

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-mOY2eWO2qw

[Guest]

I got bored of playing Bravely Default when I first tried it out. I'm not a fan of the art style and the introduction felt so generic that it pushed me away from the game entirely.

[FrightfurUnversed 177]

i hated the avatar with the blue people in it, cue eco freindly pochahantas esque tale we have seen THOUSANDS of times before but add alot more bells and whistles, it was greatly overrated, 

[Key Sharkz 69]

I had a discussion about this earlier and I feel the need to share:How is preaching the whole "OMG PEOPLE SHOULD JUST WAIT FOR A RELATIONSHIP. SAVE YOURSELF FOR THE SPECIAL SOMEONE!" still permitted? It is un-American and goes against what our country was founded on: freedom. You have no right to police other people's sex lives, and what they do in their bedroom is no one's business. How is it fair that people who engage in casual sex treat people who want to wait for relationships with complete respect most of the time, get to be ridiculed by those same people. Why is this respect not a two way street? This attitude is where slut shaming appeared from and honestly a lot of it just comes from jealousy. Let's not even kid ourselves, a good handful of people who wish to "wait" are not doing so by choice. Most of the people who shame others for engaging in casual sex are going off of outdated or completely WRONG information. I know many people who still think there is like a 25% chance you'll catch AIDS from unprotected sex. You have a greater chance of catching AIDS from a blood transfusion. Only 1% of the US population lives with AIDS, and the chances of contracting it during sex are actually very low. The stigma about herpes? GUESS WHAT:

 

There is a good chance that a majority of the people in this thread have the virus for oral herpes because it's the same virus as cold sores. If you have ever had a cold sore, you have oral herpes.

 

What is irritating is that the media has made it out to be like you can catch herpes so easily and it'll ruin your life. First of all, it's VERY rare to catch genital herpes not during a breakout. The chances are extremely low. Second, they make it out to be like genital herpes is this insanely painful thing that ruins your whole life when the truth is, many people live with genital herpes that only have a break out every few YEARS, and it more or less just causes the same discomfort as a cold sore does. Rarely is it so extreme that it causes the kind of pain and anguish that the media makes it out to be. That and we are getting very close to a cure for herpes considering we already have drugs that can greatly reduce the time of break outs.A majority of other STDs are completely treatable. I hate how our society is basically just trying to convince everyone that sex is bad so that it's an excuse to control everyone's bodies, and shame those who do not buy into propaganda.

Edited May 28, 2015 by Key Sharkz