im 14 and i need some advice on getting my first girlfriend. the freshmans at my school have a homecoming dance and i am very slightly anti social. the girls in my school seem friendly but i am to shy to ask anyone. help please?

It's not really a girlfriend than just a date, if it's for a homecoming dance. Actually, I'm not even sure it's a date either.

So, if you have any friends who are girls who don't have dates, I would start with them. Otherwise, it can be hard, if you're shy. I'm not really sure what to do otherwise. You'd just have to work up the courage to ask someone you like, or wait for someone to ask you.

kid the best advice anyone can give ya is to just build up the guts to ask someone its all that can be said trust me girls like someone with enough courage to ask them face to face alot of the time

If you feel you really can't come out and say it, you could write it in a note for them. If you get creative with it it could be really "romantic" if that's what you want to go for

Even better - don't bother. At some point in your life, the right person will come prancing along in front of you (of course, this isn't to say to be passive... you have to be looking, too)... but you absolutely DO NOT need to be worrying about it at age 14, let alone 18 (my age). Go with the flow, man.

Well, if you could get some courage and ask a girl you know that will surely accept, then I don't see why not. Try, at least. Writing is another way. You could write a poem or something like that, and depending on the girl, she'll love it. But what the person above said is true, you don't have to be "Oh My God, I don't have a girlfriend".

 

It's better to be alone than with people you don't love or that don't love you. Only time will tell when your time is, so just wait ~

Just be yourself man, thats my advice for you. It sure works for me

Just be yourself man, thats my advice for you. It sure works for me

 

That may not help... He said he was slightly anti-social so being yourself and have the courage to do ask someone out in the open, possibly with other people watching or waiting for you to actually do it, can be kinda scary... Being yourself and asking bluntly at point blank range only works with people with REALLY great sociable skills.

 

My advice, talk to someone you know, a friend, for example. If you feel uncomfortable asking it in public, try to catch her when she's alone. Or do the coward/"romantic"/somewhat okay way and write something cool on a piece of paper that will probably travel the whole room before getting to her hands.

 

That may not help... He said he was slightly anti-social so being yourself and have the courage to do ask someone out in the open, possibly with other people watching or waiting for you to actually do it, can be kinda scary... Being yourself and asking bluntly at point blank range only works with people with REALLY great sociable skills.

 

 

Im jus like him, slightly anti-social and shy, it works just fine. You just have to find the strength in you thats all

just be casual. ask a girl you have a crush on or a close friend. just be like "hey if you dont have a date, do you wanna go with me?" you dont have to be romantic. its not like your getting married

it's not a girlfriend, it's a date, but a date can lead to a girlfriend. just ask a cute girl youre interested in. if you really are shy you could ask a friend to ask for you?

I'll be honest. Its not gonna be easy to change for who you are right now but try to let a friend tag along with you to ask a girl out so you don't feel the tension alone but that would burden your friend so yeah. Bring someone who you really feel comfortable with and not someone who you can simply choose like a candy store.

Ask a family friend or any girl friends that you have like other people have said. That aside, if you're really desperate, ask someone you get along really well with even if you don't really know the girl that well. This is just for a one time thing, right? Not for you to actually get a girlfriend. You can get a girlfriend later, no need to start at 14. I don't think forced relationships end very well.

like most people will say, be yourself, if it really is a girlfriend you want than you can't be fake. it won't last ya know? i was 13 when i got my first girlfriend and i wish i had taken that advice. just hang out with different people and when you find someone you like, and when i say like i mean like you feel something more than just hanging out. you know what i mean, anyway then just take it slow and don't ask too soon. good luck man i'll be praying for you.