Yessie Maltese 1,564 Posted November 5, 2017 After what happened to My mom, she's struggling and really to go to the hospital. But, there's one problem, my dogs... Who gonna watch over them? My mom can't do anything on herself and can hardly breathe right due to the fact that she was still staying at our very small house without water, gas, shower and AC with the dogs.... I can't bring my dogs to my grandma's apartment either.... So only one way to help my mom is getting rid of my dogs... If I do get rid of them, it'll really break my heart and I don't know if I be able to handle it.... I don't know what to do anymore.... I do love my mom and I don't want her to suffer even more, but at the same time, I love my dogs too... I'm really thorned right now.... no one wants to help us, even my grandma told me to send the dogs away, even my brothers as well.... I really don't know what to do.... I really can't do anything right.... I always feel like my family thinks that I'm selfish and didn't even care about my mom.... I always feel like I'm a bad person.... I'm really sorry for posting this.... 1 BrettBix reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Iamkingdomhearts1000 1,170 Posted November 5, 2017 Your calling out for help and it's here if you need advice on what to do, my mum is having surgery tomorrow so i can kind of relate to you, especially including having dogs, honestly, i have no answer that i can give you that can help you, i'm sorry for not being able to help you, i honestly do wish that i could but i just can't think of anything helpful that can help you with this problem, your brothers and grandma should be supporting you, not saying stuff like get rid of the dogs, the dogs are family also, its wrong to get rid of them, that's my personal opinion, do you know anyone at all that is willing to support you outside the family and look after your dogs? i mean anyone? i hope that both your mum gets better and that you get to keep your dogs in the end, if you by yourself can manage to look after your dogs all by yourself, you'll be able to keep them and prove to everyone that you don't have to get rid of the dogs just to help your mum, you can do both by proving that you are physically capable of doing all the dog chores and looking after your mum, know what i mean? i hope that in at least some small way i was able to help you maybe, i'm sorry if i couldn't and if i sounded unsympathetic in any way then i apologize, i just hope that things will work out for you in the end. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Yessie Maltese 1,564 Posted November 5, 2017 Thanks for your opinion. Well, there's my uncles and cousins and also some of my mom's friends but I don't know if they'll help us... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Iamkingdomhearts1000 1,170 Posted November 6, 2017 Thanks for your opinion. Well, there's my uncles and cousins and also some of my mom's friends but I don't know if they'll help us... Got to at least try right? its about what truly matters in the end, not just to everyone else but to you yourself, as well, i think you should at least try and reach out to others who you think will support you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mag77 405 Posted November 6, 2017 Oh man, I am so sorry to hear what you're going through right now. I can only pray that it gets better. I hope that one of your aunts, uncles, or cousins can take your dogs in while your mom recovers. If not, perhaps a neighbor would be willing to take care of your dogs for a while? Perhaps, you could even take your dogs to a kennel/resort and have them stay there and be taken care of while your mom recovers. I hope that things will work out for you, your dogs, and your family. I'm sorry that I can't think of any other options. 1 Songbird Rebel reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Yessie Maltese 1,564 Posted November 7, 2017 It's okay.... I gonna have to lose them.... My grandma just kept telling me and my mom to get rid of them.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Iamkingdomhearts1000 1,170 Posted November 7, 2017 (edited) It's okay.... I gonna have to lose them.... My grandma just kept telling me and my mom to get rid of them.... You cannot give up, not until all options have been checked, that's my personal opinion and sorry if i am coming on too strongly about this matter, just my feelings about it is all. Edited November 7, 2017 by Iamkingdomhearts1000 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Yessie Maltese 1,564 Posted November 7, 2017 I know but they probably won't help us at all....I don't know if I'll be able to handle it.... Everyone in my family are probably thinking that I'm crazy and stupid that I love my dogs as much as I love my mom.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Iamkingdomhearts1000 1,170 Posted November 7, 2017 (edited) I know but they probably won't help us at all....I don't know if I'll be able to handle it.... Everyone in my family are probably thinking that I'm crazy and stupid that I love my dogs as much as I love my mom.... Not really, you love your dogs because they are your family, if people are willing to buy pets just to throw them away later on then they don't deserve to be called owners, not talking about you just in case of misinterpretation but still, a pet keeps a person company and exactly just like the saying: dogs are peoples' best friends, i'm not going to say anymore on the matter, you yourself have to decide how you feel about getting rid of them and what you will feel like if you actually do get rid of them afterwards, you have to be truly honest with your family and say to them no! these are my pets! not yours! i'll look after them! its no good thinking about looking after them if you are not going to 100% percent commit yourself to doing that, your just carrying on a matter that will eventually solve itself in the end with you not feeling happy about it at all unless you take a stand, stand up to your grandma, brothers, whoever, you don't have to choose between your mum and your dogs unless you are willing to fight for both of them, that's the honest, blunt truth of it all, you've got to decide for yourself if you are willing to make the commitment to look after your dogs no matter what anyone else says, i can't help you physically, i can only give personal opinions and advice, what you must do is something you have to truly think about for yourself and by yourself, the latter being a manner of speaking i'm not saying us here on KH13 can't help you but again, in the end, you've got to be the one that decides things, its entirely your call Yessie Maltese. Edited November 7, 2017 by Iamkingdomhearts1000 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Yessie Maltese 1,564 Posted November 8, 2017 Well, there's some good news, one of my brothers decided to let my mom and my dogs to stay at his apartment. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Iamkingdomhearts1000 1,170 Posted November 8, 2017 Well, there's some good news, one of my brothers decided to let my mom and my dogs to stay at his apartment. See? its like i said, don't give up until you have checked all of your options but either way, its good to hear that something good is happening for you and your family now :]. 1 Yessie Maltese reacted to this Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
