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[hatok]

It sounded like effort was made to me. His father stated that this was the last resort and his son was not listening. I could be wrong, considering that I don't know the kid or his father, but it looks as though the kid was just the class clown, who didn't care about his work. That's actually how it is a lot of the time. Not all the time, no, but a lot of the time. I know because it happened to me, as well. There were plenty of times throughout school, where I didn't care about the work, and I'm sure that if I went back to college, I still wouldn't. It has nothing to do with any complexities, it has to do with me being lazy and caring more about socializing with my friends and doing my own thing, than learning something that I didn't care to learn in the first place. This dad realized that the root of his son's problem, was that he wanted attention over an education. Well, if he used that "attention" to show his son that he needs to buckle down and work harder, then he figured it was the best way. I don't know about anyone else here, but I wasn't condemning him. I was saying that I feel like his father caught on to the ACTUAL problem and did something about it, in a non-violent and effective manner.

But that's the thing. It's only a problem if you view it as one. If the kid is the 'class clown' then he obvious wants to entertain people, so why not try to refocus this energy at something productive?
Things don't mesh for everybody, the father was just trying to standardize his son. Never mind that acting out almost always tends to stem from feelings of neglect, or who feel they lack recognition or praise. This is just the fathers brute force take on improving his son, when in this day and age it should have been ore about accommodation (And I don't mean letting the song do whatever he wants, I mean restructuring to ensure that the son can do things in a way that works for him, rather than rejecting him until he can fit into a society norm last seen with any relevance about 100 years ago.

[Ammish]

Technically that is child abuse. Just sayin.

[Rob]

Technically that is child abuse. Just sayin.

The son brought it upon himself to be abused. Just sayin.

[Xail]

wow a dad who cares
parents can take lessons from him

Edited by Roxas-FTW, 03 June 2012 - 09:01 PM.

[Ammish]

The son brought it upon himself to be abused. Just sayin.

Like women who deserved to be raped for revealing clothing, ammirite?

Two wrongs do not make a right, deary.

Edited by Ammish, 03 June 2012 - 10:20 PM.

[Sora's Little Helper]

Whoa.

Public humiliation as punishment, thank god my parents didn't think of something like that.

[AnsemTheWise]

I hate it when news things are videos. I only ever want to know a little bit, but then I have to wait through the whole thing and ads just to find out what the devil the story's about. (I was ranting about this last night and just had to wrap it up.)

On topic though, I can't even really consider this a punishment. My dad thought that if punishment wasn't physical or deeply personal, it wouldn't work.

[moonlightmidnight]

I think it's a great idea since some children want to fool around in school and ruin their opportunities to going to college and graduating with a degree.
I wish some students would list to there teachers and make wise choices. Though that is a very helpful way of proving that violence isn't always the answer to everything.

[Xalaru]

Every. Single. Time. I look at this title when scrolling down the threads, I read 'Son's' as 'Sora's'. I don't even know how, they don't exactly look overly similar at the end. ¬_¬
Anyway, although I doubt you'd ever see something like this in England (don't know why, you just wouldn't expect it to), it looks to be a pretty effective method... Daresay I wouldn't be agreeing to it if it were me in that boy's position though.

[Ertyx]

Every. Single. Time. I look at this title when scrolling down the threads, I read 'Son's' as 'Sora's'. I don't even know how, they don't exactly look overly similar at the end. ¬_¬
Anyway, although I doubt you'd ever see something like this in England (don't know why, you just wouldn't expect it to), it looks to be a pretty effective method... Daresay I wouldn't be agreeing to it if it were me in that boy's position though.

I know when I told my parents about it, they thought it was good parenting and when I agreed them, their first response was, "Are you kidding, if we had done the same to you, you'd have been pissed and you know it!" We laughed and I replied, "Of course I would, that's why its called a punishment!" lol

[Xalaru]

I know when I told my parents about it, they thought it was good parenting and when I agreed them, their first response was, "Are you kidding, if we had done the same to you, you'd have been pissed and you know it!" We laughed and I replied, "Of course I would, that's why its called a punishment!" lol

Haha, my family would probably say a similar thing if I mentioned this. xD Probably best not to say anything to them about this topic though, they'll approve of it too much. I don't wanna be the next person to end up like that guy. d:

[Ertyx]

Haha, my family would probably say a similar thing if I mentioned this. xD Probably best not to say anything to them about this topic though, they'll approve of it too much. I don't wanna be the next person to end up like that guy. d:

Good point. lol

[Rainbow Dash]

Thats firetrucking cruel as hell.

[Rob]

Like women who deserved to be raped for revealing clothing, ammirite?

Two wrongs do not make a right, deary.

Didn't know tough family love(a father going through lengths to help correct his young sons mistakes) = women(who I assume are not underaged) getting raped by unknown men because of their choice of clothing.

There's nothing wrong with what the father is doing. Try again sugar(please be female).

[Ammish]

Didn't know tough family love(a father going through lengths to help correct his young sons mistakes) = women(who I assume are not underaged) getting raped by unknown men because of their choice of clothing.

Low blow. Sounds like you are blaming the woman for being raped.

There's nothing wrong with what the father is doing.

There is. I mean seriously, we can go about it with so many things, but I like to question whether they sat down with the son, talked to the son and basically raised up their son better. I mean, we can pull this argument that the Dad tried very little things to keep his son in check and decide to go to an extreme to keep him in check by publicly embarrassing him?

Sure it probably worked. But what if it didn't? What's the next thing? Abuse?

You know what is being a good parent about? Setting an example.

[Rob]

Low blow. Sounds like you are blaming the woman for being raped.



There is. I mean seriously, we can go about it with so many things, but I like to question whether they sat down with the son, talked to the son and basically raised up their son better. I mean, we can pull this argument that the Dad tried very little things to keep his son in check and decide to go to an extreme to keep him in check by publicly embarrassing him?

Sure it probably worked. But what if it didn't? What's the next thing? Abuse?

You know what is being a good parent about? Setting an example.

Low blow? You forgot to put in bold "(who I assume are not underage)". Then again, you could have used an example with more sense. I can't be blamed for my response.

The father himself said that humiliating his son in public was a "last resort". Clearly, he tried something else if it was a last resort. Plus, the fact he doesn't want his son to be a "statistic" since he's black, makes me believe he tried. The parents could have raised the kid to be an angel, but when he leaves the house to go to school, he acts differently. The kid is not only embarrassing himself, but his parents also. There's only so much you can do at home as a parent. It's up to the kid to do the rest.

What is your view of abuse?(No need to say, technically I already know) I doubt it's the same as the fathers.

Setting an example? I doubt the father is still in school to show his kid how to act there. As I stated before: "There's only so much you can do at home as a parent. It's up to the kid to do the rest."