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[Kinode]

Since I'm pretty sure I can count on most of you and I feel like putting my feelings out there to you guys... I'll write this.
Last Friday was the day. I build up all of my forces to just go ahead and tell him. I had the perfect opportunity. He was such a nice guy about it. I'm still kinda surprised.
It's implied that he doesn't return my feelings, but at least he knows now. He said we're still friends, that it doesn't mater, but I know that we'll be as far apart as ever. After all, he's probably straight, he probably thinks I'm some creepy, stalking, "gentleman".
Anyone would. And I kinda am.
I thought it'd be easier after telling him but now I just don't know what to do at all, not even where to begin. I wanna get over him, but I also don't.
It's so confusing.
I've been thinking... Maybe I should try going out with a girl, to see how it's like. But I can't even imagine that. And besides, what girl would accept to go out with... ME?
Is anyone that desperate? And who would I ask out? Not a close friend, I'd lose my friendship with that person as soon as I broke up. After all, if I went out with a girl, it wouldn't be anything serious... at all.
After everything I went through with him, having "no' for an answer was kinda rough, even if he didn't outright say yes or no, and even though he said it didn't matter.
I asked for advice from tons of people, and figuring out which advices i should follow is a bit difficult, especially since I'm not even sure what I want anymore.
Just wanted to share this with you guys...

Edited by Kinode, 29 April 2012 - 03:59 PM.

[Iamkingdomhearts1000]

Me and you are kind of the same and yes, whether you like it or not, you should have recieved a proper answer, regardless of yours and/or his feelings, a simple yes or no to one of the other's face, straight foward, without hesitation and after some careful thinking, besides, stalking the one you love is natural as long as you don't go about it in a sort of creepish way and as long as it doesn't carry on for a good long while, personally, your sexuality is what you want it to be, screw the opinions of those who would disagree and just make some petty comments about "Oh how gay you are" because in the end, you ARE gay but so what? that's YOUR sexuality, not theirs, so what's that of anything to them huh? it's just them making fun of you because they may very well believe that it's "Badass" when in the end, it's just "Whining" sorry, going off track there a little but nevertheless, be who you want to be and also, keep trying with who you love and don't give up as long as you still have the hope of gaining a relationship with the person that you love, that's an order, not a request, got it? lol :], also, cheer up a little, so you can think about the future more positively :] unless, you want to be down on purpose, which is fine, as long as you don't bring down others with you, otherwise, you'll end up like the people who make those petty comments i mentioned before.

[Koko]

Me and you are kind of the same and yes, whether you like it or not, you should have recieved a proper answer, regardless of yours and/or his feelings, a simple yes or no to one of the other's face, straight foward, without hesitation and after some careful thinking, besides, stalking the one you love is natural as long as you don't go about it in a sort of creepish way and as long as it doesn't carry on for a good long while, personally, your sexuality is what you want it to be, screw the opinions of those who would disagree and just make some petty comments about "Oh how gay you are" because in the end, you ARE gay but so what? that's YOUR sexuality, not theirs, so what's that of anything to them huh? it's just them making fun of you because they may very well believe that it's "Badass" when in the end, it's just "Whining" sorry, going off track there a little but nevertheless, be who you want to be and also, keep trying with who you love and don't give up as long as you still have the hope of gaining a relationship with the person that you love, that's an order, not a request, got it? lol :], also, cheer up a little, so you can think about the future more positively :] unless, you want to be down on purpose, which is fine, as long as you don't bring down others with you, otherwise, you'll end up like the people who make those petty comments i mentioned before.

i agreed with your partly until i read the bold

are you shitting me
no
stalking is not okay or 'natural' to do when you like someone
i'm sorry, it's just not
it's creepy and invasive no matter to what extent or reasoning


And Kinode, you're young
this is one guy
one guy that even if he said yes and returned your feelings, you might of not have lasted
you both are young and maybe he's confused and maybe that's why he couldnt give you an answer
i'm sorry, but you can not let this whole thing overtake your life and emotions (which is what i feel it is doing)
move on
there are other guys
there is a lot of time for you to live out your life and find someone (or more than one) to be in a relationship with
but you really just need to slow down
and not even worry about relationships and stuff
theyre nothing to worry about
nothing to stress about

