Why is everyone making excuses?
Posted 08 February 2012 - 07:00 PM
I have two brothers with autism--one with Aspergers, the other somewhere on the more severe end of the Spectrum, but he hasn't specifically been diagnosed with anything. They go to lots of autistic camps and went to a special school for pre-school and most of elementary school. I'm willing to say I don't know everything, but I know a lot about interacting and dealing with autistic children, so I can tell you this: EVERY TIME YOU SCREW UP YOU CAN'T BLAME IT ON THAT.
Maybe some mistakes are the result of it. I've seen Alex get unnaturally angry over things like getting an A- on a test. And that does partially have to do with the Aspergers. But it is not a catch-all thing. More often than not, the kids control the autism, and it doesn't control them. Therefore most decisions to misbehave are made in the part of the individual, and not usually influenced by there presence on the Spectrum. No one is perfect, meaning that not every single mistake can be blamed on being autistic. People need to face up to their actions and can't expect to blame everything.
Now everyone's a bit different, and they have different places on the Spectrum, but generally autistic children--especially ones with Aspergers--and quite smart. So, please, stop blaming everything on your autism because, chances are, that's not why you're doing what you're doing.
Posted 08 February 2012 - 07:10 PM
And to add on, people should not use any disability or traumatic experience to justify their actions.
It irks me so much when people blame their bad spelling on dyslexia or when people are just like 'DON'T BE MEAN TO ME, I'M DEPRESSED AND I CUT' or 'I WAS ABUSED AS A CHILD, STOP BULLYING ME'. It's understandable in some situations (people are triggering you, etc) , but most of the time, these people need to fess up that they are wrong and that their disability or anything else had nothing to do with their actions.
Posted 08 February 2012 - 07:11 PM
Edit: Nevermind I noticed he was faking as well. Well you answered my question, not really thats just one person xD
Posted 08 February 2012 - 07:29 PM
It was the same for myself at first. At one point, I acted like I was a virus to the world and shouldn't live among people because of what I have. Next moment, I act like I'm special and people should treat me as such because of what I have. I stopped and smartened up when I realized how wrong it was to treat people that way. It was as bad as how some neurotypicals manipulate and treat other people with disabilities.
We need help, yes. We're troubled and easily stressed out by the simplest of things. But that does not mean the world revolves around us. The world does not follow every Aspie or autistic's whim. Even ordinary people have wants and needs too. Which is why I abhor how people use, not just autism or Asperger's but any disability, as an excuse or use to manipulate those around them. Look at that turned out for me. Sometimes (behavior-wise) it's almost like I don't have it. Sometimes I still get these lapses where I act like a child and every now and then, I succumb to the symptoms. But it doesn't mean I'm not trying the best I can! I'm still learning myself. My level of maturity wavers all the time. Asperger's Syndrome/Austism isn't you, only a part of you. You choose where to go with it.
Posted 08 February 2012 - 07:56 PM
Posted 08 February 2012 - 08:01 PM
"YOU CAN'T BULLY ME I HAVE ASPERGERS" or "I HAVE AUTISM" isn't valid when you don't have those issues.
Especially those who decide to be 'emo' and then call themselves 'depressed' or 'misunderstood.'
Just stop it. My mom was diagnosed with depression when she was 18. It's something you have to take medication for. It's not something that just happens.
I myself suffer from mild Bipolar Disorder, but at least I can control myself, take responsibility for my actions and learn how to cope with my shit instead of blaming everything on it.
God. I'd like to go up to every person who claims to be 'special' and just tell them to grow up and get over themselves.
(All due respect to those who legit suffer from disorders or diseases like that, of course.)
Posted 08 February 2012 - 08:08 PM
Posted 08 February 2012 - 08:22 PM
Posted 08 February 2012 - 08:24 PM
Actually no. I've just seen it all over the place lately and it's getting on my nerves. At school especially, but quite often on the Internet, even on here a few times.
I'm guessing this topic has something to do with the other thread I started?
Posted 08 February 2012 - 08:42 PM
Posted 08 February 2012 - 11:03 PM
Get your act together, world! Or I'm blaming you next time.