I wouldn't normally get involved with something like this, but allow me to address the things you've said about me.
As you say, the point of the rule is to avoid topics that exclude others by only applying to a single member, or group of members. The topic in question was about Aaron, and since Aaron is the co-creator of the website, I consider him well-known enough such that jokes made about him do not really exclude a lot of people. It has nothing to do with who created the topic, as many expect, but rather that the topic was about Aaron. Anyone is welcome to make topics about Aaron.
Not that I agree with any backlash, just explaining my decision.
Hmmmmm, this is going by technical standards, but however, the backlash out of it ended up being unjustified, and even though it happened, in a similar event like this, regardless of who is the person for the thread, I don't think it's fair that the mods have to put up with that.
I may of been off with the Aaron thread, but I'm more concerned with the backlash, and this kind of thing, although it won't stop, is unacceptable. I'm allowing people to see that these mods aren't here to bow down to them, and they should not be harassed because of some event. Cricket being harassed twice in a row, that's where the line needs to be drawn.
How have I made her suffer exactly? This is news to me, in fact, I would say that I'm quite nice to her. I mean, here's our last conversation:
[9/02/2013 4:13:09 AM] Cricket .: hey, are you mad at me? D:
[9/02/2013 4:13:39 AM] Daniel Chiuchiarelli: hey, nah it's cool
[9/02/2013 4:13:45 AM] Daniel Chiuchiarelli: but i'm actually going to bed right now, sorry
[9/02/2013 4:13:48 AM] Daniel Chiuchiarelli: i'll talk to you later
[9/02/2013 4:13:53 AM] Cricket .: ok I'm really sorry for what happened
[9/02/2013 4:13:56 AM] Cricket .: and alright c:
[9/02/2013 4:14:01 AM] Daniel Chiuchiarelli: night
[9/02/2013 4:14:04 AM] Cricket .: goodnight
Does that look like a conversation that would happen if I was somehow causing Cricket to avoid me? No, I don't think so... I haven't done anything
I think there's a slight misunderstanding, I wasn't implying that you were making her suffer. However, do understand that sometimes on MSN, she pops offline, and she has to tell me that she's getting offline because you're getting online or something, that's something that you two need to work out. I merely talk to her about other stuff, she talks to me about the KH13 stuff. All I have for details is that she avoids you quite a few times, so you're clearly presenting a problem to her, and one of the problems seems to be something below, which I'll get to a few.
I have no doubt that you are nice to Cricket, but there's communication problems here. Figure it out between the two of you, not that Cricket's going to really sign in anyway.
I explained this above, there's no "special occasions", it's simply that people such as me and Aaron are well-known enough and important enough to this website such that topics about us do not exclude people. Also what do you mean, I did it "how many times?" As far as I'm aware we're talking about a single topic, right? (Makes you wonder how the opening of a single topic can cause so much drama with people...) And when did you confront me about this? As far as I'm aware, we haven't talked about this particular incident.
We've been over this matter about a member, and I talked to you about. I'm not going to go back to that again because it's been done and over with, and there's no point in beating a dead horse with a stick.
Why don't sectional mods count? The male sectional mods absolutely do have as much power as the female sectional mods :/ Sectional mods are a great idea, and so far it has been a very successful project. They will have more power in the future, and eventually will take on many of the responsibilities of the Forum Team, such as dealing with reports, having the ability to mod in all forums, etc, but the project is just getting started, this takes time. That said, it's going very well so far. I don't think it's fair to say that our mod team is a disaster, because as it is now, they do plenty of work and keep the forum functioning great. It's really not as bad as you make it out to be.
I think I was little too underdetailed with this.
First thing I noticed when I saw the Sectional Mods was when I checked out who was assigned to what forums. And I guess I had a little test because I checked out the genders of them, and it seems that male mods has less coverage of the forums than the females ones, which may be a small detail, but there's a clear difference here.
The problem I see here with the mods is that now there's about what, 2 mods getting online now? The rest are calling it quits because stupid shit keeps happening and this is why the backlash against the mods is what's really killing this site at this point. The mods are getting harassed that they don't want to do it, as far as I can see.
I'm not saying that Sectional Mods are a completely horrible idea, but I'd rather take a simpler route and bump them up to mods and see how it works from there. I'm not going to go into much detail, but I understand if you need to let it take time.
But my opinion still stands for male mods, because this old habit isn't really working out anymore.
I've literally hardly ever talked to you, so please don't go assuming that I have a vendetta against you or something. I don't. There are no differences that need to be let go of. The incident that you refer to, me "claiming that I scared away Jenny", was literally OVER two years ago. And I never claimed that you were the sole reason for her leaving, simply that your argument with her the day before she left might have had some impact. But yeah. Over two years ago! Come on.