[Flaming Lea]

i agreed with your partly until i read the bold

are you shitting me
no
stalking is not okay or 'natural' to do when you like someone
i'm sorry, it's just not
it's creepy and invasive no matter to what extent or reasoning


And Kinode, you're young
this is one guy
one guy that even if he said yes and returned your feelings, you might of not have lasted
you both are young and maybe he's confused and maybe that's why he couldnt give you an answer
i'm sorry, but you can not let this whole thing overtake your life and emotions (which is what i feel it is doing)
move on
there are other guys
there is a lot of time for you to live out your life and find someone (or more than one) to be in a relationship with
but you really just need to slow down
and not even worry about relationships and stuff
theyre nothing to worry about
nothing to stress about

well said ...This x 1000

[Iamkingdomhearts1000]

i agreed with your partly until i read the bold

are you shitting me
no
stalking is not okay or 'natural' to do when you like someone
i'm sorry, it's just not
it's creepy and invasive no matter to what extent or reasoning


And Kinode, you're young
this is one guy
one guy that even if he said yes and returned your feelings, you might of not have lasted
you both are young and maybe he's confused and maybe that's why he couldnt give you an answer
i'm sorry, but you can not let this whole thing overtake your life and emotions (which is what i feel it is doing)
move on
there are other guys
there is a lot of time for you to live out your life and find someone (or more than one) to be in a relationship with
but you really just need to slow down
and not even worry about relationships and stuff
theyre nothing to worry about
nothing to stress about

Im not saying your wrong Koko and im not going to approach this conversation and turn it into a argument of opinions but i'll take a risk by saying that how else can someone approach another person so akawardly? friendships and/or relationships will always start out into some form of akawardnence maybe and i forgot to mention since this is important also that as long as nothing very bad comes out from the stalking, it should be alright right? the kind of stalking im talking about is maybe the kind where a person just looks at the person they love without that person whom they love see them, you know, direct eye contact or something of sorts maybe.

well said ...This x 1000

I don't get what you mean sorry :[.

[Flaming Lea]

Im not saying your wrong Koko and im not going to approach this conversation and turn it into a argument of opinions but i'll take a risk by saying that how else can someone approach another person so akawardly? friendships and/or relationships will always start out into some form of akawardnence maybe and i forgot to mention since this is important also that as long as nothing very bad comes out from the stalking, it should be alright right? the kind of stalking im talking about is maybe the kind where a person just looks at the person they love without that person whom they love see them, you know, direct eye contact or something of sorts maybe.



I don't get what you mean sorry :[.

I was agreeing with Koko

[Koko]

Im not saying your wrong Koko and im not going to approach this conversation and turn it into a argument of opinions but i'll take a risk by saying that how else can someone approach another person so akawardly? friendships and/or relationships will always start out into some form of akawardnence maybe and i forgot to mention since this is important also that as long as nothing very bad comes out from the stalking, it should be alright right? the kind of stalking im talking about is maybe the kind where a person just looks at the person they love without that person whom they love see them, you know, direct eye contact or something of sorts maybe.

of course, there's always awkwardness but that doesn't
justify stalking
at all
what you described is not stalking
that is admiring from afar
stalking is invasion of privacy and boundaries and is not okay and really firetrucking creepy and is not 'okay' or 'natural' like i said.

[Iamkingdomhearts1000]

of course, there's always awkwardness but that doesn't
justify stalking
at all
what you described is not stalking
that is admiring from afar
stalking is invasion of privacy and boundaries and is not okay and really firetrucking creepy and is not 'okay' or 'natural' like i said.

Well, at any case, let's just help Kinode for now obviously, i don't want to fight over a simple matter of opinions with my friends.

I was agreeing with Koko

Oh okay, sorry for asking a maybe pointless question like that Axel_Lea_Lives_On.

Edited by Iamkingdomhearts1000, 29 April 2012 - 04:36 PM.

[Kinode]

what you described is not stalking
that is admiring from afar

Whew.

[4Everbee]

Meh I would go out with you.
And your not gonna give over him 1,2,3 it gonna take some time. And like LK said. Don't let this ruined you.