For something that was over two years ago, I come to find this detail out LAST YEAR, and this was when Protoman was talking to me about being in the MSN chatroom and I don't know how the thought of me being in it came up, but when it did, I had to find out, at that time, you were talking bad about me. I found out sooner than I should have, and at that point, I was starting to think that there are grudges. I think we can both say that this is not the case anymore.
However, in any case, there's no reason to talk bad about me, past or not. I'll leave it that this won't happen again.
You say that I'm telling people you're a bad member, but you're not telling people I'm a bad admin, but:
- This one thing I said about you was over 2 years ago, and not nearly as bad as you make it out to be
- Who is the one writing paragraphs and paragraphs about me in public? I don't think I ever talked about you in *private* in the last couple years, let alone in public
People referring to the MSN Chatroom. However, I wouldn't know if you were telling other people, but I'm not going to make that assumption.
Unfortunately, I'm still going to shed some light on some things in public, hence why the title says, "Some Truths". I'm going to state the truth since if I'm going to leave, I'm want people to know some of these shenanigans going on. And acting like I'm purposely saying bad things about you? I said that you were doing said action, I said I didn't appreciate it (again, it doesn't matter if was 2 years), and that's it. I didn't throw in an insult or discriminate you in any sorts.
If Cricket doesn't like flirting then I would suggest that she says something to me instead of going along with it? I mean, this kind of thing works two ways, I wouldn't be doing anything if Cricket wasn't also. This is kind of a private issue though, don't you think, not something to make a topic about?
I have a suggestion. It's called just not doing it. Two ways or not, don't flirt with random people on the Internet, seriously. And I don't know what you want me to say about it in response. She keeps telling me she doesn't like it, she keeps signing off because you apparently sign in. I'm not making this up, she tells me that it's going on. Why isn't she not doing anything, well I'm not Cricket. I can tell her for her to tell you to stop.
A couple of our thousands of visitors are obsessed with this drama = the site is crumping into massive amounts of chaos
If I'm getting notified by people that there are issues with KH13 multiple times in a short period about he said she said bullshit or old members retaliating, whatever it is, clearly there's a problem and it's being consistent. 6 months ago, I might of said this site = meh whatever, but right now there's way too many problems and too much drama that things are going to chaos.
I had to say what I had to say. There have been a misinformed notion here and there, but if anything is clear, one mod became upset from this. If she's leaving because of these stupid events, then so be it, she's done. But I'm getting this as one of my messages:
[2/13/2013 11:23:06 PM] Brittany: So
[2/13/2013 11:23:17 PM] Brittany: I don't mean this to come off as rude but...
[2/13/2013 11:23:35 PM] Brittany: I'm thinking about forgetting all about my internet friends
[2/13/2013 11:23:45 PM] Brittany: no one cares about me
[2/13/2013 11:23:46 PM] Brittany: and
[2/13/2013 11:24:05 PM] Brittany: yeah I need to move on
Then I'm going to have an issue with it. And people need to start reading about these things, because if I'm going to lose a good friend because of the stupid shit that goes on there, then I'm going to do what it take for people to open their eyes and see some of these issues.
I needed to bring up a few points to you because quite frankly it was necessary, whether you feel it needed to be private. No more of this private nonsense, we need to bring up these things to the surface. And like I said, I said what I had to say with the best of my knowledge of what's going on. I don't hate you, I have nothing against you, but there's some things that needs to get off my chest if I'm going finally leave.
I'm not going to argue with you about this any longer. You have valid points, and I have valid points, but everything has been said. Now I'm going to leave right after this post has been made, I wanted to read any particular posts that I would get, so that's it.
Sora96, this one I'm actually keeping short.
I already know about your friendship with Cricket, I'm aware of it. This is something oblivious to me.
But she feels horrible about that comment that you don't need her, regardless if you meant that you don't need her advice. You're always going to need advice from people, always. You are never done learning, and people always have something to teach you.
You're in good terms with her, fine. But never tell that to a person. Because from the logs, after she told what you said, she said that this was the final straw on KH13.
I don't get it Sora, she said she was thinking of leaving for good, you tell her that you don't need, now she makes up her mind. It's not hard to put the pieces together. But what's the point in arguing because she's coming back, so it doesn't matter.
I'm tired of having her always feeling depressed, and then your comment makes her feel worse. Of course I'm going to be mad at it. It's more to friends that just giving advice, then just going out there and say you don't need her advice. Advice or not, nothing was changed!
And I don't want an apology from you, I would gain nothing out of it.
So this is the final post. After this post is done, I'm signing out and there's no reason for me to sign back it.
Everything has been said and done, as stated multiple times, and I got at least most of my points out.
To DC and Sora96, it's not all about you when it comes to these troubles, but I feel the need to state my opinions, whether you like them or not.
And yeah. That's it. Ta ta.